mean friend.......???

Question

My bff is now bein really mean to every1, she has changed alot....
she acts better than every1 an hangs around w/ ppl who r normally nice, but her influence turns them into bitchs. i dont wanan see her again....but she wants to see me, i dont wanan be a ***** cuz i hanged w/ her.....help!!!!!!

i am in 7th grade.......

Answer 1

I am guessing that you are young, in high school? This sort of thing happens all the time with girls. I wish I could tell you its gets better but some girls will always be catty and think they are better than everyone else. What you do in this situation is talk to her first. Get some balls and say something like this

"Hey, I don't know if something is going on or what because you used to be pretty cool and now all of sudden you are acting like a total ***** to everyone. No one thinks its cool except you and few of your friends. Is everything ok? You just seem so angry. If you have problem don't take it out on me or anyone else. Id like to be friends but if you are going to be a ***** to everyone then count me out. I dont want people thinking I am like that."

Its doesnt have to be exactly like that but you need to be clear and firm. Be prepared for her to get defensive and she may talk smack about you after that and spread rumors if she is really as mean as you say she is. Girls can be real catty and mean. If she is cool then maybe she will realize it and try to be better. Long story short you dont need friends like that. And remember to always stnad up to the bitches, they only walk all over people who LET them.

Answer 2

I think it's time to sit down and have a chat with this friend. Tell her exactly the same thing you have stated in your question. I find it interesting that she seems to have an effect on other people but not you. That means you have a strong nature and not easily swayed by other people. So telling her your concerns about your friendship might mean more coming from you. Maybe she is not really aware that she has changed so much. It could be that she has chosen to be around weak people that she can tell what to do. This makes her feel powerful. But it's the wrong way to go and you see this.
Have a talk with her. Tell her what you see. If she doesn't want to change her bad habits then you need to find a friend that is as strong as you are. Sooner or later, if you don't do something now, you and she will get into one helluva argument cause you are not going to be her puppet and the friendship will end anyway. It all boils down to how much she values your friendship.

Answer 3

Guess you don't need this girl in your life anymore. Ask her over to your house and then sit down with her and tell her exactly what you said here. Explain that the changes in her personality prevent you from feeling like a true friend. Maybe she has a reasonable explanation - but probably not. She could be doing these things without even realizing the hurt feelings she gives to others. When you bring her 'meanness' to light, she could possibly go back to the way she was. Good luck - it's hard to lose someone you really like as a friend.

Answer 4

By the looks of your grammar and spelling, your either in middle or high school (hopefully middle). No offense, just an observation.

At your age, friends and influence are constant in your world, but fortunately, the significance won't be forever. Bottom line, be yourself, stay true to who you are, and stand firm about the things you believe in. It doesn't matter what other people think, or what other people do. Have fun and enjoy life, on your terms.

And yes, this will all make sense one day and you'll realize it's truth. So why not believe it now?

Good luck!

Answer 5

Mean friends may be a call for attention and help. Try to encourage her to face her real problems. Ask her what they are? Give her a few choices. Are you like this because you want everyone to leave you alone? Or are you like this because you think it makes you look better than others? To try to appear superior to others means you are on a (psychological) ladder for your self esteem. You try to get up the ladder of people in anyway you can and toss junk down on the lower people on the ladder.

Remember this ladder will always have someone higher than you in some way. Their junk is coming down on her.
Is that what she wants? or does she just want out of this kind of vertical relationship and have one on the ground ( called a horizontal relationship).

This means you meet people one on one with respect and caring. It means no more putting others down or caring if another puts you down... If they do the answer would be to walk away.

Come back a few times to see if they want a respectful relationship then if answer is NO walk away totally they are toxic on that ladder.
Good luck

Answer 6

Since you really feel that your friend has changed, talk to her about it. Be honest and speak your mind. If she not willing to listen to you, find a new friend. Nobody should be judged just because they're hanging out with someone who is really mean. The only person that can define you is you. You don't need this negative person in your life. Friends should be a positive influence, NOT a negative one. Do what is best for you.

Answer 7

Try making some new friends! Sometimes the best way to get away from mean friends is to hang with new and nicer people! It works! Becuse you get so caught up in doing stuff with your new friends that you drift away from the old friends! Or maybe tell her off and go find someone else to hang with! If all else fails try talking to a parent or family member. Sometimes they have personal experience!

Answer 8

Negative people just zap your energy and bring ya down.You need to distance yourself from this person.If she really is a friend than she would understand the negative effect sheis having on you.There are just gray enities out there that thrive on makingothers miserable and the best thing to do is walk away.

Answer 9

OH MY GOD!!!! That is completely and utterly just like me. My wonderful best friend for 7 years turned into a complete bully and turned every1 into b*tches. She can't stand anything unless it's HER way. Seriously, don't let her change you. If she wants to be a total b*tch, let her be. Just keep thinking you don't want to be like her.

Answer 10

Tell her the honest trueth.
You used to be a real friend now your a fake *****
lose the act and maybe your real friends will still be there for ya when these fake asses ditch you out.