and he says he's separated and has been for almost two years and not sure what he wants to do about that situation. All the old feelings are still there, what's your next move?
2006-07-06 06:08:06 · 19 answers · asked by Dancer3d 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It never ended badly; timing has always been the issue as it is now, he has a family to consider.
2006-07-06 08:12:11 · update #1
I say keep in touch, but don't get involved until he has made a decision (and acted on that decision) regarding his current situation.
2006-07-06 06:12:48 · answer #1 · answered by KC 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The first thing you have to decide...what do you expect from this? Don't get your hopes up that he will divorce because of your rekindled love. If he says he's not sure what he wants to do about the separation,that means he's not ready to break things off. This is a disaster waiting to happen if you jump into bed with him (or begin seeing each other) before he has cut ties with his wife.
You may want to find out why they are separated- what's the story- and remember that all stories have two sides. Is he angry about it, relieved, or sad? With a relationship that is hanging on by a thread, things could go either way, and you have to decide if you want to get yourself in the middle.
Good luck!
2006-07-06 13:53:48 · answer #2 · answered by slcfirekitten 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I actually did this two years ago. My son's father came back into my life after his wife left him. We spent a wonderful weekend together. He asked me to go on a vacation with him to Vegas, wanted me to consider moving closer to him (he lives in a diff city), and I even thought about leaving my husband and children for him.
I thought the grass was greener...I thought I saw stars again after our 12 years apart. Yes, all of the chemistry was still there. We were still great together, but not in the real adult world. That was when I woke up! I remembered why his wife left him and why we didn't stay together. He has not changed. So remember why the love of your life was "the one that got away". Maybe it's better that way!
2006-07-06 17:29:48 · answer #3 · answered by SkiracrMom32 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the one that got away... the one you never ever forget and wonder "what if?" but then there must be a reason he got away all those years ago and married someone else... but this is a hard one for sure...im still friends with the one who got away or was it me who got away... still a highly debatable topic to this day, and i do love him I always will, but were not silly we know there is a reason love wasnt enough, that we didnt work out, hun if it broke the first time odds are it will happen again... and can you really bare to lose him again, be friends with him, because that person will always be your best friend. hell mines reckons he wants to be best man at my wedding... and he hasnt even met my fiance yet because i met and am living with him on the opposite side of the world..
good luck
2006-07-06 13:29:21 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, that depends...if you're not married, go for it. Meet him for lunch or drinks and "catch up on old times". If you're married, I think it's just playing with fire, especially if the marriage is a good one. The reason why you're so intrigued is that when we consider someone to be "the one that got away" there was unresolved emotions with that relationship...in other words, no closure.
2006-07-06 13:43:59 · answer #5 · answered by auntcookie84 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
start hanging around him...it takes some people a long time to want to get back in the saddle after a divorce, they cant trust anyone....you might findthat the old feeling are not really warranted, that you are actually reliving a past, that is cloudy the today, or it may be you both have been waiting for this....
get him out for happy hour one night...make a suggestions for dinner together maybe takeout chinese and see where it leads to
2006-07-06 13:33:18 · answer #6 · answered by vincenzo445 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would be a friend to him.I would find out why he got separated and if he still loves her.You don't want to get into a relationship with him if he still loves his wife.If he has not got a divorce because he don't know what he wants to do about that yet,That would tell me that he still loves her.I would only be his friend because i would not want to get hurt.I also would not want to be with him if he loves someone else.Does he have kids with her? Thats something else to think about.If he has kids with her than she will always be in his life.Can you deal with that knowing that he still loves her? Not me.Take care of your on heart and don't be anything but friends with him.
2006-07-06 13:24:29 · answer #7 · answered by TinkerBell 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait till he makes up his mind about getting out of the present marriage. Unless this happens, you're taking a chance of giving up your time and not receive much for it.
2006-07-06 13:19:20 · answer #8 · answered by msthinkpositive 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have lunch with him, just see what is new and get the whole story. Then when you find out if he's really done or not invite him to dinner or what not.
2006-07-06 13:21:11 · answer #9 · answered by Susan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
two years is a lot of time, i would give it a try, maybe he'll find out what he was missing all of these years, remember that everything happens for a reason!
2006-07-06 13:17:58 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋