Any advice how to cope my emotions at work. When I am busy, it was not that bad. However, when I have less to do at work, the emotions start kicking in. No one in my office knows about my divorce except for my boss.
2006-07-06 04:34:29 · 7 answers · asked by DiL 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
sorry but nobody can help u but ONLY u.
i tink u still loves yr husband and u r not mentally ready for the divorce. that is y yr work performance is affecting u and when u r less at work, memories of the good times with yr husband comes in.
Look for a gentleman who can hear u out.
take care...
2006-07-07 20:01:12 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Dealing with emotions at work and through work is never a good ideal. You need a separate outlet that doesn't directly affect your livelihood. Mine is Tae Kwon Do and the piano, they are places where I'm there specifically for an outlet so that if I am feeling emotional throughout the day I know that I can let it out in a few hours. I suggest choosing a hobby that is physical (i.e. excercising, getting a pet, horseback riding, hiking, etc) and allowing yourself some release. Most experts agree that since stress affects you physically you can combat stress the same way.
2006-07-06 04:41:48 · answer #2 · answered by tynett 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am going through that very thing. Here's what I did:
1. Told my boss in confidentiality.
2. Immediately sought therapy.
This whole time is anguishing. It's like having thumbscrews and your stomach turning. Everyone will cope differently but you need to immediately find yours. And that is hard. I know. It helps to talk to someone. The busy times are fine, but you can't keep it up. It's the downtimes that feel like despair. The only thing I haven't done yet (because of how my company handles it) is taking a good amount of time off (like a week).
Look, this is a real hard subject to deal with. If you need an ear to hear, you can email me. If you have a MySpace account, mine is http://www.myspace.com/ntoriano/.
Or you can just try my info here.
2006-07-06 04:55:20 · answer #3 · answered by ntoriano 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It may be time to talk to a counselor and get some coping skills; they'll also give you an outlet for your emotional upheaval and someone to talk to that doesn't get offended by what you have to say.
Or you may want to take a little time off work and just get away from everything.
Divorces can be really hard, especially if it was something you didn't want to have happen, and everyone copes differently.
Good luck.
2006-07-06 04:39:21 · answer #4 · answered by Brutally Honest 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to talk to someone and let it out what you feel inside.
If you feeling anger, sadness, bitterness, dissapointment, empty, no future, failure and etc you need to sit down and allowing yourself to admit that hey, this marriage is not working and admit that you cant do anything except to move on.
In addition you need to keep reminding yourself that divorce is not your and your partner fault! You guys are not meant to be together and your path has not crossed with him. Dont fall into the trap of thinking that every marriages would be happily ever after. Sure enough you want your marriage to go well but you must surrender to the fact of life! At least you have tried and now fate is not your side but you carry on. You are not alone in this world.
In the meantime, occupy your time apart by seeing/going out with your friends, do more activities/join clubs/exercise/window shopping/suppor group etc to fill up your time. Dont sit down and allow negative energy to control you! Life is too short and there is nothing you could do at this point. You are having a HUGE transitional period of your life feeling down, lonely and empty. Nobody would clean the mess because they know you have to handle it by yourself. People could only help/advice you. At the end, you have to be happy within/inside and carry on. Whether you like it or not, you have to learn and force yourself to carry on happily after divorcing.
I know this will sound stupid but getting pets like a cat/dog in house could help as a theraphy.
2006-07-06 04:53:32 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to someone, let the emotions come out. Try to keep yourself busy. But the healthiest thing to do is talk to someone about it.
2006-07-06 04:40:33 · answer #6 · answered by B.J. 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Answer questions on Yahoo! Answers when you slow down at work. :o)
2006-07-06 04:39:39 · answer #7 · answered by jhornneon23 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋