the other day I was in a bar with my boyfriend, and a friend I hadn't seen in a really long time says hi to me. we didn't see each other for 5 years, so we spent the whole night talking. Of course, my boyfriend hated it!! he made the worst jealous scene i have ever seen... and he didn't talk to me for the rest of the night!!!
why are guys so jealous?????
2006-07-06 05:02:48 · 44 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
ok... maybe i should explain things better... i didn't leave him alone to go talk to that other guy.... we were all talking (including my boyfriend).. but when we got home he just started saying i should have talked to my friend! that's just stupid!
2006-07-06 05:13:54 · update #1
simply because they love
2006-07-06 05:09:45 · answer #1 · answered by ahmed t 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, it's different for all situations. But for this one it's because this is a part of your life he doesn't know about and you totally left him out of it. He probably felt insecure too because he didn't know what he was up against. I know I would even if it was just a friend. Your boyfriend doesn't know what kind of a friend this guy was or if anything happened between you two in the past. Plus, the fact that you ignored him and didn't include him would make anyone feel bad. If it was possible you should have included him in the conversation. Your boyfriend obvisously cares about you and it's normal to be jealous when some guy out of nowhere is talking to you the WHOLE night. Now, he probably shouldn't have made a scene, but everyone has their own way of reacting to situations. Just make sure to let him know about this friend from the past and to make sure your boyfriend knows that he's the only man in your life. Be mature and talk to him like an adult even if he can't act like one. Good luck!
2006-07-06 05:11:09 · answer #2 · answered by meghanw1 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Actually, women tend to show the jealous trait more than men do...it's a sign of insecurity though, and anyone can feel insecure...did you totally ignore your bf while you were spending the "whole night talking" with this other guy? Think about the situation...you went out on a date with your boyfriend, and spend the evening giving your time to someone else. Not knowing the exact details, it probably would've been better to have chatted a bit with your friend, but then gotten his # and made arrangements for a "catch up" get together soon, and then spent the rest of your evening with the person you arrived at the bar with...
No one likes to be brushed off or abandoned, no matter what the reason...it's natural you'd want to talk with a friend you hadn't seen in a while, but it's unkewl if you did it at the expense of whomever you'd originally gone out with that night (and that would go for girlfriend, group of friends, etc).
Apologize to your boyfriend...it's okay for you to have male friends, but nobody likes to be 'abandoned' when they go out with someone...y'know?
2006-07-06 05:09:45 · answer #3 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You were with your boyfriend enjoying an evening out and you spent the whole time talking to an old friend? I think that was kind of rude on your part. Maybe you could have invited him in on the conversation - then he probably wouldn't have acted like that. Men are not the only people who get jealous either. That was a silly statement. You sound a little young to be hanging out at a bar.
2006-07-06 05:06:53 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some guys are a bit insecure, but you should have made a better effort to include your boyfriend into the conversation. You are probably an attractive girl and could get many guys if you went out on your own. Many girls don't realize it that they have it much easier as far as hooking up with someone than a guy does. And this leads guys to be super cautious. I understand you have not seen this guy for a while, but if you love your boyfriend make sure you pay him some attention.
2006-07-06 05:13:19 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well first of all...you were there with HIM....ok...it was your guys night out....having fun with eachother ...and so what if a friend you havent seen in five years shows up out of the woodwork...you dont just go blow off your boyfriend and spend what was supposed to be a night together talking to this other person...what you should have done...introduce him to your boyfriend and maybe schedule another time for you two to catch up...maybe call on the phone...but then again..that might be a bit much....or how about this...you can talk with this old friend for like 15-20 minutes...then get back to your evening with your boyfriend...and tell your friend that you hope to see around sometime...but bottom line is that was you and your boyfriends night...thats probably why he didnt talk to you for the rest of the night is cause you blew him off.....id do the same thing....be more courteous to one and all....
2006-07-06 05:10:50 · answer #6 · answered by raven wants it... 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think maybe it may have something to do with their self esteem. Sometimes they can't voice their concerns in a good way so it comes out in a jealous rage. Maybe you should try to include him in things like that so he doesn't feel left out and so he understands the situation better. And if he doesn't feel comfortable hanging around with you and your old friend, maybe make sure you search him out every so often, give him a hug and a kiss. Tell him you love him (if you are at that stage in your relationship) and tell him thank you for being understanding enough to let you hang out with someone else for a little while. Then tell him he looks sexy. Really stroke that ego. It sounds stupid but it helps.
2006-07-06 05:09:46 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because some girls have no respect for relationships. If something better comes along they just jump on it and that makes most guys paranoid and jealous. If you decided this old buddy of yours was a better choice than the guy you are dating now you would probably "accidentally" fall for him and "accidentally" start getting intimate with him, before you ever considered letting your boyfriend know he was out of the picture. That is why we get jealous.
2006-07-06 05:11:04 · answer #8 · answered by traveler.3339 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Women have to realize that it isn't the woman we have the problem with. We are not afraid that you will cheat. We are upset with the idea of that guy coming on to you, which any man will do no matter what because we are dogs. That other guy talking to you all night and maybe coming on to you is a total disrespectful thing and that is what makes us men angry.
2006-07-06 05:10:11 · answer #9 · answered by J. Brigante 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Guys are so jelous because if they have a girlfriend that they work so hard into getting and some other guy came andtries 2 steal her guys are gonna b really mad they dint want 2 lose a gurl so special and then b left wit nothin they protect like an eagle and her nest
2006-07-06 05:07:15 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men seem to get like that when they feel that thier relationship is being threatened. Women do the same thing. Any time that they feel threatened they will act that way. Some are a little more subtle than just throwing a fit in public though. Some wait till you get home to throw their fit..
2006-07-06 05:05:51 · answer #11 · answered by ? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋