Me and my grandma were talking about pre martial sex! I told her i wasn't gonna have sex until marriage then we got farher into the dessoucion and went into raping i said that a guy shouldn't care if you get raped cauz it aint your fault! Then my grandma said that if you get raped no guy wants to marry you! I am freakin out now becauz i usually walk all over town to get to my friends house!! I want to get married when i get older! Will guys still marry chicks that have been raped or even sexual abused!
2006-07-06 05:37:18 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Guys who are worth it, won't care. So if they have a problem, they don't deserve you anyway.
And yes, please take care of yourself.
2006-07-06 05:43:42 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Your grandmother (no offense) is living in the past. Back in her time (I'm assuming) it was a dishonor/shame on a girls/womans family if she was raped. I guess she's believes people still "throw the baby out with the bath water" In some cultures it still considered a shame.
When you're blessed with an loving, supportive and understanding man who asks to marry you, it will be out of love and respect and a deep sense of commitment to loving you as a "whole" person. Everyone that passes through this life will have experiences that are both positive and negative. A true "man" who loves you will not see that one negative experience you've had as being a reason not to marry you. However, if a person has not healed, from that experience they should make every effort to seek counseling/therapy because it could have a negative impact on their marriage or what their feel about sex within the confines of the marriage. Obviously, you should be careful and alert no matter where you travel, but be calm and don't be stressed.
2006-07-06 12:52:00 · answer #2 · answered by 247 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes.
my current gf was raped, it is there in the back of my mind, i know that someone has done that to her, but i LOVE her so much, that it doesn't matter.
like you said, she couldn't help it.
you shouldn't hold something against someone that they couldn't help.
i don't mean to insult your grandma, but she has absolutely no right to tell you some load of crap like that.
it is not true.
there are guys out there that would still marry you.
if they truelly love you, they will be able to get over that, and not let it trip them up.
but make sure you let them know if you have been before the relationship gets to deep.
you just have to find the right guy, who will accept and love who you are on the inside, and not worry about something like that.
there is no changing it, it has already happened, so the only thing to do is to get over it and accept the girl. if i had broke up with the girl i am with now when i found out that she had been raped, i would have been making a huge mistake. she is the best thing that has ever happened to me.
i can understand why guys would not want to be with a girl that had been raped, but personaly, i think they should just get over that, and give them a chance anyways.
so don't listen to your grandma on this one.
there are guys out here that will still marry a girl if whe has been raped.
and be carefull. if you can heop it, don't walk alone. especialy not at night or in bad neighborhoods.
be carefull.
2006-07-06 12:54:45 · answer #3 · answered by my_name_is_what 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't let that worry you. If you get a good man, he'll accept whatever had happened in your past, if you even decide to tell him. I agree with you, it wouldn't be your fault. Your grandma was only telling you this because she's concerned about that happening to you. She may be right.....so just becareful.......ok? Also remember this.....your grandma didn't get old by being a fool....so if you can, try to tap into some of her wisdom. Especially recipes that you may like....because when she'll pass away, then they'll be lost forever. Best of luck to you..........
2006-07-06 12:45:13 · answer #4 · answered by cajunrescuemedic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
of course it wont, a woman that's experienced rape still has the same chance of finding a man and getting married as she did before she experienced her rape ordeal. Rape wont have any effect on the way men see her but it might have a great effect on the way she sees men and its this that may cause her to delay or refusal of men and marriage. x
2006-07-06 12:59:00 · answer #5 · answered by odette 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes. but if you are worried about getting raped quit walking all over town alone, take a self defense class, and carry mace or pepper spray.
2006-07-06 18:26:17 · answer #6 · answered by AlwaysRight 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
chill girl !!!! you are so worreid about a terrible thing that has not happen and most probably wont happen at all... And guys Dont care about these thing... they care bout the person they are about to marry...
all the best
2006-07-06 12:42:17 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeh, definetly ,a caring person does.
2006-07-06 12:44:08 · answer #8 · answered by Ani 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont listen to your grandma , she is wrong , men will still marry you
2006-07-06 12:42:32 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The right one will still want you.
2006-07-06 12:56:11 · answer #10 · answered by Cindy in Bama 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why wouldnt they thats stupid my step mom was abused sexually and she got married to my dad
2006-07-06 12:41:59 · answer #11 · answered by sweet_dancer872001 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋