2006-07-06 04:30:41 · 33 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Depends on the girlfriend. If she and her family are traditionalists, it's a nice thing to do. If she hates her father, not so much. If she's a strong-willed self-determined woman, like my wife, it could be construed as an insult to that independence.
Also, are you prepared to deal with it if the answer is "no"?
2006-07-06 04:35:16 · answer #1 · answered by carpetao 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm not sure what the currently accepted standard is, but
in the last three years two young men have gone through that ritual with me (although they may not have used the words "ask for you blessing", they may have said "I plan to propose to your daughter and I would like to talk to you about it first" or something like that) before proposing two my daughters, so
some people are doing it.
I think it worked well for all of us.
2006-07-06 04:34:36 · answer #2 · answered by enginerd 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is a wonderful, honorable gesture. Her father will feel venerated if he is asked for his blessing by his future son-in-law.
More people should honor their parents in this way. They are only with us such a short time, anyway. There is something to be said for these old traditions. Our society would be in much better shape if we would revert to many of the old, and in some instances archaeic, customs.
2006-07-06 04:35:17 · answer #3 · answered by Ancespiration 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I did and I think it really helped to build a good relationship with my father-in-law. The fact is that of all my in-laws he and I have about the best relationship. Granted it's old fashioned, but just 'cause it's an old custom doesn't mean it's not worth doing.
2006-07-06 04:34:45 · answer #4 · answered by pelotahombre 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i feel this is an outdated, outmoded and pretentious tradition
here's a few questions for you to think about:
1. do you believe that your girlfriend is and should be able to make her own decisions about her future?
2. would it matter to you or her if her old man said no?
3. dont you think it is degrading to ask someone else about your and her future together?
4. is your girlfriend her own person, or does she need a man to make decisions for her?
i suppose this is a pleasantry that most people do out of cuteness factor, but to me, i'd never ask a woman's father if i could marry her
2006-07-06 04:35:01 · answer #5 · answered by whoisgod71 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It really depends on the person. It's the respectful thing to do. I feel it's the right thing to do. It will show him that you respect his daughter enough to ask. It's not a "requirement" but up to the individual...just make sure Dad likes you before you do ask! :)
2006-07-06 04:34:05 · answer #6 · answered by itsjustchris1968 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In some cases, its tradition and it is a respect issue. It shows your respect for the girls family you may be about to enter for a longtime. You also earn there respect by caring how others may feel. Good Luck!!!!
2006-07-06 04:33:52 · answer #7 · answered by tiffani72kmg 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband asked my dad for permission before he proposed (even though we were both adults) I thought it was a very sweet romantic gesture, and it won a lot of points with my dad!
2006-07-06 04:51:43 · answer #8 · answered by michs96 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes is good to keep tradition. It will show her dad how much you love her by going to him. He will respect you for it. A father dreams of given his daughter away to a good man. Congratulations!
2006-07-06 04:35:48 · answer #9 · answered by dodgergirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its kind of traditional, i know i will end up doing it but its really up to you. You should probably think about if her family is a little old fashioned. If they are than you should. Either way though, it never hurts and it would also be nice for you to know that they are behind you two 100%.
2006-07-06 04:34:16 · answer #10 · answered by mtugodfath3r 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋