i'm from another country and come to america and went to school but i didn't fit in with them because they talk things about me that i didn't like and they hate me i want to know what should i do to fit in but i'm the smartest in my class and at my old school i use to be the miss popularity but now i'm like the nerd but it may be because i came late and i'm in the school for 3 months and i want some advise for how to fit in.
2006-07-06 04:56:02 · 16 answers · asked by angel eyes 2 in Arts & Humanities ➔ History
Just be yourself, and friends will come. Kids can be cruel, just remember they are just as scared as you are. Time will fix this problem. Keep the good grades, and positive attitude and you will go far. One true friend is worth more than the lot of them. Let them see your confidence, it will attract friends. hugz
2006-07-06 05:11:30 · answer #1 · answered by ? 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Angel Eyes, you've got to be hosing me. You did not say what country, but from an American point of view if you have even a hint of an accent Americans eat it up.
The only way I could see them picking on you is if you came from a country that America has propagandized, like Iraq, Iran, Russia, Germany. Anyway, that was not your question. Your question was how to fit in.
When I was an Army brat, traveling around to different States, I used to worry about never having anchors, just as I made friends, we'd move. I found that staying aloof was the biggest draw to people. At first, people will think you think you're better than they are and they tease you - my thing was fashion, not theirs, but my own. So they would tease me for wearing different clothes. I would act as if what they said did not matter. I never backed down from a fight (which comes next, if they can't intimidate you they bully you).
Soon, a few people tried to befriend me and I was very selective of whom I'd associate and I had a very small circle of confidants, let them approach you is my theory. You can still be popular.
If you are determined to be in "their" circle, know that if your blingage is too dazzling, they will be jealous. If you are more attractive, they will be jealous. If you are unattractive, they will be cruel. If you are poverty stricken, you have to sell your personality. Keep your life away from them a mystery and they will be drawn to you.
I hope that helps.
2006-07-06 05:09:36 · answer #2 · answered by gravelgertiesgems 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-08 16:24:55 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bullying isn't any good if the bullied doesn't react so don't react and have it all pass by you.
This is a good thing. It might be hard at first but
when you get on top of this you will be more complete than when you were miss popularity as you are still the same person PLUS you have had the experience and had to work hard to get on top again.
2006-07-06 05:08:12 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, enjoy the possibilities in the States, there are a lot, try to get as many courses you can, especially sport courses.
If you are from overseas, your basic knowledge can be better, but they not really interested about it, you sholud learn how to take care of yourself, because the people in the States are much more independent, and a little bit more selfish, than for example people from Europe.
Try to take part in contests ( especially in sport events again ) and you will be noticed soon and don't be sad, it can take a while.
2006-07-06 05:08:43 · answer #5 · answered by Gergely 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kids do this. You probably did it at your old school and never realized it. Anyone who's different in anyway is automatically an outcast. The most proving thing about you will be how you handle yourself regardless. Hold your head up and don't let them get you down. Keep your eyes open for people you can relate to. They're out there. They just might not be who you're expecting.
2006-07-06 05:01:56 · answer #6 · answered by Miss Red 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You don't have 2 try 2 fit in with anyone. If you really want some friends, just wait and you will see who your real friends will be. I recommend watching this movie called "Madea Goes to Jail". It is a comedy, but it teaches lessons about life.And it states them clearly. The people actually talk about life and friends in life who will come and go; and how you don't have to try and fit in because if their your friends they will stick with you no matter where you are from.
2006-07-06 06:07:47 · answer #7 · answered by Nancy M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, it sounds like you're a bit conceited. Maybe the "but i'm the smartest in my class" and "i use to be the miss popularity" turns them off. Perhaps you're sending a message that your better.
2006-07-06 05:02:51 · answer #8 · answered by father_shenanigans 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Screw them... they dont matter enough to want to fit in with them. Why do u want to fit in with them? To feel good about yourself?? Its not because you came in school late, its just that nobody knows you. Get to know people and they will enjoy your company. They dont know how you feel about them, so you have to let them know you want friends, and you are social. And dont mind the ones that talk about not liking you, head for the people who are more like you... nice or something.
2006-07-06 05:01:33 · answer #9 · answered by Dream 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
americans do not like smart people. watch their movies - the genius is always evil. so saying you're like the smartest kid in class is like bragging to a bunch of wolves that you are a good environmentally friendly vegetarian. they will eat you. and if you can read a little bit and speak some broken english that's good enough; you're already smarter than most of them. but try to work on your pronunication. if you make the same errors in language that your classmates make, talk like them and dress like them, they won't even realize that you are not one of them.
2006-07-06 05:35:38 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Study hard, and learn the custom and culture (school culture or classroom culture especially). Gain the teacher's favor. Learn a little thing about pop culture. Continue to study hard. Situation will change as time goes by. People will change as they grow older.
2006-07-09 16:24:31 · answer #11 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋