This friend of mine is at late 40s, single and real man!
His gf is 28.
She tries to proceed in more permanent relation leading to wedding.
He is not deciding on it!
Do I advice and what, each one?
2006-07-06 04:21:21 · 6 answers · asked by soubassakis 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Its called being honest with themselves, its still a healthy relationship that can blossom into a committed partnership. There is much for each to consider, one, if they want to start a family, the other if their able to do that all over again..in many aspects of the relationship...as a friend I would recommend supporting your friends decisions and keep your opinions to yourself unless asked for them ... good luck.
2006-07-06 04:30:56 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whatever the person above me just said.....hit the nail on the head..To add to that, keep in mind these two quotes (not just for them, but for everyone considering a serious friendship).
"It is only with the heart that one can see rightly; what is essential is invisible to the eye." Antoine de Saint-Exupery
(you don't know the substance the thread between these two people is made of, so it is best for you to stay away from the push/pull game between them. Here age absolutely does not play a role, and you'll preserve your integrity by being silent)
Second quote,
"Life has taught us that love does not consist in gazing at each other, but in looking outward together in the same direction"
Antoine de Saint-Exupery
(self-explanatory..or not)
2006-07-08 16:57:32 · answer #2 · answered by gudrun077 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Friends are hard to come by. Hopefully you do not lose your male friend to his gf. Your attitude toward her may make the difference between her befriending you or encouraging him to see less of you or demonize you in his mind. My opinion is not to give advice but to try to widen out your friendship with him to include her. He will respect you for that.
2006-07-07 20:29:11 · answer #3 · answered by Type3Thinker 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only advice them when they ask it from you, or when they ask your opinion about the subject. They are both adults so they can make the decision for themselves. But if you really want to voice your opinion I truly don't believe it will hurt.
2006-07-06 04:34:02 · answer #4 · answered by B.J. 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If they haven't asked for your advice, then there's no need for you to attempt to guide them. They are both adults and will work things out as they see fit. Let them handle it.
2006-07-06 04:24:32 · answer #5 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If they haven't asked for advice, there's no need to give them any. I'm sure they can work it out between themselves.
2006-07-06 04:49:49 · answer #6 · answered by Licia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋