i don't know how much more i can take?

Question

my husband hit me again today this time it was different it was not my arm this time it was fist in my chin 1 time then I hit back then he hit me again in my chin the he hit me on arm 2 time was I wrong to hit back he hit before it use to be every 6 months but now it going to every month does it mean it getting worse i scared if i leave he take my son

he not leave a mark

Answer 1

You need to take your son and yourself and get the h**l out of there right now and go to the local police department first and make a report and the go the the nearest court house and fill out a protection from abuse application. If you have any marks on you the police should take pictures if they don't get a camera and do it yourself. You hitting him back was just self defense and don't let him convince you that it wasn't. Once you make the police report take a copy of that with you to the court house when you ask for a protection from abuse order application. This will be about a 10 page application that you have to fill out and then the judge should see you as soon as you get it done. Also make sure you put on there that you want him to stay away from your son to because you are afraid he is going to hurt him too. If the judge does grant you one of these orders, and really there isn't any reason why he wouldn't, he will give you a piece of paper to keep saying that this man is not to come within so many feet of you or your son and if he does he will be arrested. If you have family or friends close to you I would get what you need out of your house for now, and take somebody with you when you go, and stay with them for now until this gets resolved. You and your child do not need to be in a relationship like this! You could end up getting seriously hurt and put in the hospital or he may even kill you and your son needs you. Get away as soon as possible and don't look back!!!
Good luck!

Answer 2

You don't deserve such treatment, in fact no one does. You need to get out or find a counselor. You or your son should not be subjected to this kind of treatment. First off its you right now but soon it will be your son and you don't want to stand back and let that begin. When someone is abusive they are always abusive unless perhaps treatment can help, but beware it doesn't always help. And no don't think that hitting him back is wrong its self defense, but if he continues to hit you then maybe its just best to let it go. I would let your family and friends in on this so the next time it happens and he leaves for work they can all come over and get you out of there before he gets home. You should speak to a lawyer also to find out your rights concerning the child just so you do things legally and there is nothing he can come back on you with the situation except himself feel like an *** and now that everyone else knows how he is he will lose respect from his friends and peers
Take care of your self and get out of the situation. I'll be thinking and praying for you. Good Luck

Answer 3

When he is not there, pack a bag for you and your son and head to the nearest women's shelter. GET OUT. Do not tell him you are doing it for your own safety. Trust me, it does not get better, it will continue to get worse (I have been there). And even if he never starts abusing your son (he might), look at what he is teaching him. Do you want that kind of example for your child? Call a domestic abuse hotline for advice and a contact. Your child should not grow up in a home where his mother is being hit or mistreated in any way.

It may hurt emotionally to leave, but it is the best thing that you can do for yourself and your child. A man that abuses his wife is not likely to gain custody of the child no matter what he threatens.

Sometimes doing the best thing is not the easiest. Be strong, pray hard, and put the needs of yourself and your child first. Do not be bullied by this man. You do not deserve that treatment.

PS It does not matter if he leaves a mark. It is still unexcusable for him to hit you for any reason. If he does not touch you lovingly, he should not touch you at all.

Answer 4

Honey that man can not take your son! If you do not get out now it will get worse and could cost you your life. Just make sure that when you leave he is not around that baby until you have gone to court and have papers stating you have custody. Cause all it takes is for that baby to be in whoevers custodt ( yours or his) and the police can do nothing about it without a court order showing who has custody. In case you do not understand; If you leave with your son and he ( your husband) calls the cops they will not be able to do anything because you are his mother and there are no papers court ordered showing who has custody!)

Please Please get out of there! Your son should not be forced to live this way and neither should you! You surely do not want him growing up and treating women this way right! So please just leave there are people and places to go for help if your family is unable or unwilling to help you! You deserve better than this! No women deserves to be hit unless she has bullied up and made the first hit with a fist. A slap does not count! GET OUT!!!!

Answer 5

You need to leave him. The only way things are going to get better if he decide to get help. You need to leave before he hurts you so bad that you end up 10 feet under ground or even worse he does the same thing to your son. He has a disease that only he can take care off. Their is nothing wrong with defend yourself, but this might make him more angry and hurt you real bad. My advices leave him get a divorce. If you are worried about losing your son remember this ,no Judge in their right mind would give custody to an abuse husband. Takes picture of yourself so you have proof of his abuse. Please real consider leave this man. If not for you, do it for your son. You don’t want him to think this normal behavior and grow up and put some poor women through same thing you are going through. Good luck and God Bless

Answer 6

If you call the cops, then he cant take your son from you. I think that you should call the cops and make a report, at lease if it happens again then there is already a report on him hitting you. I was in the same place, But it really depends in you, if you have the courage to leave him. The only thing that is gonna happened is your son is gonna see it all and he is gonna grow up thinking its OK to hit girls, and its not. If you really love your son, then you should leave him, don't let your son see that ****. They remember everything, My son used to tell me "remember when dad hit you mom", and that's a ****** up feeling. Good luck and god bless you.

Answer 7

I was in a similar situation with my ex. In the beginning he would push me, then he started to put pillows over me and hit me. It eventually got to the point of bruises up and down my body, my head put through a wall and threats on my life. I was scared to leave because I didn't know what he would do. I waited until he went to work one day and when he came home he came home to an empty house. I finally figured out that continuing with a destructive relationship like that was not what I wanted or wanted my son to grow up thinking was normal. It's been 10 years since then and I am just starting to be able to stick up for myself with him. I am no longer scared of him and it feels great. Do you and your child the best thing you can do for both of you and leave before you become another death statistic related to domestic violence. It is your duty as a mother to protect your child and give them the best possible chance at life. In order to do that you must remove him from the situation or he is very likely to show the same disrespect and violence towards women that his dad does. Please,Please,Please GET OUT!!!!!!

Answer 8

I was in your shoes sweetie, first time my ex hit me we where only together two months, I didnt leave cuz I thought that I had to put up with it cuz I had married him for better or for worse, he controled every move I made. After the first year he beat me on a regular basis for anything and sometimes just cuz he had nothing better to do. 19 years later I had to guts to get the hell out...Dont stay there and dont believe his im sorrys cuz they are nothing but air. He will hit you more and could kill you. I thought I would lose my youngest child my daughter....but I took her with me when I left...he tried to get her but she was old enough to tell the cops who she wanted to stay with.....The most thing I worried about was my son turning out like his dad and thank god he is the oppisite of him....Sons do turn out like thier fathers if they see it enough....do you and your son a favour and run for the hills and dont ever look back....Best of luck sweetie

Answer 9

Don't take any more! First, you need to call the police. Second, you need to take your son and get out of there. Leave while he's at work and go to a shelter. They can help you from there. It'll never get any better if you stay, and you could wind up dead. So could your son. And your son could learn the same abusive behavior from this creep! GET OUT!

Answer 10

Take your son, and get the hell out of there. Go and file a protective order against him. If you dont its going to get worse and worse. He shouldnt be hitting you. You dont deserve that. This is not good for your son either, call the cops and have him arrested, im tellin ya, if ya dont you will end up dead!!!!!