life is quite simple yet everything comes with life is not that simple so that you can't just say you'll never cheat on your spouse. you just never know. unhappy for some years but stay married just because I didn't want to tear the family apart. then one day, out of blue, I fell in love with someone else. now I'm going to confess and leave my husband. it hurts me to know that actions I'm going to take will be against what I always preach. I was one of people who always said never cheat. it bites. what do you think?
2006-07-06 05:01:17 · 14 answers · asked by aurorasMOM 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
cinnamon, I'm aware that people would say anything they want. that's why I post it. and I'm reading every one of and thinking. thank you.
2006-07-06 05:29:53 · update #1
Thats life. and in life s*hit happens, it sucks i know but what is done is done. Its never too late to do the right thing.
And i am glad you are finally going to do it.
2006-07-06 05:11:03 · answer #1 · answered by dido45dido 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whatever happened to 'till death do us part'? Did you try to make things work with your husband? Did you do all you can to get your love back from your husband? There will always be some one around who will be better and do better things, different things, and make you feel wonderful. But you chose to marry someone, and now that someone better has come along you started to cheat and now you are in love. Are you sure it is love and not lust or infatuation? Yeah never say never because once you do most likely you will do what you never would have done. That sucks. What happens when you and this guy fall out of love are you going to run off and marry some one else? Hey, its your life one day you will answer to God, He will ask what was so wrong with the man I blessed you with? Did he cheat or beat you? What would Jesus do in this situation.
I think that you need to stick to your vows and work on your marriage. You said out of the blue you fell in love, sounds more like lust and infatuation to me. Love is deeper, not an instant thing.
Good luck in your life and make sure that what ever move you make you really thought about it and will have no regrets.
2006-07-06 12:13:48 · answer #2 · answered by sweetsugakb24 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow! First of all you're brave for coming out and sharing it here. You do realize that you're leaving yourself open for judgement.
I've been on both sides of the spectrum (as a cheater when I was much younger and being cheated on) it is not easy and will become more painful if you continue living a lie. You have to be honest with him, but most importantly YOURSELF, and put everything on the table in spite of the consequences.
You made a statement that you fell in love with someone else "out of the blue", I hardly think that was the case, I think you were looking for something that your husband wasn't giving you.
I'm a strong believer in Karma, so good luck!
2006-07-06 12:24:24 · answer #3 · answered by cinnamon_latin_doll 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree. Most people have to eat their own words after being judgamental on other people's lives.... and then you become one of them, the one that you said never, the one that pointed the fingers at others, the one that said that how people could do that.
Well, people are people and life takes a lot of turns. People aren't perfect and we do feel tempted and make mistakes and that life is not like the fairy tales and that sometimes people don't live happily ever after.
Now you have learn to be more compassionate about other people and life situations. Be honesta nd come forward and hope that you are making the right decision. Telling your friends will be hard.. oh boy, you have your plate full.
Good luck to you
2006-07-06 12:08:58 · answer #4 · answered by Blunt 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't leave like this.
The stigma it puts on you and your kids. There is no need to announce to the world that your cheating.
Give yourself some dignity in this. The truth will be there but just do it in better steps than leaving yourself open as this. If not for you for your children.
Leave, keep it low then go on with your life. Society is cruel to those that admit the truth and it isn't there business to know.
Simply an...I don't love you anymore, irreconcielable differences is easier than here is my lover and we love each other bull we are doing it now....I'm sorry. That hurts way worse...I know.
2006-07-16 14:07:10 · answer #5 · answered by sweetpea 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2006-07-18 19:09:15 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It wouldn't be fair to you or your husband to stay in a loveless marriage. Life is too short to spend it unhappy. It's a shame you'll have to 'tear the family apart', but in the long run, it'll be better for all of those involved.
2006-07-06 12:11:41 · answer #7 · answered by loshea65 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think yes never cheat or lie cause it ends up in a big mess and you get caught but yes if you find some one you really think your heart belongs to than don't hold back and devorce your spouse and if you have children let him have equal time with them and try to still stay friends with you new ex-spouse
2006-07-06 12:07:22 · answer #8 · answered by acoll0725 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Amen To that!! ........ I am In the same position X-cept I couldn't just leave So the other guy left me... :o(...... Everyday i wake up think ing of him and go to sleep thinking of him........ I feel bad for my man, he's done it to me also but I have always said "i would never" And i did..... and i fell in love but it can never be!! .... Good Luck!!
2006-07-06 12:06:40 · answer #9 · answered by •°♥Ms. SeXy♥°• 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ultimately, everyone does what makes them happy. Just do it.
2006-07-06 12:24:11 · answer #10 · answered by cawecm 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋