is it bad?

Question

my friend is 14 and she is dying to have a baby i keep telling her that its not good to have a baby at this age cause her parents would flip anf their not in a very good situation right now and i dont know what else to tell her

yeha we have those babies in my parenting class their really annoying maybe i should try that! thanks guys!

Answer 1

Unfortunately your friend is dying to have a baby because she wants something to love in place of not feeling loved herself. Being mature enough to know that takes a lot of growth and I pray you can be there to help see her through this time. My best advice, find an awesome youth group through a church where you can go and find someone to talk to. This is a time where help is something you need to search out. And prayer, prayer changes things, please keep your friend in prayer! Blessings and best wishes =)

Answer 2

Sit her down, and make her realize how hard it's going to be. Tell her it will be difficult to care for a baby, they need so much attention. My best friend had a baby when she was 15 years old, and it is very difficult on her. She can't do the things that she wants like going out with friends whenever you want, she always has to look for a baby-sitter. Also, she is still living with her parents and younger brother. She doesn't even have a job. And when she had her baby girl, the father wanted nothing to do with her and the baby, and now she's really mad and is constantly trying to look for a father for her baby, which in my opinion is sad. And when we do go, we end having to pay for everything because she can't afford any without a job. So, what I am trying to say, it's a very serious decision she will have to make, tell her she should talk it over with her parents. Well, good luck.

Answer 3

Ask her how she would support the baby. How would she buy diapers for it and clothes and food. Ask her if she would be a stay at home mom (You need saved money to do this) or if she would send it to daycare everyday and have someone else raise it. Don't let her think that she can dump this baby on her parents all the time either. They don't want to be parents of a little baby, they want to be grandparents! If she wants to be a good parent, then she needs to think about the baby, not just about herself. Tell her to wait until she has graduated high school, has a job, money saved, and is in a committed relationship with the father. And by committed, I mean married! She has plenty of time to have children and all the responsibility that comes with it. A baby changes everything.

Does she like to have her nails done? She won't have time with baby. Does she like to do her hair and make up and go out with friends? She won't have time for that either. Appeal to what she likes to do and let her know that she won't have time or the energy to do it. Not for a couple years at least. Good luck.

Answer 4

It is bad!

It is a responsibility to have a baby. It takes a lot of thinking and caring and worrying to do it. Imagine. She does not know what she is going to. And you need to tell her that you must tell a grown up if she plan to go through with this.

The worst though is that when you commit yourself to a baby whether you are 14 or 30, life seems to stop. Your focus is all on the baby, and that is how it should be. If the mother is 14 though, and her life stops for a couple of years, imagine how her growing and becoming a woman will not be there.

This is hard to imagine for a teengirl, and that is why 14 is below sexual legality. Because young girls shouldn't have to worry about these things.

Answer 5

Tell her go ahead and have a kid. Just let her know hey when you are ready to go to the mall or rollerskating or whatever fun stuff 14 year olds do. She will be at home with her baby. It's not fun hopefully it's just a phase because there is so much more life to come then high school. College was a blast and if I had a kid and had to get a babysitter everytime I wanted to go out that would suck. Keep tryin to talk her out of it. Some women go thru sever depression after having a child and consider suicide. It's not what it seems.

Answer 6

ask her if she wants to be able to go out when shes wants to go out and have freedom when she gets older. I know if my daughter had a baby that young I wouldnt watch the baby unless she went to school so she can learn a lesson in life called tough love. 14 is young and shes goiing to miss out on so much prom a good education and so many other things. If she has a child this early in her life there are also possibalities she may never be able to have kids again such as my mother who was 15 and i was such a big baby that i almost killed her. luckly i didnt but i did make it so she could never have another child

Answer 7

A womans body is not fully developed at the age of 14, you are still a child. At the age of 14 you are not even mentally ready to make a decision such as this. If I were you I would talk to her parents and let them know what she is planning, they can help her out better. It is great that you are looking for advise to help her out.

Answer 8

wanting a child is not bad...having a child at 14 is. Your friend will lose her social life, her free time, everything. children take all you time and energy. even if she gets someone to babysit...it will cost her $$ like 3 to 6 dollars an hour, and then she will be to tired to doing anything fun. her friends will leave her because she is no fun anymore, and all the baby does is cry. tell your Friend to babysit for others and wait until she is older to have her own.

Answer 9

get her on the maury show. he helps a lot of teenagers change their mind. raising a Baby is hard to do. After a baby, no more parties no extra curricular activities,and you still have to finish high school. is there a class at your school that does the baby thin it over program? if so talk to that teacher.

Answer 10

having a baby totaly changes your life.....and it is not all good. Especially at that age. I'm sure she just sees how precious a baby is and not the real thing. She just wants attention. You need to get adult intervention....say a counselor or teacher, not a parent.