If you had an affair, will you tell your spouse?

Answer 1

NO! And I repeat, absolutely NOT! Nix, nein, neyt, you get the idea, surely!!!!!

Answer 2

Would never have one. My marriage is between God,my wife and me. I don't think well I know their is not a woman out there that could come between that. I appreciate god's gift to me which is my wife, and everything that my wife does for me and our family I also appreciate. To many people now a days or so quick to have an easy affair,and for what... The time and energy that one uses to put into someone else other than their spouse, says a lot about that person. When they have someone at home that loves and cares about then and you take your love to somebody else. I only say that because if you truly loved your spouse you would be giving that time put into that affair to them a long with that bumpin' n grindin'!!

Answer 3

Not if you do not want to end or terminally damage your realationship with your spouse. You have to ask yourself why you would want to tell and what effect it would have? Telling does not change the fact that you steped over the line, it does not help your spouse because he/she will not understand your honesty, but just see your lie ;-(

I have a question for you: why would you have or have you had an affair? Craving a new experience or kick does not mean you would have to terminate the relationship you have, but seeking understanding for it from your spouse...

If I had an affair, I would enjoy, but not tell.

Answer 4

I think that if you are having an affair, something is lacking at home. If you are not happy at home, then discuss this with partner. If this doesn`t solve things, tell him/her that you are considering an affair if things don`t change. What good can come from a relationship if one is cheating? Honesty is always best. Infidelity can only satisfy your needs temporarily, and have you considered the consequenses, such as partners reactions? Remember the old saying about there being nothing worse than a woman scorned!!

Answer 5

If it was just a one time thing, then probably not. Some things would be better left unsaid. On the other hand, though, if a marriage is so unhappy that one would choose an affair over their spouse, then in my opinion, the marriage should be ended first. It's not much of a marriage if you can't be satisfied with the one you gave your vows to.

Answer 6

If you really love your spouse the thought of having an affair would never even cross your mind.

Answer 7

If I had an affair that I wanted to move on with then Yes to break the marriage. If it was a fun and exhilarating short term relationship that I thought I needed/wanted but had reasons to stay with my spouse then I would not.
If all that is the case then why stay married though?

Answer 8

Do not tell your spouse you had an affair. If you want to feel guilty, fine, but don't drag his/her emotions into it as well. Stop sleeping around, never tell anyone.

Answer 9

No one will willingly confess to an affair unless they are out right caught in the act. This is the way cheating causes marriages to fail, the lies will never stop.

Answer 10

If I had an affair I would ask my husband if he wanted to join in, because it would not be with another man! I don't like men enough to cheat on the one I have.

Answer 11

Yes I would tell him. It would kill me if I didn't especially as we promised to always be honest with each other. I have to acknowledge the fact that I messed up and have to face the consequences. Its up to him to either leave me or give me another chance. Besides when you keep things from your significant other, somehow or the other it always comes back to haunt you and the secret is eventually found out. God does work in mysterious ways. I'd rather face the music now than have it surprise me later on and make him even more disappointed in me for not telling him sooner.