My partner and I pull up at the lights in the car. A girl in a short skirt walks by with her bike and my partner looks. I was hoping the wind would blow up her skirt he said. When I protested he said all guys look at other girls...do I want him to be honest about it or try and hide the fact? Did I tell you I love you very much he said, when I sulked. What should be my reaction? Thoughts on this?From guys and girls?
2006-07-06 04:02:03 · 12 answers · asked by janey 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Lighten up honey! Your man is telling you the truth. When he's toothless and wrinkled and walking with a cane, he'll still be looking and hoping for a little breeze. I tell my man, I don't care if he looks if he is discreet about it. As long as he's keeping his tongue in his head and not slobbering all over himself, just ignore it. After all, there are alot of hot guys you could be looking at. He'll appreciate you alot more if you just pass it off as testosterone...and take him home and while you're making love, say "remember that girl in the short skirt? she doesn't have this does she?".....ah ha!!! Play it to the hilt and you'll never have to worry about him looking and straying....but he will look....and he will continue to love only you!
2006-07-06 04:08:43 · answer #1 · answered by Sassy OLD Broad 7 · 3⤊ 2⤋
Well, it's true that guys look at other girls...just like girls check out other guys. It's a biologically-driven reaction. However, to purposefully stare or oggle at someone else when you are with your boyfriend/ girlfriend is rude, careless, and self-indulgent. Even worse is actually making a sexual comment about the person you were staring at!
Perhaps you should sit down and remind yourself of exactly why you are with this guy. From what you wrote, he sounds a bit immature and not very dedicated to your relationship.
2006-07-06 04:14:32 · answer #2 · answered by lucid_anomaly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is true! All men DO look. Sometimes it hurts. There is a way they can look and still not hurt your feelings, but most men don't know how to do that. It's in their nature. If he really cares about you, he can find a way to meet you halfway. He could at least keep the comments to himself, at least until he's out with the guys. It does seem like the more a girl gets upset, the more the guy likes to do it. So, maybe don't take it so hard, just shrug it off, if you can.
2006-07-06 04:12:39 · answer #3 · answered by harleemama@sbcglobal.net 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's only natural for both sexes to look at the opposite. I love to look at women of all shapes and sizes as they are the most beautiful thing on our planet. Really. There is nothing more sensual than the female form.
I now have a wife who I can share my likes and dislikes with regarding other women. If I see a lady I enjoy looking at, I can do so without getting an elbow in teh head. She can do likewise, and if I see a guy she might be interested in checking out, I will point him out to her.
It all boils down to being confident in teh relationship and with who you are as a person.
I once dated, (notice 'once' is the keyword) a lady who just freaked out when I glanced at another woman. I knew then it was a bad choice of partners and after a year, it was over. She was just far too jealous and it ended our relationship.
So be confident when he glances at another lady. As long as he is not cat calling or making gutteral noises, it is ok. Ask him what he likes about her. You may begin to learn more about him, his likes and dislikes too. It may be that he prefers blue shorts with heels. Then you now know how to turn on your man.
OK, that said, it is also fair game for you to check out guys too. Like him, you cannot do it to promote jealousy, as that will kill your relationship. Use it as a tool to explore each others likes, preferrences and dislikes. This will open doors to communication and get rid of any of the jealousy or envy of the other just looking.
So let it go both ways, and share in the experience. It will build a stronger relationship.
2006-07-06 04:20:08 · answer #4 · answered by BlueFire 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
its very natural to look at other people while your in a relationship. Have you never caught yourself looking at other men. I'm in a serious relationship and I can honestly say I have looked at other men. Just because we look does not mean that we want or are going to act on it. My boyfriend made the comment to me that he loves the summer time because all the little skirts and and tank tops come out. He was serious and joking at the same time. As much as he or I may look at other people who pass by us I know that he wants to be only with me and me only with him. Now if you catch him talking to other women and then trying to hide it from you I would be concerned.
2006-07-06 05:03:29 · answer #5 · answered by LadyD1019 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i does not care about the chick being white. A legal specialist is only a delicate speaking liar, so i'd have predicted this kind of habit. i'd are transforming into a pre-nup to commence with to guard my money. (i'm an engineer). The words he reported does not impression me. i have were given adult men of all races falling for me left and excellent. and that i comprehend if one human being would not love and understand me like I deserve, someone with extra experience will.
2016-11-01 07:28:16 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey gal, sorry to hear bout your bf's general admire on other living species, well yea it is very annoying to watch him staring at other gals, but ..you cant stop him from doing that, it comes naturally. The good news is, actually woman does check out on other male even when they are in a relationship, even marriage, but woman are very good in hiding it(i mean make it less obvious) cuz woman got a "side vision", so woman doesnt have to look to the sides if the guy is beside her
But Men? they have "tunnel vision"(well thats what i heard) so they have to see straight to the object infront of them if they want to look at something, especially to a very attractive girl. My msg to u, Just be cool....maybe is u want a revenge, just check out other guys in a more obvious way, so he will know exactly how you felt when he looks at other girls.
takecare girl
ellin
2006-07-06 17:22:21 · answer #7 · answered by misseileen 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if it offends you for him to look at other women then just tell him. If he doesn't agree then do the same thing to him, when you see a hot guy walking down the street make a comment about him and see what your boyfriend does or says about that.
2006-07-06 04:08:14 · answer #8 · answered by snuffy_muffy_eater 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Looking at other women while you are in a relationship is just being rude to your partner. Voicing an attraction to another person seems to be someone who is bored in his or her relationship. Talk to to him and tell him specific things that bother you about him saying things like that.
2006-07-06 04:12:36 · answer #9 · answered by GreaseMonkeySteve 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your boy friend think so?Gal, you better watch out.It is ok to look at gal but not to have some indecent thoughts in the mind.Just ask,what would his reaction be, if you roll over tongue when you see a sexy,macho looking guy pass by while your boy frined by your side.
2006-07-06 04:10:24 · answer #10 · answered by dev 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋