before we got married it was PERFECT! now that we are married she makes sex a routine and oral is out of the picture...she doesn't even want me to go down on her. im clean, i shave for her because she wanted me to... should i just give up and run away from sex like al bundy?
2006-07-06 05:52:26 · 21 answers · asked by lopezjb007 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It's time to introduce toys into your sex life. Go to www.xandria.com and purchase a clitoral stimulator for your wife. If she enjoys it, perhaops you could ask to accompany that good sensation by performing orally on her. Then, when your sex life has improved, ask her to give you a "professional." Or, if this doesn't work, next time she initiates sex, tell her your not in the mood. Do this for about 1-1 1/2 weeks. Then, when she requests for sex again, tell her you want her to perform orally on you before you perform intercourse. Women control men with sex all the time. Give her a taste of her own medicine, and take back control of your sex life.
2006-07-06 06:00:13 · answer #1 · answered by adjoadjo 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Give it some time, maybe you have been pushing the issue, and that can be a turn off big time. Don't sweat her about it, just be a good boy and have some patience. She will come around, women like a chase too. No matter how long it takes, don't come to her with " I waited two weeks what about it" that will blow it. Just wait it out and forget about it. She could be burnt out right know. That does happen, that's why they preach sex after marriage, you would not of had this problem. I am not here to judge, just take this advice. You should be okay love, trust and be patient. Give it a month, I know a long time for you but may not be enough for her. At the end of that month do something special dinner and a nice hotel room with some extras, and see what happens. Even then don't push it, she should be all over you like glue, diving for gold, lol. I will pray for you, hehe good luck and much love.
2006-07-06 06:06:23 · answer #2 · answered by nina_ross692000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you should start out by being open and honest with her- ask her why she honestly doesn't like it and why she makes sex a chore. Listen to what she says and go from there. Maybe she is just bored with the sex and she doesn't like the way you go down on her. Try rekindling your love for each other by having the house alone for the two of you and be more romantic and passionate. Suggest things that you never tried and do them! It sounds like you want to please her but find other ways to do so- maybe some foreplaying or even roleplaying. You dont want to rush anything with her so make sure you have all the time to take your time on her. Treat her like a queen and she will remember all the things that turned her on to you when you first met. Be creative and have her give you some ideas of things she wants to do as well. does she prefer sex over love making because they are two different things in my eyes. Try not just being physical with her to do it and get it over but enjoy and be as one. Have the emotional bond as much as the physical bond. good luck to ya
2006-07-06 06:43:54 · answer #3 · answered by jucee2283 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Al Bundy is a stud!!! You need to break her out of her routine. Maybe you are not romancing her enough. Maybe she is tired, and sick of your bullshit. You should try and change the things that happen in daily life like helping more with the kids, cleaning house, and pamper her. If mama is happy most everyone else is happy too.
2006-07-06 05:59:37 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've forgotten how to romance her.
Ask her out on a date - do the non-sexual activities that you did together when you dated. Find out what she likes to do now - women change, so you have to keep getting updates from her time to time to keep things fresh. (yeah, just like software)
Call her at work, or slip a short love note into her briefcase, lunch bag, pants or jacket pocket so she will find it during the day. Do little things that she likes. Help her keep your place clean and picked up. Cook and then wash the dishes.
Don't throw any of this into her face if she does not respond - it may take time for her to warm up to you.
Just you two go on a weekender or overnighter every 6-8 weeks.
2006-07-06 08:00:09 · answer #5 · answered by Wolf 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give up and run away like Al Bundy. It's over buddy.
2006-07-06 06:16:07 · answer #6 · answered by DapperDan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sucks for you man. Right now it just might be the oral thats out the door, next inline might be sex all together.
You might not know how to get her in the mood for oral sex, you just cant ask. Make her feel sexy, then do little things that will lead to that.
2006-07-06 05:59:28 · answer #7 · answered by Eli 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like she did what she had to do to "bag" you, and now that you're married she's changing the rules. I wouldn't run away from sex, I'd run away from HER and find a lady who loves oral as much as you do - they're out there!!
2006-07-06 08:48:45 · answer #8 · answered by jerryg1212 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How long have you been married? Kids? How old are you? Does it really make sense to conceive of a life without sex?
It is said that in marriage, "the wife seeks to please the husband, and the husband his wife." You sound like you are obviously interested in pleasing your wife. She isn't interested in pleasing you sexually. Is she interested in pleasing you? This is the key test of a good marriage. If not, think of leaving - life is too short and precious.
2006-07-08 08:48:00 · answer #9 · answered by robabard 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats why women consider their wedding day as the happiest day of their life. No more oral sex
2006-07-09 11:06:29 · answer #10 · answered by chetahbill 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋