THIS QUESTION IS FOR PEOPLE THAt ARE MARRIED?

Question

Does the love die???? or are there any people that have been married for more than 20 years, and are still in love???
do you thought the love you had for each other was so different to everybody elses, and thought that it was never going to end?

Answer 1

I think love and marriage is like a clock. He's the big hand, you're the little hand.

(Okay, I know it's a wierd analogy. But go with me here...)

Sometimes you're together (like 12 o'clock or 6 o'clock) - sometimes he's at the bottom of the circle and you're at the top. Sometimes you're at a 3 and he's at a 9.

But the nature of the circle and the movement means you're always together sometimes. That's the cool part. When it happens, I call that the "super love" time. When you're all cuddly and luvy.

The apart time is when you really can't stand each other. When you look at him and think, "No way I can look at this person for the rest of my life."

When you think of your marriage as a cycle of ups and downs (like the clock thing I just mentioned) it's easy to see that you always come back around to the in-love times.

I've learned in almost 10 years of marriage that perfection doesn't exist.

Look at the ups and downs as part of the roller coaster ride - you love each other, you're committed to each other, it's never going to be the storybook romance everyday.

Have you tried reconnecting with him by doing things you used to do 20 years ago? Visit the same restaurants, go on the same "dates," make out behind the high school if you have to!

Answer 2

You have to work at love and marriage. It doesn't just come every day without issues and problems as any other relationship. No, the love doesn't die... I've been with my husband 15 years (married 7) and I am still "in" love with my husband, but there are times when I just want to throw him through a wall too... :p haha

Yes, I like to think our love is different than every one else, but isn't that what makes it special? And I know that our love will never end, even if we were to come to an ending, I would love him forever....

So I hope that answers your question.

Answer 3

I haven't been married for twenty years, but I have been married for almost nine years, and I swear to you that we are more in love today then we were the day we got married. Our feelings for each other just get stronger.
I'm not trying to make it sound like everything is perfect in our lives, no marriage is, but I know that everything we have been through has only made us stronger. We have children together, and they have also made our life together even better. I have no desire to be with anyone but him, and I honestly believe that will never change. I was only 24 when I married him, but I knew he was the one forever!
I feel this way because I was in other relationships before I married my husband, and I know that even though some of those relationships were good and even lasted a while, they had something missing.
My parent's will be married for forty seven years in December, and my in-laws will be married for forty seven years in February, and both my parent's and my in-laws are still very much in love and it shows. I hope my husband and I can be that kind of inspiration to our children and their spouses someday!
I think as long as you have trust , love, support and believe in each other, you can make it last a life time. But both people have to be willing to work at it.

Answer 4

the way i understand it, love, like any of our many different behavioral patterns, fluctuates.so i think it goes the same with our love to another.That goes to marriage. What is important therefore is our respect for each other should always be constant.Another important aspect is, are we similar in many factor, do we get along well, are we in harmony?
So i think a marriage based on love is easily extinguish as we can easily fall in love with the next person around who likes us or pamper us with attention.While a marriage that develops out from frienship has a better chance to survive. I don't know if it is right to say "love your lover, but marry your friend." or better love and marry your friend.
I read somewhere that marriages among hindus who have compatible zodiac signs and live together without love tends to have more stable relationship than those in the western culture or anywhere else that marry because of love.. The love just grows within their union.

Answer 5

Marriages aren't always happy in the short-term, even if they are in the long term. Marriages take work, and there will be times you don't like your partner very much, or even hate them. However, if you respect each other and have a genuine affection for each other, you'll be able to go much longer than twenty years, and be happy 99% of the time.

My wife and I are past seven years so far, and while we have an occasional fight or issue, we're still going strong, and love and respect each other very much. My parents have been together for more than 40 years, and my wife's grandparents have long since passed their 50th anniversary -- and you never saw two people so much in love, even now.

As for your love being different...well, yeah! I should think so. Nobody on earth is exactly like you, or like your partner, so together you make a unique combination. The way you love each other, respect each other and care about each other should be unique, strong, and firmly dependent on who you are as individuals and as partners.

Does that mean you won't have problems? Nah, even the best marriages do, but if you love and respect each other, you'll get through them.

Answer 6

Sure, there are people who took each other for granted and didn't nurture their love relationship--- then there are the ones who got married for kicks --- you can see examples of that in Hollywood or maybe you know people who have done this....
I know many couples who have been married for more than 20 years to the same spouse and they love each other very much....and I have friendships with these couples --- they really give me encouragement and guidance in making my own marriage all it should be---- I've been married for nearly 4 years and I would say that my husband is still the best and our relationship continues to deepen as the years go by----

Answer 7

I believe that the love can die for people that eventually see that they want different things in life and there life takes them on different paths. I think that some people are meant to be together and there are things that they share that compliment eachother and mix together so well. I believe that you really have to know someones personality and there goals in life or your never gonna last. It all depend on how the couple bonds because being there bestfriend is very important because you know eachother and how to react to situations and deal with your significant other in all aspects of the relationship. I am married and I have to tell you- the love has died for many reasons- mainly because we didnt know eachother like we should and when my husband left for Iraq we both did things that were unacceptable and we have drifted our seperate ways. They always say "out of site- out of mind" and thats pretty much happened between me and my husband. I do believe that being with the right person- that love can last a lifetime- but in alot of cases the love dies before it really even gets started.

Answer 8

I thought it was different and never going to end(young and naive)then he was emotionally abusive and after 8 yrs of neglect and put downs(staying because I thought I had to for better or worse) the love died. We are no longer together and he is being rude instead of trying to win me back. Even though he said he didn't want a divorce he is the one wanting everything separated and over ASAP.

I hope someday to find a caring and understanding man that I can say we are still in love after 20 years.

Answer 9

The love doesn't die. You form a stronger bond (assuming you are with the right person) Yes, you may have time where you feel like there's no excitement anymore... but you keep it exciting. Don't let it get old fast. Trust each other, love each other, support each other and you'll have a great marriage. Marriage is not all peaches and cream. It's work. Well worth it if you work together at it. :)

Answer 10

I have been in relationships that have gone on for many, many years...stopped ONLY when the other could not stay home .... and even then, it took some serious consideration to end the relationship. In the end, it came down to possibility of HIV and Hep C contagion. Does love last? Absolutely if you keep it alive..but it takes constant work, imagination, ... and along the way, the work becomes fun. Just because you see so much here about divorce does not mean that is standard...it is up to YOU to keep love alive and kicking, along with lust. Good luck.