I am 27 and live in a small 1 bed apt. My mom is coming to visit from CA and will be staying with me for a few days, sleeping on my futon in the living room. Do you have any sugestions on how to make her feel more compfortable staying with me though it's not what she is used to? What you like when you stay with someone?
2006-07-06 05:57:38 · 17 answers · asked by sofun 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I give her the futon (don't worry, it is a mattress futon with springs) becuase she likes it better-my bed is too soft and hurts her back.
2006-07-06 08:48:28 · update #1
i nice blanket and pillow fresh coffee with real cream is a good brekfast treat and maybe some muffins
a flower next to her bed on a small table with a glass for water and a place for her things and a few good paperbacks and the lite moved where she can reach it from the bed and read by it and a selection of cds
telling her you are glad she is there
nice soap and a towel put out for her
2006-07-18 07:30:15 · answer #1 · answered by nora7142@verizon.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Firstly, if it's your mom, I think that it would be more suitable to let her have your bed and you sleep in the living room. I mean, you guys may have a great relationship and she might not mind sleeping on the futon, but if you want to make her comfortable, give up your bed. She's not living there forever and it will make her feel more at home if she has a bed to sleep in and not a futon.
Another way to make her comfrotable is not to treat her like a guest but like your mom. I mean, let her know that she can go in the fridge if she's hungry, make some coffee in the morning and just talk. Don't let the idea of discomfort even be an issue while she's there. She should be too busy having a good time and enjoying your company and hospitality to notice that her environment isn't what she's used to.
2006-07-06 06:08:29 · answer #2 · answered by Subira 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Start with the basics. Make sure that she has a place to put her suitcase, hang her clothes if she needs to and a part of the bathroom counter for her toiletries. Put out fresh towels for her.
Also - try to make sure that a couple of things that she likes to eat or drink are there. If she drinks a special kind of soda, make sure that you have some in your fridge.
Bottom line - just RELAX and enjoy her company when she is there. My sister gets spastic when Mom visits her and Mom ends up going home exhausted.
BTW - Do you think she might be more comfortable in your bed instead of the futon? It's a thought - they are pretty hard...
2006-07-06 06:04:54 · answer #3 · answered by tequila_girl98 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I like to make sure I put out towels in the bathroom for guests and anything they need,,,keeps them from looking through your stuff and that can't be comfortable to anyone. Also I would give them my bedroom and I would take the futon...that's just me. This also makes them go to bed at a reasonable time if you have work the next morning. If you have to be at work and they are at your house, get some food in there for them to eat and muchies too...you should know your mother's tastes there. If not, ask. Make sure they know how to use the remote control & make sure the house is clean. If you are going to be able to spend time with her, plan an outing or 2 for you doing something you know SHE likes to do. Take her to a restaraunt you know she will like that serves something she really likes. MAKE HER FEEL WELCOME.
2006-07-06 06:06:17 · answer #4 · answered by Debi L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well first of all...give her your bed! hello a futon? for your mom? come on now. its only a few days you can spare your comfort for her. wash the sheets and pillow cases so its nice and fresh when she climbs in after her flight.
make sure she has fresh towels as well cause she might want to take a shower when she comes. if not its still there for later.
make sure you carry her suitcases from the airport to the car, from the car to the house. insist!
you are also in charge of food. offer her a drink, food, ask what she would like to eat. etc. under no circumstances is she required to make dinner for you. keep in mind though..some moms do enjoy cooking. so figure out how your mom is. if she is like that..still make every effort to provide all meals. preferably by you!! and not take out. oh and pay for everything!!! insist on this too.
oh and most importantly...dont' leave her alone at home!! its true spending 24hrs with someone is tiring..but you can't leave her home alone with nothing to do. suggest an outing she would prefer to do alone and give her some spending money...maybe drop her off at the mall on your lunch break if you work. or a library, or bookstore. somewhere she could kill a couple of hours and choose to window shop if she likes.
try to include her in as many activities as you can. she is your guest and your first priority now. there's nothing worse than visiting someone who does nothing to change their routine and just drags you along their everyday errands. go get a pedicure/manicure together, go to a movie, play, concert, massage, whatever you think she'll enjoy.
remember when someone visits you, especially someone older, its not about you at all. its all about them. you have to essentially cater to their every needs and be respectful at all times. so if your mom bugs at any point in this trip which is very likely to happen...suck it up and shut up. she's only here for a couple of days and you want her to enjoy it, even if you don't a little. you want her to want to come back right?
good luck with the visit!!
2006-07-06 06:12:32 · answer #5 · answered by reemsh_2003 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i like a little personal space... have a little 2 or 3 drawer dresser that doubles as a bedside table just for her things.... add a small vase of her favorite flowers and small lamp then let her do whatever she likes with her space. put some of your things away in the bathroom to make space for a few of her personal things also. if you have the space clear out some if your closet (maybe put away some of your winter clothes) so she can hang a few of her things too. these things will make her feel less like and guest invading your space and more like a "roomie" with both of you having your personal space. if you really want to go the extra mile.... purchase a bathrobe and matching slippers just for her, or maybe a pretty new towel, or pretty new throw blanket for her futon/bed.
good luck and have fun
2006-07-06 06:07:37 · answer #6 · answered by Patti B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have fun.Show her around to your fav. places. Be you! she didn't come to visit an up tight( unless you are then no offense to everything i say) neat fidgety person she came to visit her son. Make her breakfast ( or take her out) take her out for lunch or dinner.Talk to her about life and her life. Spend time with her.See if there is anything that she wants to go see or do. Watch her kind of movie with her. Do something to show you love her the way you did when you where a kid.
2006-07-18 18:46:53 · answer #7 · answered by Angelina T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey, this is your mom. YOU sleep on the futon and make your bedroom available to her.
Hide anything before she gets there that could be embarasing or whatever.
2006-07-06 06:04:24 · answer #8 · answered by murkglider 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
fake... we adore having visitors over for BBQs and events. nonetheless... we purely do it as quickly as a month. we live out interior the rustic, so that's severe-high quality to be certain human beings... we'd desire to pass an entire week without seeing all people different than the guy from the milk cooperative who comes by employing to purchase our grant. we are going to be having our annual Memorial Day Weekend BBQ on Sunday... 40 5 visitors which incorporate 2 households who'll be employing 2 hundred+ miles and spending the weekend in our customer cabins.
2016-12-10 05:28:16 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I always make sure that I have all their favorite foods & drinks, even if it is something I usually do not use. I also try to keep things on hand that they may need but may have forgotten like extra toothbrushes & things. That way they do not have to run out to get them when they first arrive or wait until someone is going out to pick it up for them.
2006-07-06 06:07:09 · answer #10 · answered by Selkie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋