my girlfriend and me are together for 4 years, I realize now that I don't want to continue right now because I guess I want to live 1 year free to organise my life, work and finish my studies also she has some ideas and point of views that I don't like.
We broke up and it was my fault I hurt her when this happened, my question is after some period I want to be with her cuz I really love her. you girls if you are hurt what do u expect from ur partner to come back to him if you love him too? the only prob is he hurted you.Thank you
2006-07-06 03:46:47 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
The words "I'm sorry" and time. Go on with your life but always let her know that you regret doing what you did. Become a strong self sufficient person who she respects and knows will not be immature enough to hurt her again. Give it some time. But don't stop living.
2006-07-20 03:40:39 · answer #1 · answered by Gloria 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
U should talk 2 her & let her know that u really love her & that u didn't mean 2 hurt her but u have some things in ur life that u must deal with now & it wouldn't b fair 2 her 2 stay b'cuz u wouldn't b able 2 b as commited 2 her but u do intend 2 come back 2 her when ur done. But 4 now, u all can get together when u have time. Let her know how much u love her and how important it is 4 her 2 b in ur life in the future.
2006-07-06 10:56:40 · answer #2 · answered by triniallstar_4 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seriously, no matter how much she loves you now, don't expect her to be waiting a year from now. A lot can happen in a year.
If you love her there is no reason you can't organize your life with her in it. (There is such a thing as seeing each other less often if needed while you study.)
Chances are that if you are apart for a year that you, too, will change your mind about what you want.
If in a year, you both want to get back together, don't expect things to be as good as they were. (There will probably issues of jealousy and mistrust to deal with and always the question of, "If you really love me, why did you break up with me for a year?"
If things are bad between the two of you now, that won't change.
Good luck.
2006-07-06 10:54:29 · answer #3 · answered by j 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Actually, the impression was not that good...I'm so sorry to hear the brOke up, well, I am not that possessed girl, if things are needed to settle I cope to move on but little by little...I don't want to take some serious decisions that I am not very sure about it.
I think it would be so cool if the boy will be the one who will take or swallow his pride if he still love the a girl. and based on the previous traditions,,girls are just sitting there waiting to their man of their dreams...But if that man really drives me crazy, I will talk to him seriously, I know that Once is enough and Twice is too much but if that is the only solution if we are really meant to each other, I think counseling is a way so that relationships may improved to a lasting love....
2006-07-19 02:27:32 · answer #4 · answered by ~~cLaRizZe~~ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she has ideas and points of view that you do not agree with, why do you want her back? You would just be wasting your time, the relationship will not go anywhere. You made a grownup decision! You used your head and figured out she just wasn't the right one, even though she might be really nice. You should go to the book store and read the book 10 Stupid Things Men Do to Mess Up Their Lives. It will give you a lot of incite.
2006-07-06 10:55:18 · answer #5 · answered by whatdoiknow 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go back to her, and tell her "i know i've been wrong and hurt you but i didn't mean to do this. I really love you and all this time i spent separated from you made me understand how much i love you, how important you have always been to be and that i could do everything to get you back into my life". Tell her this, and take to her some red roses... This maybe works!!! Just tell how terribly sorry you are for hurting her/leaving her, how important she's and that you want a second chance to prove that you love her.....
Good luck
2006-07-06 11:35:24 · answer #6 · answered by smaragda 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you hurt me, I can't forgive depending on what it was, but if you go I may wait a little, not too long. I have to move on with my life because that meant you couldn't go through thick and thin with me.. you bailed. So if it's like this now, what will it be later. I'll still love you that won't change, but it doesn't mean that we have to be together. Sometimes letting go is for the best.
2006-07-06 10:57:45 · answer #7 · answered by anadah 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think u should wait a little while tell her u need a brake since u said u need a free year tell u that u will still love her no matter what and that u want to be with her some day tell her that u were sorry for hurting her and that u never ment to do it and if she agrees on the year apart and u tell her all that stuff than just gather up some time to think
2006-07-06 10:53:38 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, I don't think you really love her...If you truly love someone you shouldn't need a year off. But the main question depends on how bad you hurt her.
2006-07-06 13:28:49 · answer #9 · answered by mindy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she really loves you like you love her she will forgive you.But you have to talk to her and tell her why you want time off so she doesnt feel like its her fault or that she had done something wrong.Just plain out tell her what you told us.You must really love her to go this far!I hope it works out for you and her
2006-07-19 21:10:02 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋