From a guys point of view ...why won't my husband just leave on his own...He says when he leave " he will dog me out like a guy then divorce me"...Why does he want to fight before he leaves, won't it be better if we just went out seperate ways, and call truths. Honestly why won't he just leave like while I'm at work or something...
2006-07-06 03:44:14 · 15 answers · asked by ERICKSMAMA 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He is afraid to be alone. He is wanting you to beg him to stay. Men and women say they want to leave, but do not have the courage because they would be alone. When they actually leave, the see that they have made a mistake and want you back. Why he want to fight? Because he wants you to beg him to stay and say you can not live without him. Good Luck!
2006-07-06 04:00:56 · answer #1 · answered by icemountian8 3 · 15⤊ 1⤋
Men by nature are possesive. And sometimes think a little backwards. Could be he is afraid of being on his own so he won't let go. And since he cannot admit this so as to sound weak, he will try to scare you into staying with him by trying to sound threatening. Or it could be he loves you and doesn't want to be without you and cannot put it into words. If all else fails you can always leave him if it is impossible to stay and work things out. Hard to give a complete answer. Don't know why you want him gone.
2006-07-06 11:10:13 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you own a house together, they person who leaves ends up with less. If you want a divorce, the cheapest way is the two of you work out who gets what, and agree. Then go see an attorney. From your stand point, you just want him out of your life, from what you wrote. From his, he'd just as soon you stay as the housekeeper. Apparently things aren't bad enuff for either of you to move on to get things going......answer your question???
2006-07-06 10:49:53 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's probably hurt and that's how he shows it...he'll never admit it or show vulnerability so he uses anger as a way of dealing with it...it's like the saying " revenge is a dish best serve cold" Basically he wants you to feel some sort of pain too because it'll make him feel better.
2006-07-06 10:55:33 · answer #4 · answered by Maestro 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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Good Luck
2006-07-06 10:55:50 · answer #5 · answered by hoyhoydc 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because he is hurt and wants to share some of his pain with you..Just leaving is to easy, he wants to make you as miserable as he is...I'd avoid confrontation and make sure his departure is sooner than later because he just might get desperate and force his pain on you...good luck.
2006-07-06 10:50:39 · answer #6 · answered by Goodspeed 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you got an "egoistic" hubby thats why. He doesnt want to end something which he feels he had lost (like a battle). Just ignore him and move on. Dont give in to his tantrum. Let him face his own dilemma. ;-D
2006-07-06 10:48:20 · answer #7 · answered by cernad06 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he won't leave on his own, get a legal escort for him. the police can escort him off the premises or can be present while he or you move your items out of the home. Good luck!
2006-07-06 10:56:10 · answer #8 · answered by City slicker 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why dont you go to work one day and just not come back home
call him and tell him since he was wanting the fight you decided to go instead of fighting with him
and if he loves you he will try to get you to come back to him
2006-07-06 10:53:46 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with your first two answers. Let me ask you one.....why wait for him to leave....why don't you? Whatever you decide to do, make sure you think over things very thoroughly and never act on impulse......best of luck to you........
2006-07-06 11:47:36 · answer #10 · answered by cajunrescuemedic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋