i met a girl recently that i am totally in love with. we both have kids my kids like her and her kids like me, and they like each other, we both just got out of bad relationships with other people, thing is i am so completly in love with her,i am positive that i want want to spend the rest of my life with her and i am thinking of asking her to marry me, but i am not shure if she feels as deeply about me, so i want to know if i should just go for it and ask her now and risk the chance of her running away, or should i wait? this is the girl i've been looking for all my life and i dont want to loose her, i am so confused i dont know what to do, i need suggestions
2006-07-06 04:12:23 · 6 answers · asked by dat killa 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
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2006-07-06 04:15:17 · answer #1 · answered by hoyhoydc 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's too soon. You said that you have just met her recently and both are just out of bad relationships. You could be vulnerable and needy and she might be guarded and just want to have fun. Just wait until you really know her before scaring her away with too soon commitments. You both might want to enjoy the freedom of being single and the thrill of dating first before thinking about marrying again. Good luck.
2006-07-06 11:33:09 · answer #2 · answered by Blunt 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
how recently? think about the impact on the kids, if both of you just got out of bad relationships. she's not going to flip for you (or shouldn't, if she's a good mother) if her kids could be hurt by it. realize that you're not just dating her; you're dating her family. spend the time to get to know them all. that investment of time with her AND her kids should SHOW her what you're really made of and give her the clue that you really care for her. at the same time, if you just recently met her, you might propose and then regret it, only later finding out issues about how she'd treat your children, etc. slow and steady wins this race, especially since it could involve blending families.
good luck!
2006-07-06 11:27:21 · answer #3 · answered by mookiejedi 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it hasn't been that long of a time for you two dating~with kids involved I would definitely wait awhile~if you love her this much now then you will love her this much later~and if your debating on asking her, then you should definitely wait, until you know for sure that she will say yes, and things will be OK~you have your whole life ahead of you, don't rush things, take it day by day and enjoy every moment~I wish you the best of luck!!! :)
2006-07-06 11:25:59 · answer #4 · answered by click 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the best way to handle this ,,is to sit down with her and talk about your feeling, but if your relationship has been for a short time , then i would wait for awhile, you may just be on a rebound
2006-07-06 11:26:04 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOU COULD BE FORWARD AND ASK HER BUT YOU WILL PROBABLY GET A NO SO GIVE IT TIME AND PATIENCE AND IF IT IS TO BE THEN IT WILL BE
2006-07-06 11:22:59 · answer #6 · answered by JULIE 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋