2006-07-06 04:37:04 · 19 answers · asked by aurorasMOM 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
No kids are smart and know that something is wrong anyhow!!! Divorce hurts everyone even if you waited until they were out of the home it would still hurt them. I say live seperate lives and respect one another and be civil in front of your children.
2006-07-14 11:37:08 · answer #1 · answered by luvlisteningtomusic 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
NO! If one of the parent's aren't in love anymore, he/she will become depressed in staying in the situation, which will effect the kids. Don't stay in an unhappy situation for the children's sake. Get out for the children's sake. An unhappy marriage calls for an unhappy home.
I see one comment that says stay for the kids and how doing something that sucks will show the kids how much you love them. Not true. Instead you'll show the kids that once you get into an unhappy relationship and life as you know it sucks, well tough. Stick it out anyway. Don't worry about living your life to the fullest. That's not a message you want your kids to have.
2006-07-06 05:01:30 · answer #2 · answered by purpleama456 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
NO!
Other people might tell you yes, but they're WRONG! Studies have shown that kids whose parents separate/get divorced when the kids are young are better adjusted, happier in life, and are less likely to have marital/relationship problems of their own.
Kids whose parents stay together just for the sake of them are more likely to end up in abusive and/or unhappy relationships. They're more likely to get divorced, and they're more likely to be depressed and have other psychological and health problems.
You may think that they won't notice that the spark in the relationship isn't there, but they WILL. They'll notice all of the fighting and other problems, and they'll carry that over into their own relationships--that's the only way they'll know how to act in a relationship.
If you're unhappy, get out NOW! It will benefit your child(ren) more if you go ahead and take care of the problem instead of pretending that a problem doesn't exist. If you want to do what's best for the child(ren), then don't stay in a loveless marriage. The level of conflict that they're going to be exposed to every day until they go off to college will take an unreal toll on them--and NO child deserves that.
2006-07-06 04:51:58 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
What about the other parent and love? Why the "isn't in love" happening? Grass is the same on both sides of the fence. Life is a progressive series of changes in many respects. What is love anyway? What is happiness? Possibly it is time for a sit down and a come to Jesus meeting so everybody's feelings are on the table and under scrutiny. Communication is very important.
2006-07-19 04:55:56 · answer #4 · answered by acmeraven 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely not. Children are so smart they know what's going on. If things aren't good between the parents you shouldn't stay together. Get alot of good counseling with the children they'll be better off. As they get older they will appreciate the fact you did the right thing. Just make sure the children are the focus of their lives.
2006-07-19 05:04:50 · answer #5 · answered by bsnana 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, children know more about what is going on that parents realize...kids are not stupid. They know when their parents are unhappy and that makes them unhappy as well. If you stay married "for the children" you are blaming them for staying in an unhappy environment and they will grow up resenting you for making them the reasons you CHOSE to remain miserable.
I know because I was the reason my mother remained in a miserable marriage and I have not had contact with her since I left home for good 35 years ago...is that what YOU want from your children?
2006-07-15 08:00:22 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
NOPE... Coming from a family that stayed together for the children's sake it really screwed me up. I really hating seeing mom sad and unhappy dad miserable and our family not even sitting to gether it made me think and feel guilty. Kids can have both parents seperated and them be happy. The parents just need to work to gether as friends for the children's best interest.
2006-07-16 17:45:35 · answer #7 · answered by mistress_tiana_soprano 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
no don't make the kids feel the guilt of the parents not being happy if you are not happy and they know it they also will not be happy you must tell them that it is not their fault for your problems but they are still the most important things in both your lives do not use the kids as a pawn in any issues (visitation support ect) also do not make them take sides or drill them with questions if you do split up (is mommy seeing anybody does daddy have sleep overs) children learn what they live teach them to be happy
2006-07-18 03:14:46 · answer #8 · answered by Ellie P 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes! But instead of feeling miserable all the time, start working on the marriage! I'm glad that you love your kids enough to consider doing something that sucks, like staying in a loveless marriage. But make sure you're not taking it out on them or relying on them to give you the love you need. You need to confront your spouse with the fact that you need them and your kids need them, so they need to figure out what they need to do to love you again! Love isn't a feeling, you really have to work at it, so start working!
2006-07-06 04:46:16 · answer #9 · answered by Carrie S 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Not if you can't get along. My husband and his ex did this and all the kids remember is how much they fought, how loud their yelling was, and how much they hated each other. When they finally told the kids they were getting divorced, the kids said "It's about time." But that experience taught the kids that you get what you want by mistreating the other person, manipulating, and screaming.
2006-07-06 05:11:05 · answer #10 · answered by Dakota 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋