I ran across my ex from 5 yrs ago on myspace... now he's married for the last year and a half and his wife looks a lot like me. They have a son together that is nine months old... I left him and he tried to find me... I email him and said hello and I had been thinking about him for a few years now... I want him back, but now that he's married recently what do I say? He's torn between...
2006-07-06 03:38:25 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Let it go.
2006-07-06 03:41:24 · answer #1 · answered by shae 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
"He's torn between...?" What is he torn between? If he sought you out [recently] there could be bigger issues at play. He could be looking for an "out" in his current relationship. Trying to re-establish a sense of security [with someone he was previously secure with (if that was the case)]. If he sought you out when you initially left and now you're doing the seeking, it may be best to leave the situation as-is. Of course this all depends on when he sought you out (immediately following your leaving the relationship or was it more recently). Bottom line is that there's very little need to get involved right now, especially considering the ramifications - divorce, custody battle, etc. Maybe one of the psychologists on here will give you a more educated answer.
2006-07-06 03:49:24 · answer #2 · answered by Guyute411 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
And your question is????? Should you try to get him back???? Are you nuts???? what ARE you thinking?????????? you wish to be the correspondent in this mess.... ?????Geeezzzzzzz. Find another. He has a wife, and new baby. How would you like this little echo betrayal to be you, hMMMMMMM???? There are great guys on Yahoo personals, and Match.com. Nice people, as well as a few nutty ones, just like the people sitting next to you in church. What do you say??? you say nothing, and you cut off communication, sweetie..... he's a married man with a child.... good god, honey.... wake up.
2006-07-06 03:44:26 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not to be mean-but, this man is married with a baby. Leave him alone.If he does leave his wife, he will regret it. Don't do that to an innocent child. Do you only want him back because he is with someone else? Please-leave him alone. Besides, if he would cheat on or leave his wife for you, what makes you think he wouldn't do the same if you were with him?
2006-07-06 03:43:07 · answer #4 · answered by Lotus 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
HELP?? U definately need help thats for sure.. GO FIND YOUR OWN MAN AND LEAVE MARRIED MEN ALONE.. if he wanted you that bad he would of waited till he found u , but he didnt he married another..So what she looks like u, maybe thats his type same hair color , eye color , body type,ect.. So what.. stop trying to be a home wrecker he has a child for pete's sake.. GROW UP and leave him alone so he can be loyal to his family.. if you love him as much as you claim u'd want him to do right by his family and not destroy his life or his childrens.. sheesh..
2006-07-06 03:45:32 · answer #5 · answered by brwneyedgrl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
leave him along u dirty beeooch. leave the past where it is. in the past. dont break up a happy family over your selfish needs. think of the kid ans spouse involved. even if u do have feeling. i still think about people from my past too and im married myself. but i leave it there because of my family and i love what have. stop thinking of yourself. even if u tried to start a "friendship only" u know as well as i do. both of you'll end up sleeping around then ya'll be saying how much of a mistake u made. dont break up a happy home!
2006-07-06 03:44:32 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you trying to get back into his life. He obviously moved on. I can't believe you. Women can be so selfish when they want something THEY CAN'T HAVE. It's just coincidence that YOU THINK his wife looks like you...I'm sure she doesn't. He got over you, which was probably difficult, and now he has and has a good life and you are going to f*** it up.
2006-07-06 03:44:11 · answer #7 · answered by jhornneon23 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let sleeping dogs lie. How would you feel if you were the mother of that 9 month old baby and your husband left you for someone else? You would feel broken. You left him for a reason...remember that? I would say find someone else and try to move on with your life.
2006-07-06 03:41:47 · answer #8 · answered by Another Nickname 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So you get to choose between doing what you know is the right thing and doing the selfish thing.
I suppose it just depends on the kind of person you are.
2006-07-06 03:41:40 · answer #9 · answered by ~Gate~ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave him alone he is married now and has a baby.How would you feel if you was his wife and his ex was trying to get him back?
2006-07-06 03:56:58 · answer #10 · answered by TinkerBell 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ick, whats wrong with you? its all over, stop thinking about him and let him have is own life. Thats just sick.
you shouldnt let him contact you, and you should avoid him. He's someone elses man now, and he's a father.
2006-07-06 03:45:34 · answer #11 · answered by amosunknown 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋