Why are kids with divorsed parents so miserible??

Answer 1

because they have seen there parents fight and its hard on them to see this then 1 moves out and the kids love both

Answer 2

Wow u really dont know??? Because the people they love more then life, the people they count on for everything, all stability, all security.. is BROKEN.. causing scars of abandonment, depression, anxiety, and fear. Their life will never be the same, and no matter how loving the parents are to the children, what they were and what they now are is different..theres now something broken within them that time may heal or may not.. My mother left my father when i was 4, she stayed in town and my father got custody of me, my mother did the ever other weekend visitation, and i couldnt understand why she left me.. why she left my dad, he's a good man, good provider, great father, she says he was her best friend, and although i didnt want to know , but they had a great sex life.. so i said whats the problem.. she said she just wasnt in love with him.. u would of thought she would of figured that out prior to having 3 kids.. im 32 years old now and i still have abandonment issues, always scared people are going to leave me..so if you think that divorce isnt a big deal , that the kids will learn to cope, manage? Wrong they may cope, survive, and manage, but theirs always going to be some hidden pain that will never truely go away..

Answer 3

They aren't always. It depends upon how the parents conveyed the divorce to them, and how the parent treat each other when they meet, and if those same parents are each bad-mouthing the other and using the kid as a tool. The divorce, it's reasons, and each opinion of the other should not be shared with a child -- your marriage is your marriage. And the child should be reminded that tho daddy and mommy can't live together any longer, it has absolutely, positively nothing to do with the child -- "we both love you more than anything....... " So , no, kids of divorced parents aren't miserable unless they are made to feel at guild for the divorce.

Answer 4

My parents are divorced and i was never miserable when it happened before during or after, i guess it just depends on individual circumstances. Some kids are miserable because they blame themselves, or have low self esteem or feel there was something they could have done to help. Or even because they are so stressed because of their surroundings. What ever the reason, they should not feel miserable because it never had anything to do with them, and hopefully the feeling will pass in time. Some kids just need time.

Answer 5

I don't think all kids are miserable. My parents are divorced and it is only hard when family from both sides try to step in and talk about the other parent when they don't have all the information. I say to just go with the flow and don't worry about what everyone says it will change and you will want better for your kids when you have them. I though long and hard about divorce before I got married.

Answer 6

As the daughter of divorced parents, I can honestly say that it really hurts to go through that. Ultimately, as an adul tnow, I can say that the years after my dad left were better then the years he was there, but it still caused a lot of emotional problems that I have to learn to handle now that I'm married with two kids. It has a lot to deal with the fact that when one parent leaves and is no longer there full time, the remaining parent has to take on the role of both mother and father, on top of working harder in order to pay bills that they are no longer receiving as much money to help pay, and that parent is also coping with the divorce and the sudden emptiness in their lives. Divorce is hard on everybody. I started to fail tests and homework the year my dad left, but after a year or so I got better and started working harder, but my grades and work ethic never really returned to the pre-divorce levels. But my mother was wonderful. She spent lots of time with my sister and I and work hard to make sure we knew she loved us. Also, she did do a lot of dad bashing and my sister, being a "mama's girl" also did a lot of dad bashing and she found it easier to accept him being gone. I was a "daddy's girl" and felt totally alone after he left, but eventually I found my place. I've dealt with rejection issues, and the classic "my dad left me, not my mom" issues because a child, no matter how old, will think that, no matter what. I knew better, even then, that it wasn't my fault and he didn't leave me, but that's how I felt. And there's no way to avoid that.

Answer 7

Ther not all miserable but alot of times kids of divorced parents have been put in the middle. The parent becomes the child and the child becomes the parent. I was lucky to have parents that decided to divorce and stay friends at the same time. they loved each other and us but they werent in love anymore. if your being put in the middle sit them down together and tell them how you feel, it helps really...

Answer 8

Because they have to deal with it all. People don't think about the kids involved. They have to put up with the crap from both sides. And they are not even old enough to understand what's going on. Some people need to grow up and not put the kids in the middle.

Answer 9

The arguments they are subjected to. If you fight in front of your kids your showing them not to deal with it just yell. Take it into another room or outside without the kids. Kids are only happy when the parents are even though they are split up.

Answer 10

Because we don't know why all this came about. sometimes we think it's our fault. It's hard for Kids to understand a divorce. I'm a person who parents are divorce. For a long time I felt it was my fault. It seems like your confused and you don't know how to deal with the situation.