Dont you think that maybe they know to much about you already and that the sparkle of newness will be long gone?
2006-07-06 03:40:00 · 3 answers · asked by stephna23_rican 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Hopefully, when a couple decides to get married, they intend on being with each other for the rest of their lives. In order to achieve that goal, you must completely know the person that you're marrying-the good and the bad. That being said, I believe that it's very wise to date someone for years(2-3 or more if needed) before you marry, because you'll get a more accurate picture of what your getting into. I always see these people on TV who decided to have a quickie wedding based on how "perfect" things were going, but then after they marry they complain about how their mate has drastically changed. No, he/she didn't change they just never really got to know the realistic version of them.
2006-07-06 04:10:37 · answer #1 · answered by ICUD 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no, I don't think it's a sparkle of newness gone.
It's whether they are comfortable enough to spend the rest of their life with you.
I'm sure after 2 years there is alot of love, but look at all the factors of those 2 yrs. Has there been jealousy issues? Have you had hurtful fights? Does he treat you as well as you want to be treated? Is there respect? Is there any distance now?
All these are factors that play into a decision of marriage for both of you. Is this the man you could spend the rest of your life with because he completes you as a woman and respects you and treats you with respect?
Or is it just a thing to do?
I'm sure he's weighing all this out too - and he may feel that marriage changes things. It can - now there is obligations to work harder for the family. Everything he does from there on out is for others. He will feel more pressures too. I'm not saying this is all what is involved, but these are some of the things I've experienced in men and relationships - and I knew that if they were not going to be a good hearted provider to our life, then I had to be the one to let them go.
Think about his side too. Good luck sweetie.
2006-07-06 10:56:39 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
isn't this the perfect reason to get married? i would think you would want to know the person you may end up spending the rest of your life with rather than someone you just met and "fell" in love with...did i not read your quesion correctly?
2006-07-06 10:46:55 · answer #3 · answered by City slicker 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋