I know it's an obvious answer but i need to see it from a male point of veiw. i was with my boyfriend for 12 days when everything came to a head and i ended up losing my virginity to him. before this happened he knew i was a virgin and he said he'd wait for me till i was ready. he treated me really nicely and spoiled me by bying me trainers taking me for meals and buying me credit for my phone. when we were about to have sex he was really sweet and didn't pressure me atall and asked if i was sure. afterwards when he could see how upset i was he told me not to worry that he reeli liked me and it wan't a 'f**k and chuck' thing. the next day we woke up together and i went home. we spoke to each other on the phone that night and for 3 days after. the last thing he said to me was 'your special to me' but since then he hasn't answered none of my calls, and we had an sms argument where i said he didn't deserve my virginity he just sed it was my problem. why would he change his mind so fast??
2006-07-06 03:53:46 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I'm sorry this happen to you. But the cold hard fact is that you were used. He never liked you and wanted to only get your goods. If you would have held out, he would have left after seeing that he wasn't going to get it. The bottom line is he would have left either way. I'm sorry that it happens that he left and took your virginity with him. This makes me so, so sad. Whatever you do, don't call this guy anymore. That will only feed his ego and make him think he's got your sprung. Even if it's true, don't give him the satisfaction. This will pass.
And please, please be more careful with your precious goods. It's not too late. Save the rest of it for someone who truly deserves you. If it's meant to be, it will stand the test of time. The one for you will be willing to wait for you.
Good luck.
2006-07-06 04:10:07 · answer #1 · answered by Brandy 6 · 9⤊ 0⤋
Why did he get angry so quickly???? Why did you tell him that he didn't deserve your virginity? I don't care how mad you were, you never play with people's emotions and not expect them to take it personally. Obviously you acted as if your virginity was this special thing awaiting the right guy, then you say this guy was so good to you and never pressured you to have sex. He respected you and you turn around and hold giving him your virginity against him. It was your choice. You gave it to him. He doesn't own you S%*t. Grow up. The next time you spread your legs, do know that it's not gold. No one is going to put up with being attacked just because you gave him some A$$.
Say what you mean and mean what you say.....
2006-07-06 11:08:07 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he didn't mean what he said. Unfortunately, he probably was just looking for sex. Don't be too hard on yourself, but in the future, take a much longer time. (I know I wish I had waited at least a year longer than I had.)
12 days is never long enough to know whether or not you can trust someone in a relationship. If someone says they will wait, make them wait.
2006-07-06 10:58:56 · answer #3 · answered by Melissa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You already know the answer, honey. He got what he wanted and you got f***ked out of your virginity. That's what you get for having a 12 day romance with a jerk. In 20 years when you think about how you lost it, you will still be regretting it. NOW....lock your legs together and save yourself for a real man.
2006-07-06 10:58:09 · answer #4 · answered by Sassy OLD Broad 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He wanted one thing and he got it. Tough break, kid. I went through the same thing when I was 20 - the guy was 35 and didn't talk to me for 2 weeks afterwards. We went on to have a casual fling for several months but it was never the same and I ended up telling him off and not talking to him again. It was a great decision to move on because he wasn't worth it.
2006-07-06 10:57:30 · answer #5 · answered by Rachel 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Loss or retention of virginity ....yes...its your problem and you made a hell of a lot of noise for natural matter!! If it was so precious, then you should hve avoided the coitus but having done with mutual consent, no grumbles.... Try to get him back with other niceties. He likes you still but he didnt like your hype on virginity!!!!
2006-07-06 11:00:45 · answer #6 · answered by THE WORRIER 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Guys are defensive. When you said that he didn't deserve it he was hurt. Believe me. Never had THAT happen, but I've had something like it happen and it ruined my world. That's the reason I've been single for a year and a half now.
2006-07-06 10:58:19 · answer #7 · answered by Toxxikation 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he got what he wanted ...why does he need to call back? really you need to wait and really know someone before you go and sleep with them..12 days as your boyfriend and you gave up your virginity? boy I would sure love to talk to your parents!
2006-07-06 10:59:22 · answer #8 · answered by sweet75482 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cause you put out and now he realized that he really didn't like you all that much. Ya should have waited til marriage
2006-07-06 10:57:34 · answer #9 · answered by psycho 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you shouldn't have said that he didn't deserve your virginity because that might have angered him...coz i think he coud have just been busy and stuff..you should have watched your words a bit...but i'm not blamin you..can you add me on my YM..please...hope you can..trojan_12virus is my ID...thanks..hope i helped
2006-07-06 11:01:19 · answer #10 · answered by Mikelle Devlin 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋