I have a friend who has no emotions or feelings? My friend is like an ice block. How do you think someone..?

Question

becomes like that?

Answer 1

First of all, it is very unlikely that your friend has no emotions. In very extreme cases of brain damage a person may lose the ability to understand and express emotions, particularly with damage to the lower brain. A healthy person who chooses not to or feels unable to express emotions usually has had a traumatic incident in their life, such as the death of a loved one, particularly if it was unexpected or if they where abandoned by someone, like a parent. The person may be afraid to allow him/herself to "feel" for another person. They think that if they shut everyone out then they won't hurt when the person leaves.

It could also be that your friend is naturally withdrawn. Maybe you are very outgoing and expressive and your friend seems cold and detached when compared to you. Human emotions are a very tricky subject. Some think they are nothing more than the manifestation of chemical reactions in the brain, others believe it is what is in your "heart" (obviously not your blood pumping heart but the one we refer to when we feel something, which I guess is better described as your mind). Regardless, the best thing you can do is talk to your friend and let him/her know that you are there if he/she ever needs to talk. Sometimes time is the only remedy.

Answer 2

Through a lot of hurt and practice. I do not believe this person has no feelings I think that whatever he or she has been through has caused him or her to shield their emotions so that they give the image that they have no feelings. It is easier that way. No one wants to get hurt and when it happens and happens a lot you tend to shut down. But you are not shutting down your feelings you are shutting down your reaction to the feeling. It's like getting into the pool it is not that it isn't cold anymore once you have been in there for a while it is that your body has acclimated to the cold. Same thing. Some people in dealing with pain internalize it and shut people out they think that that means that they will not get hurt again. Believe me this person has feelings and they run deeper than the Nile. Unless there is some type medical problem. You know those people that have no sympathy, empathy or sense of right and wrong, the term escapes me. But if he/she is not one of those people they have feelings.

Answer 3

It's interesting that you call this person "a friend." I would think emotional sharing is part of friendship and he/she is incapable of that according to you.
Anyway people when they are hurt emotionally, sometimes they withdraw into themselves. They build barracades around their feelings so they can't be hurt again. If they work at it enough, their feelings are safe from outsiders. The feelings can even be locked away so deeply that the person doesn't realize they are there anymore.
This can happen when they are very young, or later in life.

Answer 4

I agree that there was probably some kind of childhood abuse. Your friend may have Acute Detachment Disorder, a psychological disorder. It usually happens when someone endures such great physical or emotional distress that they literally detach from their emotions in order to survive. Once those emotions are detached it is extremely difficult to recover to normal functioning

Answer 5

A lot of times its because that person has been hurt so much in their life (been through multiple tragedies, abuse, deaths, drug use) and so they shut off feelings to avoid further pain. It can take a long time before anyone is able to break through their shell and get them to let in love again. I hope your friend lets somebody in because being that way cannot be fun and it never really allow for true happiness either. Just be their friend, maybe you can be the one to crack their shell.

Answer 6

Trust me your friend does have feelings. He or she is hiding them deep inside. It could be from the way he/she was raised but most of the time its because of other kids treating him/her badly when younger or even now, or even by adults. Its easier to be hard, tuft,and feel nothing then to be hurt and feel bad all the time. He /she might have a low self esteem and may not like him/her self. It is ashamed, we learn how to deal with the hurts and distrust of our lives and go on with our live, to be a better person. He/she might not learn those lessons and find happiness because he/she has shut her feelings down. Hopefully in time he/she will be able to share their feelings.

Answer 7

He doesn't get angry? What if he hit his finger with a hammer or something similar; he just sits there? No yelling, cursing.

Only Mr. Spock can show no emotion. I think he doesn't frequently demonstrate the ones that you want him to. I'll bet he gets pissed off when you tell him he's an iceblock and ask bullshit questions like, "what are you thinking?"

Answer 8

When they have been hurt over and over by family or friends and they got to the point that they get numb and block their feelings off to the world. Basically situations in life will do it

Answer 9

Get to the bottom of it. Find out when the last time they were happy and what happened to cause them to change. Keep showing lots of love and care and always be a good friend. God Bless

Answer 10

I would guess that he got very little love as a child, BritLdy. He may have been scolded for showing excitement about toys, travel, whatever, and learned to hold his emotions inside so he would not be scolded.