this person is the one that got away, what do you do?
2006-07-06 06:02:37 · 17 answers · asked by Dancer3d 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It never ended badly, timing has always been an issue, as it is now. There is also a family to consider.
2006-07-06 08:15:19 · update #1
Im a girl I have to answer this Ive been with my man 4 years I use to date him 13 years ago when we were teenagers, we broke up cause he totaled my car and I never seen him again, Well he married and had kids and 10 yeasr after we split he ran into me he was already having problems with his marriage and going through a divorce well when he seen me we started dating after not seeing each other for 10 years and we totaly fell inlove with each other and ended up the best of friends we have been with each other for four years and very happy..
2006-07-06 06:08:18 · answer #1 · answered by italianprincess_fl 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Are you separated for good voluntarily??? Then file for a divorce and close one chapter before you open another. Don't look at every dangling carrot.
Why did you not marry the old flame in the first place? The old flame may even help you to unite if she truly loved you.
The important question is "what do you want?" I think you are confused and not sure. Reflect on your inner self NOT on the external characters.
2006-07-06 06:14:09 · answer #2 · answered by StraightDrive 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I felt the separation was a stepping stone to divorce, I would not hesitate being with an old flame. Any marriage that is in a state of separation is already in trouble. Go for it.
2006-07-06 06:09:44 · answer #3 · answered by choppercam1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First: finish off your separation. If you're going to reconcile, do it; if you're going to divorce, do it. What you should NOT do is divorce *because of* that other woman who got away; you made a commitment to your marriage, and if you're going to end it, your marriage -- not an old flame -- should be the reason why.
Second: once the divorce is final, start dating the old flame. Of course, she might no longer be available if you wait that long, or she might not want to date you. However, if you're followed my advice above, then you're divorced because your marriage wasn't reconcilable, NOT because of this other woman, and so you're no worse off.
2006-07-06 06:31:41 · answer #4 · answered by daveowenville 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My experience is that the one that got away, got away for a reason. If you have any hope of saving your marriage, leave this one alone. If you have no doubt that your divorce is destined to be final, go for it and have a little fun - but don't get any crazy ideas about your lost fish in the sea being your dream come true.
2006-07-06 06:24:32 · answer #5 · answered by Jason S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Start out as friends, and let this be the incentive to finally get the divorce.
Two years, come on, get divorced, see if the old flame works out and move on with your life.
2006-07-06 07:04:31 · answer #6 · answered by wn_all 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on the reason for the seperation and what the two of you worked out. Did you guys agree to see other people? Are you trying to make things work between you or is this just a stepping stone to divorce?
2006-07-06 06:09:25 · answer #7 · answered by willinkc 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
And your point is? Will it affect the divorce? No, It should not affect the divorce. You are big kids now. You want someone go get them. You should be careful not to make the same mistake twice however.
2006-07-06 06:16:02 · answer #8 · answered by quikzip7 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it is a trial separation, then fidelity is required. You cannot fix your marriage by looking elsewhere.
If it is a pre-divorce separation, then be honest about it and see her.
2006-07-06 06:07:17 · answer #9 · answered by Otis F 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im not saying how far you should go but if you dont start a contact she may fall out of sight again
2006-07-06 06:24:16 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋