He has started doing things like never before..as in.changing the kinds of music,cleaning his car more than usual,leaving for work earlier than before (over 20 yrs), tell me to listen to this song about unfaithfullness...Red Flags, right????????
2006-07-06 04:31:43 · 32 answers · asked by just me here 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Maybe not red flags.....just watch him. If you see more red flags then confront him. Don't spy, because you're probably not trained in it, and you could get caught. If you have the money, hire a private detective. He can do all that, plus if he is cheating, then he can also get pictures. Whatever you decide to do, think things over thoroughly, and never act on impulse. These things have a way of getting found out......and they'll show up.....eventually......I wish you the best of luck.......
2006-07-06 04:44:58 · answer #1 · answered by cajunrescuemedic 6 · 1⤊ 2⤋
If I was cheating on my spouse I wouldn't tell him to listen to the new Rihanna song. I would in fact change the station every time that song came on when we were together. The leaving for work earlier and cleaning his car more often might just be resolutions. I am usually a few minutes late to work, and if I started leaving earlier I would expect my boyfriend to think that was okay. But if it's MUCH earlier, you never know. Maybe poke your nose around a little bit. Check his cell phone for a new number that he calls often or something... don't confront him yet, men lie too easily. Good luck.
2006-07-06 04:36:10 · answer #2 · answered by lizwatson109 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
kinda sounds like it but who knows guys do weird things at times with no explanation. If it's over 20 years I would have to do a little investigation...it could be nothing. Pop in on him at work, ask him where he heard this new band. Quiz him but not accuse him. Get together something that proves more than him just acting weird.
I am guessing if your together 20 years your in your 40's. I remember my dad doing some weird stuff when he was that age he totally changed careers at one point. So it could be the mid-life crisis thing. But get some proof positive then talk to him about it.
Hopefully it's nothing!!
2006-07-06 04:38:12 · answer #3 · answered by MaryJaneD 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find someone you trust completely to follow him as he leaves for work early. Must be someone he wouldn't recognize!! Take it from there. Never accuse him if you don't know for sure. If he isn't going to "work," then investigate where he is going before you confront him. Get address, who or what it is, and see what information you can find out about that. Then ask him.
2006-07-06 05:04:47 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i always believe in gal's intuition. through my own experience, i've learnt that men will not tell you the truth even if you found out. he just keeps on lieing, cooking up story after story. ask yourself, if he is really having an affair, can u accept the truth? does he still fulfill his duty as a husband/daddy (if u hv any kids)? since its been so long, would u prefer to close an eye, hoping he'll get tired of the fling outside soon enough?
2006-07-06 04:52:54 · answer #5 · answered by Isabella N 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you confront him with this he could be lying or telling the truth, either way you will not know for sure unless you hire an investigator or investigate/spy yourself. people tend to cheat for many different reasons, lack of sexual relationship tends to be one of the biggest reasons for this problem, sometimes couples married for many year need to spice things up a bit.but never the less this should be something discussed between you and your husband and should not lead to cheating, if he truly loves you he should not have cheated if he really is cheating, but sometimes it is human nature to do stupid things, it doesn't mean he doesn't love you it just means he is really stupid......good luck
2006-07-06 05:22:45 · answer #6 · answered by Ranger 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a idea!Get a hot Woman than set up a camera and hide in a nother room.And tell him that u are going to the store.And tell him to stay there with your friend!and u will find out.
2006-07-06 04:39:06 · answer #7 · answered by Babygirl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Investigate! Drop in on him at work EARLY, LATE and Call him.
Borrow a car and follow him
Something is up or you wouldn't feel apprehensive.
2006-07-06 04:42:37 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Believe in your intuition, my dear. In my experience, best would be investigate to get evidence first. Then, you will be in a better position as to confront or not to confront.
No point shooting a gun without bullets.
2006-07-06 04:41:32 · answer #9 · answered by DiL 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it were me, I would get all of the facts before I started pointing fingers. Accusing him of it and it turns out not to be true could damage the relationship.
2006-07-06 04:35:51 · answer #10 · answered by Snow 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋