2006-07-06 05:49:59 · 20 answers · asked by hsirt40t 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Leave. Yes, you might be a following Christian but your in an abusive relationship, its not healthy. You never have to stay!
2006-07-06 05:54:32 · answer #1 · answered by menice 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not necessarily. There are certain criterias that meet the idea of divorce or seperation from your spouse. One of those is abuse, whether verbal, emotional, or physical. A woman should NOT have to deal with that! Have you tried talking to your husband about how you feel or offered counseling with a pastor or outside source? These are all things to consider. If you can try to make it work out without the abuse, but if it continues and your husband refuses help, then YES you can leave. Our GOD is an all loving, all understanding, all forgiving GOD who loves us despite everything else!
2006-07-06 12:58:36 · answer #2 · answered by Tina S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To answer your question you have to do everything possible to work out your problems in your marriage but if those problems are unreconcilable then it is best for you to leave. No person should be another person's emotional doormat. Your vows say that he should love, honor , and cherish you. It is not love noor honorable and he is not cherishing you if he is cutting down your self esteem and emotionally taking advantage of you. You first tell him about your feelings, try to discover why he does this, go to counseling together or perhaps talk to your pastor, pray and ask God to help the two of you and to help you heal. Then if nothing seems to work you walk away.
2006-07-06 13:03:44 · answer #3 · answered by missconduct 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no hunny! im a christian woman married to a man who was physically, verbally, emotionally and mentally abusive. he has changed alot because of alot of prayer and the miracle of god. however he still has those tendencies. i don't recommend that you stay. You have biblcial grounds for divorce. you can be seperated and still try to restore your marriage. i would go to someone in the church (pastor, elder etc.) tell them the situation and ask for counseling asap. in the mean time if you have kids and are concerned for their as well as your well being then you need to leave and explain to your husband that you are willing to restore your marriage while apart. if you isn't willing then go for counseling yourself. don't let him munipulate you either. this is a decision between you and God. and it takes alot for an abusive man to change completely. but it is possible!! pray, pray, pray about your decision and seek Gods wisdom through his word. It is okay for you to leave. many blessings to you hun.
2006-07-06 12:58:53 · answer #4 · answered by toni h 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What does being a christan woman have to do with abuse? You know the answer. The church puts rules on marriages, God wants you to be happy, not abused. Wake up and get your head out of the Bible.If you believe in God, you know that he/she will respect you more if you leave rather than stay. Sorry if that is not the answer you wanted to hear.
2006-07-06 12:55:55 · answer #5 · answered by Bob D 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been there. Try counseling, yes sometimes it helps, but he's going to have to want to change. For 11 years, I put up with verbal and emotional abuse, then it turned physical, which tends to be the pattern, If you have children, you have to ask yourself, "Is this what I want them to see?" "Do I want them to grow up thinking they are worthless?" I am fighting this battle with my children right now. They watched how he treated me and they didn't realize that thats not how its supposed to be. God does not tell us to stay in relationships that are abusive. Depending upon you interpretation of the Bible, some even remarry. I have, To a wonderful christian man.
2006-07-06 13:12:25 · answer #6 · answered by Jackie B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have given your all to the marriage and he is not vowing his vows to love and honor you, then leave. Have you tried therapy with or without him? Honestly, I'd have some hesitation about leaving until you've tried every last ditch effort. But after that...leave. I'm a Christian and take marriage and the vows very seriously. We just went through a 5 week "Extreme Marriage" series at my church. It was very eye-opening.
I wish the very best for you. If you are interested in listening to the series, either alone or with your spouse, email me and I'll get you the info. It was for people who are about to be married, married, getting divorced or divorced....so...EVERYONE!
2006-07-06 17:03:58 · answer #7 · answered by iam1funnychick 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do you have to stay?
If your marriage is abusive, you should leave. If you have children, however, try marriage counseling first, because (a) he's not physically abusive, so you and your children are not in actual danger, and (b) you owe it to your children to try and make a go of it -- but that doesn't mean "keep trying without changing anything", and so counseling will help you change things.
2006-07-06 13:01:03 · answer #8 · answered by daveowenville 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go have a long talk with your Preacher/ clergy man. He should be able to give you Biblical advice. He also can talk to your husband and maybe through counseling and God's grace he can change. If He won't change the get some counseling for your self and pray about it God will help you know what is best.
2006-07-06 18:17:13 · answer #9 · answered by AlwaysRight 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't have to anything but if something is broken in your relationship then it needs to be fixed not left behind..speak up..let your husband hear that its not acceptable to be emotionally abusive and it has to stop, seek counseling or work things out between the two of you...good luck.
2006-07-06 12:56:18 · answer #10 · answered by Goodspeed 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋