There are so many divorces today - why? Do people rush into it because there's no time anymore or what? How do you know that you'll work(as in co-operate) together and love eachother for the rest of your lives through thick and thin? Do you have to have been through things together before? How can you be sure? It's such an incredible commitment.
2006-07-06 06:08:47 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I think if you can both happily go along with the relationship without marriage, THEN you are ready for marriage. IF that make sense! In other words, if ou know that can stay together without having to marry then you are ready for it. Too many people marry because they want to "hold one" to that person and that is no reason to marry. I love my partner soooo much and he love me and has said that he wants to be with me until the day he dies. But marriage is not going to change our feelings. It's just going to be a big load of hassle and expense that we really don't need.
I also think people that should really split up but don't want to admit it, get married as they think it will fix their relationships. It gives them something to talk about for a year or so!
2006-07-06 09:17:23 · answer #1 · answered by willowbee 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I dont think anyone really "knows" when they are ready. As you said though it is a huge commitment and too many people rush into it. When you are comfortable with the other person, you have a healthy relationship, you can talk to one another then it might be time. One thing nobody is pointing out and they never do before you get married which is why there are so many divorces, is that marriage takes work! From both individuals. so if your partner or yourself are not willing to stick with it and work through everything then it is not time.
2006-07-06 13:17:32 · answer #2 · answered by Southern Mo Man 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think all the divorces are a matter of a disposable mentality. The thinking that "if this one isn't working, I will toss it and get another" instead of trying.
Marriage is a hard thing. When they talk about "for better or for worse. For richer or poorer" They are NOT kidding! You need to be really sure that you are in for the long haul when you say "I do".
It's a commitment that needs to be honored and a connection that has to be worked on everyday. Communication is key and a sense of humor certainly helps! As for being sure - it's kind of like AA sometimes "One day at a time" ;)
2006-07-06 13:16:13 · answer #3 · answered by tequila_girl98 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you love the person and when you realize that even when the two of you get into a fight, you are still able to communicate and work it out together. I know that there are a lot of divorces but its the lack of effort that people truly put into the relationship. I can understand of you divorce because your spouse has cheated on you but any relationship needs work. When yo are dating you go through some hard times and good times. What makes a relationship strong is communication and being to talk to each other and work things out. If you develop that strong foundation when you are dating, then you should continue that strenght even through marriage.
2006-07-06 13:13:56 · answer #4 · answered by Maria32183 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will never find a person that you will completely "cooperate" with on a daily basis for the rest of your life. Marriage is about love, respect, teamwork, and a whole lot of compromise. The day that you find someone that you are willing to give up a few of your opinions for, for the sake of making the other person happy, and someone who is willing to do the same thing from time to time -- that is the person you need to marry.
2006-07-06 13:29:23 · answer #5 · answered by Jason S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pre-marriage counseling is the best idea. A counselor that knows what he/she is doing can be objective in seeing if the two of you are compatible. After the marriage, you still have to work on it every day. And remember that love isn't a feeling, its a commitment.
2006-07-06 13:24:03 · answer #6 · answered by wdg00 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been married Twice before and lived with a man for three years. They did not work because I did not take the time to be friends before. Now I am with the best man I could ever be with and we were friends a year before we started dating. He knows me and I know him. It is the greatest thing that could ever happen to anyone. It is true marry your best friend!!
2006-07-06 13:25:08 · answer #7 · answered by haltaddict 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you feel safe and protected when you are with him
When you are no longer interested in dating anyone else
When you have achieve your goals
When you are old and mature enough
When you have financial stability
When you have the feeling that he is "the one"
When you become domestic when you never wanted to be that way
When instead of being out clubbing you want to be with your guy at home just hanging out
Good luck
2006-07-06 13:19:09 · answer #8 · answered by Blunt 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you know youa re ready when you feel completely comfortable with that person and can't imagine being without them. I think it's wise to be together and really get to know each other first so that you don't have any surprises later on in life. You jsut have to trust your judgement.
2006-07-06 13:11:38 · answer #9 · answered by heatherdrake2005 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As it's been said, when you can't imagine life without someone.
Also remember, this will be the last person you will have sex with in your life.
Are ready for that?
2006-07-09 13:40:05 · answer #10 · answered by NightRider 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋