ask questions, and listen. Offer reassuring comments, that emphize 'the good times', motherly love, she's proud....
2006-07-06 05:04:49
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answered by kzalterego 1
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There is nothing you can say to that. Most of the time, when people try to say the right things, it only makes them feel worse. The only thing you should say is, "I'm so sorry" The best thing you can do is make sure you stick with your friend and be there any time they need you. Whatever you do, don't force the issue or constantly try to talk to them about it. When they want to vent feelings or talk, you will know it because you won't have to ask. They'll just break down and spill everything. Thats when you need to be there to comfort them. This is an extremely difficult process to go through and your friend is going to need a lot of support and love. I can't imagine how difficult that must be to lose a parent. I dread the day I have to endure such heartache and loss....Good Luck..
2006-07-06 05:06:46
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answered by ? 4
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Don't tell her that you know how she feels, unless you have also lost your mom. Let her talk and you listen. Just ask her how she is doing and if there is anything at all you can do to help. As time goes on, be there for her more than ever. Also, don't be afraid to talk about her mom if you knew her. Lots of people have told me that after a loved one dies, no one wants to speak their name again for fear of making them sad. But they are already sad and want to know that you haven't forgotten their loved one. Remind them of good times you've had together or something that person did or said that left a memory. Everyone wants to feel that the person they love was also loved by others.
2006-07-06 05:08:13
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answered by mab5096 7
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you should the contact Hospice. i understand that at the same time as someone is dieing they provide counseling and help. i'm not particular about after wards, yet when not, they could lead you contained in the right route. so some distance as your brother is worried, i'd say that he probably might want to apply some counseling too. diverse human beings grieve in diverse techniques yet someone needs to refer to him. who's elevating you adult males now? Are they assisting in any respect with the grieving procedure? bypass on your college counselor and ask for help. it really is problematical to loose a loved one yet at your age it must be the hardest of all. don't be afraid to ask everyone you could imagine of or that you've faith, for help. My heart is going out to you honey and in case you ever pick someone to talk with me merely digital mail me through right here. I actual have had maximum cancers and had 18 surgical procedures. I survived it Thank goodness.
2016-11-05 23:40:10
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answered by ? 4
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Depending on how close you are and were to the mom...
The first time you see the friend it will be awkward!
Try some of these in person or in a note:
I am here for you...i care....
let me know if I can help out in anyway...I'm here if you need me....
Words cannot express my feelings...remember I care
I am feeling what you are feeling .....
Your fond memories will get you through these difficult times...she was special to me too....
My Best at this difficult time...I've been there!!! :-)
PS: Remember that your friend will be bombarded with people now at this shocking time...be a true friend and send her special notes in the weeks and mos. ahead.....She'll appreciate it....you will not open new wounds, just your remembering will help her through the rough times...a dear aunt lost her husband and I would write a note at mother's day, father's day, valentine's day, and at the anniversary of his passing...she always told my mother-in-law how much it meant to her at those dates that were special to her...it does help!!!
2006-07-06 05:06:39
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answered by Sammyleggs222 6
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Have you had any personal experiences with close family deaths? Most people who are grieving get tired of everyone wanting to talk to them about it... so maybe just "I wanted to let you know that I understand what a tragedy you are going through and I offer my sincere condolences. If you are ever in need of a shoulder to cry on or an ear to talk into, always know that I am here for you."
Let them know that you offer your support but that you aren't pushing for all the sappy details. Some people want to know the business and feel important, but I'm sure your friend knows who she feels comfortable talking to, so let her decide to come to you if she wants to.
2006-07-06 05:06:24
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answered by lizwatson109 4
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Express to her your sympathy from the heart. Tell her how awesome she is for bearing through this, and let her know that you are there for her!
2006-07-06 05:05:54
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answered by aLyxoxo 3
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aww i went through the same thing when my friend died. she wuz heart broken and know what i did? i took her to alot of places to get her out of the house and she slept over alot but her problem was that she mostly denied it and she acted like her mom was on vacation. so her dad had to take her eto a shrink, but that was like 5 years ago when we were like 12 but she adventually got over it. so the advide i will give you is just to take him some places and get him out of the house to keep his mind off of things
good luck!!
2006-07-06 05:20:34
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answered by erin 2
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sometimes words aren't always best, but actions are! just be there for that person, have an open ear, and always ask how they are doing. if you want better understanding just put yourself in their shoes, imagine if your mom died, what would you need from people?
2006-07-06 05:06:12
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answered by toni h 4
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Be there for them, give them lost of hugs, listen, give a holder, remember the time that she was here (the good ones).
2006-07-06 05:07:11
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answered by Anonymous
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