My boyfriend was unfaithful to me, with his ex, after a horrible argument between us. He says it was just frustration sex and it meant nothing.. Any views?
2006-07-06 05:08:55 · 56 answers · asked by amn2@btinternet.com 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Ok, so the next time you get in a fight and he gets frustrated, it's ok if he goes and sleeps with someone else? What if you get married? Can he then have a frustration mistress? Come on, think about it and get rid of this jerk.
2006-07-06 05:11:36 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 1⤋
oh, boy, that's a good one....look, it doesn't matter what the argument was about, that is just a cop out excuse. everybody has arguments and disagreements, but if you are a couple, you should work out the problems, not run to someone else and have sex with them, i mean, come on. isn't that just creating another problem and a big one, i should think!! Trust is one of the most important parts of any relationship and when that is broken, it is really hard to trust them again, not to say it can't be done, but it is difficult and what will happen next time you have a "horrible argument"???? even if he leaves or you leave to have time to reflect, will you be thinking he is out once again having "frustration sex"???? the hardest thing to do is stay and make a relationship work, the easiest thing to do is walk, which he did, right into the bed of his ex!!! and remember, he was frustrated. oh, lord, if i had frustration sex every time i was frustrated, they might call me a ****, ha! just tell him that the next time there is a "horrible argument", maybe you will try this "frustration sex" thing, would that be ok with him?
2006-07-06 05:32:49 · answer #2 · answered by sara 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WOAH! He did WHAT?! Hmmmm... I think somewhere deep inside the quiet place of your heart, you already know what the deal is, and when you're ready to see it, *poof!* it will appear.
I get a sense you'll seriously need to be wary of any & all manipulative tactics he throws at you. Firstly, by having "frustration" sex, he was actually punishing you & "getting back" at you for the argument. That leads us very nicely onto the fact that he was actually blaming you for his inappropriate behaviour, i.e.: if you didn't argue with me, I wouldn't have done this." Nice... Lastly, every time you guys have an argument & he slams the door & leaves, he will actually be leaving you wondering (& worrying) whether he's going to be unfaithful to you. Eventually, this will lead to your loss of self-esteem... and then he'll have the control. Think carefully & see if any of the above makes sense to you in your particular situation. If it does, as painful as it will be initially - GO! Go while you still have enough self-respect to do so. It will actually end up being the easy road compared to the abyss you may fall into. I wish you well.
2006-07-06 05:31:51 · answer #3 · answered by rdsukh 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't believe that once a cheater always a cheated unless they know that they can get a way with it. It's a difficult decision to make on your part. Everyone deserves a second chance but only if you know that you will truly be able to look past this. Frustration sex isn't a good enough excuse as far as I am concerned. What happens the next time he gets frustrated. If it doesn't seem to be a big deal to him than I would take that as a warning sign of future problems. People make mistakes but unless they learn from them they will continue to make the same ones. And as far as one of the answers" he's a man why would you expect him to be faithful" that's part of the problem just because they are men doesn't me they all cheat or that it is okay because they are men. That's just a stupid answer
2006-07-06 05:18:10 · answer #4 · answered by danielle t 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Looks like he's trying to play down his involvement and pointing the finger of blame to you by saying its "just frustration sex" and "it means nothing" and you believe that?
Turning to someone else in any relationship wither its being married, living together or living separately and having a relationship as boyfriend and girlfriend, is in its own way, letting you know he's not the one for you.
Having sex or making love to and ex or an affair partner always means something between them otherwise why do it!
I'm sorry to say, but he's very likely to do it again, only next time he'll go more underground now that you are aware of this problem with him.
You deserve better, look after yourself
2006-07-06 23:04:14 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
In regards to being unfaithful everyone here has more or less hit the nail on the head: GET RID.
How ever with you mentioning frustration sex it leads me toask what were you arguing about?
Was the problem a result of issues in the bed room??? Men are stupid and simple creatures if we aren't getting it at home and want it enough I am really sorry to say some will go looking elsewhere. We think with whats between our legs and are prone to making rash decisions. Look at your self and what you want from your boyfriend and your relationship then make your own decision, no one can make it for you
2006-07-06 05:23:53 · answer #6 · answered by dave 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What does your natural God given instinct tell you? I believe in your heart you know the answer to the question you asked.
There is a "RED FLAG" alert looming in the back of your mind, and you certainly don't need to ask anyone their view, because you already know. But just in case you didn't really pay attention to what you wrote (no insult intened) the ""RED FLAG" is this
"Frustration Sex" (Ok.... yeah! hopefully this was the only time he's been "Frustrated" while dating you)
"Meant nothing" (Sex ALWAYS means something)
That explanation alone should prompt you to walk away with dignity and respect for yourself because this will certainly not be the first and last time in his life that he will be frustrated. So follow your instincts and move on.... quickly.
Please use your intelligence and obey the warning sign or you'll live to regret it. Trust!
2006-07-06 05:22:58 · answer #7 · answered by 247 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
U deserve better than an unfaithful boyfriend.
Once a cheat always a cheat.
U will B 4ever mistrusting him & a relationship based on lack of trust is destined 2 fail.
Sorry 2 B hard.
Tell him 2 get knotted & go find UR self a new boyfriend.
1 who'll B faithful 2 U
2006-07-06 05:14:14 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't want a man who can't handle an argument honey, he has probably done it with out an argument. Don't trust that scum for a second. He is always going to cheat, I am sorry that you have to read this. He does not care about you think about it. He would have went somewhere and cooled off before even thinking about doing something to hurt you like that. That is some twisted sh!t. Don't you fall for it, and don't make me come and shake you girl. Drop the Loser he is playing games, good luck.
2006-07-06 05:16:34 · answer #9 · answered by nina_ross692000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No!
He just not that into you. If he so into you he wont turn to sex after arguments to release his frustration and anger. Instead he would find and sit down with you find solutions. He still not sure about you!
You will argue/fight again in the future because it is part of having relationship but do you want him to go to his ex to seek 'help' instead stick with you?
2006-07-06 05:18:39 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's full of Crap.... so if you have an argument ever again (which I promise you you will) he is just gonna go have sex with someone else. He sounds like a right jerk to me and you shouldn't stand for it. What next erhh??? whats frustration sex couldn't he wait and sort the argument out and have sex with you
One last word for ya
What a Jerk he is and dump him
2006-07-06 05:12:45 · answer #11 · answered by sazza 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋