2006-07-06 05:12:26 · 19 answers · asked by Bori 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Welcome to the fun years, Mom! I don't know if you have a husband or (if divorced) if he is close to his father. Longer showers COULD mean that he just wants to be cleaner. But I know you suspect something else.
At 13, most boys are discovering how things work down there. Don't fight the masturbation issue. He's going to do it no matter what. Don't make him feel bad for doing it. However, make sure that he knows that he is not old enough nor mature enough to handle sex. Make sure that if he goes out with friends that there is a trustworthy adult around if you can't go yourself so the temptation isn't there.
Be open and make yourself available to him. Be a friend but, more importantly, an authority figure. It's obvious you love and deeply care about your son and want to do the right thing. Thank you for that. :-)
2006-07-06 05:52:06 · answer #1 · answered by Rich B 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
The long showers are so much better for him than long nights out. Be glad that he is in the shower alone then with some girl right now, since he is so young.
It is good to see a concerned parent when it comes to their child. As far as what you should talk to him about. I wouldn't worry to much. You may be surprised, he might just know more then you do. The kids these days at school talk about alot of things, and learn from thier conversations with each other. Just be sure that he knows to be safe. You can tell them no all you want but they will still do it if that is what they want to do, you might as well make sure that he is safe about it.
2006-07-06 05:20:53 · answer #2 · answered by ? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is completely normal for a 13 year old boy to be interested in sexuality. If you haven't yet, have the birds and the bees talk with him, and let him know that you are there for him. If he has any questions about development, be open to helping him through this turbulant time of life. Answer any questions he may have about girls/sex, no matter how embarrasing they are for you to answer. Wouldn't you rather he learn about this stuff from you rather than through others his age (who knows what kind of stuff they may tell him)?
Give him his privacy (to some extent), and I always think it is a good idea to knock before going into anyone's bedroom. You never know if they are changing clothes (how embarassing that would be for him for mom to walk in on him naked). He'll respect you more for respecting him.
2006-07-06 05:23:03 · answer #3 · answered by anezat83 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just like everyone agrees, the longer showers are a normal part of becoming an adult,don't say anything about that. Make sure he knows how babies are made (really knows)How STDs are transmitted, and how to treat women; then let nature take its course.
2006-07-06 05:40:15 · answer #4 · answered by Gatorgal 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he knows where babies come from, lol; leave him alone. He is just growing up.
Masterbation will be a part of his life from now on. I'm 54, and I will use it till I die. Just don't let him begin to look at woman as a play thing and not a person.
You can use it tooooooooo much to the point it does REPLACE your partner, but at 13, he is just acting normal.
My parents never said anything except USE A CONDOM! We don't want any babies to get into the way of your future till your married and ready. PLAN YOUR BABIES, don't just have them in the heat of the moment. Until my future wife was on the pill, I always wore my rubbers when I went out to play!
2006-07-06 05:28:11 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's 13 most 13 years olds are starting to think about the opposite sex I wouldn't worry and have any kind of a talk with him yet. If he starts talking to girls and the phone and they start coming to your house or your son starts going to theres then you can worry:)
2006-07-06 05:19:37 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
These days children are becoming sexually aware of their bodies at earlier ages than most of us adults. You should NEVER tell your son that exploring his body is wrong. You should sit down and talk to him about abstinence and things like that but showing him any type of negative reaction won't be good for you in the long run. If you are a liberal and "understanding" parent sit him down, talk to him, and when it's all said and done....give the guy the proper lubricant!
2006-07-06 05:18:00 · answer #7 · answered by Shannon P 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is the beginning of the next five years of your life that will become a series of ever increasing uncomfortable questions, problems and worries, but is normal. If you have not had the birds and bees, practicing safe sex and results if you don't talk, now is the time to sit down and do so.
2006-07-06 05:20:40 · answer #8 · answered by bottleblondemama 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing you can do. At least he's taking long showers and not doing things with girls and making you a grandparent way too soon
2006-07-06 05:20:28 · answer #9 · answered by mightymight 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't say anything......remember you were young once. Just make sure you don't barge in on him, respect his privacy. Just be glad he's not doing the gay thing......being flaming and all. Your little boy is starting to mature, and unfortunately that may come with some rebellion, so be prepared for that. Just take it easy, take one day at a time, and really try to develop a good relationship with him.........best of luck to you.........
2006-07-06 05:26:56 · answer #10 · answered by cajunrescuemedic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋