Oh my gosh! Miscarriage/Pregnancy? Women that have been through this please answer?

Question

I just had a miscarriage/D&C six weeks ago at seven weeks along. My doctor told me to wait for my first period before we tried to conceive again. I took my pregnancy test after my D&C like my doctor told me and they were negative. Well... I took two pregnancy tests last night and they were both very positive! I haven't had a period yet and we were very careful every time we had sex! I am scared to death I will miscarry again because I got pregnant again so soon. Has this happened to anyone else? Did you have a successful pregnancy. Please be nice, I've had a very hard time with the loss of my first child. Please pray for us!

If you read the question I stated we "were very careful", that means we were using protection. Also, I stated that I took pregnancy tests after my D&C and they were negative. So obviously I am pregnant again with all of the symptoms. Those of you that were saying I would lose this baby, I hope you will never have to experience the pain I went through with my loss. For you to say something like that says you have absolutely no heart!

Answer 1

First, I am so very sorry for your loss. I have had 2 miscarriages and a still birth, so I understand your worry about this pregnancy.

I won't say I know how you feel, I can't know how you feel, but I can tell you how I felt. With my first miscarriage, I was 8 weeks along when I miscarried. We had been trying for 2 years, watching my cycle like a hawk and we were elated to find out we were pregnant. Then at 8 weeks, I started bleeding. I miscarried, but luckily didn't have to have a D&C.

With our stillbirth, he was born at 19.5 weeks. He had internal organ malformation and wouldn't have been able to sustain life even if I would have carried him to term. I did have a D&C with him. This was almost 2 years after my first miscarriage.

Then with my second miscarriage, I was 12 weeks along. One day, I started bleeding and cramping again. There was nothing that could be done, and I knew it, but it was still very hard for me. I had heard a heartbeat with this one, and everything seemed fine.

Then, almost 2 years later, I found out I was pregnant again. Every week that went by I wondered if this would be the week I would loose this baby too. I got to 19 weeks and I almost had to commit myself I was so nervous and scared. By the time I reached 20 weeks, I was starting to calm down. Then at 27 weeks, I went into preterm labor. They stopped it and I was on bed rest for the remainder of my pregnancy. She was born at 36 weeks. She was tiny and was in the NICU for almost a month before we brought her home.

Seven months after that, I found out I was pregnant again. This pregnancy ran like clock work and my baby was healthy and so cute!! She was born at full term and is as big as her big sister now!!

I don't tell you this to scare you, I tell you to let you know that just becuase you have had problems, there is hope for a normal, happy, healthy baby.

As a medical professional, I can tell you that with this pregnancy, you will be very closely watched, and if you aren't, you need to go to another doctor. There is nothing that says you can't have a normal pregnancy with this one. There is a slightly greater chance of miscarriage, but calling your doctor now and finding out what they want you to do is your best bet that everything will work out fine.

If you feel you need to talk to someone, you can contact me. I don't mind talking to women at all that have been through some of the same things I have been through. I think it helps to know there are others out there that have had similar experiences.

Answer 2

It would be impossible for the pregnancy hormone to be in your system after a D&C.

Pregnancy begets pregnancy and women get hyper fertile after a miscarriage. Only Americans advise women to wait one cycle, everyone else says three months, but that may be more for emotional that physical reasons.

That said, there is no reason why this pregnancy can't go to term. A D&C may have removed any fibroids or blockages that interfered with the first pregnancy (not that fibroids are the usual cause) and you may have an even healthier uterus now.

What you do have to do is stop mourning and be grateful now.

Take your folic acid, think positive thoughts, eat a healthy diet and don't smoke or drink. Control what you can and leave what you can't control behind. Miscarriage is very, very common and does not indicate a fertility problem.

Congratulations and good luck.

Answer 3

Well if you are pregnant you may not be able to carry it. A long time agao I had an abortion(I was a teen) and well didn't know better and got pregnant right after again and had a miscarriage as well. I am not proud of what I did in my past and feel sorry and bad for have done it as well. But however I did read that you should wait at least 3 months after a D&C and miscarriage before trying again. I was pregnant and lost my baby during my 5th month. I had to deliver the baby normally and have a D&C after as well. I then read and read online about reasons and always however come across answers about waiting at least 3 months after. HOWEVER if you are able to maintain this pregnancy that I concratulate you...and if not I am terribly sorry for your losses.

Answer 4

I am sorry for your loss but it was very important that you listened to your doctor and not get pregnant again so soon because your body needs to heal from the last pregnancy. I had a miscarriage once and was told to wait 3 months, use protection or just do not have sex at all. See your doctor immediately. Good luck and blessings~

Answer 5

I am so sorry for your loss. It's the hardest thing in the world. I wish you peace.

Your chances of successfully carrying this pregnancy to term are very good, barring any other risk factors you may not have mentioned. Your biggest challenge will probably be the fear of a repeat. It's hard, but it's conquerable.

Hopefully you've got a caring and aware ob/gyn. Stay in close touch with him/her (if you don't feel welcomed, find another doc) ... your fears are natural, and your doc can help allay them with facts. In light of your so-recent miscarriage, your doc should make sure you get the full panel of tests as the pregnancy progresses (AFP, CVS, Ultrasounds, gest. diabetes, maybe even amnio). Get 400 mcg of folic acid per day, drink lots of milk, eat meat (careful with fish, esp. tuna), fruit and lots of greens, enjoy desert for the last time in your life ;), don't drink alcohol at all, and trust that you're doing all you can for your baby.

You'll be fine. You'll be a better mommy, cherishing this one in a way you couldn't have done before. All the best to you :)

Answer 6

I didn't have that happen, but got pregnant quickly after our miscarriage/D&C. (I had been 12 weeks along, but the fetus had died at 5 weeks but we didn't know because I had no symptoms of miscarriage).

The second pregnancy was text-book perfect and we had our daughter a week before her due date, five years ago.

My thoughts and prayers are with you. You have no idea how many women have miscarriages for their first pregnancies. My doctor told me it was well over 50%. And the vast majority go on to have normal pregnancies and normal kids! You will too!!!

Answer 7

The HCG hormone may still be in your system... that is what makes the urine tests positive. I hope that you have a sucessful pregnancy, but I would also just WAIT until your first period and use some protection like your dr. suggested because your body needs some time to adjust again to be PREPARED to concieve a child. Good luck!

Answer 8

Its the same possibility that you will miscarry as the first time. No more than the last time. I havent been through it but my aunts mother-in-law told me that it still that 50-50 chance that everything will be fine. Sorry about you're lost. Congradulations if you are pregnant again.... and I'll pray double for you.

Answer 9

You may have a higher risk of miscarriage but as long as you "go by the books" then everything should be okay. Just hold your head up and try not to stress because that is hard on you and the baby. It is in God's hands and I pray for the best for you and your unborn child.................

Answer 10

yes and i am still pregnant just go to your doctor you may have to take extra care this time because you may be more prone to a miscarriage now.