Why do people put down Big people? When they are Just like other people!Just bigger!?

Question

I am a teenager, And i am Big. What hurts to most with me is that in your teens you think that you have to be like everyone else, but at times it is hard, when you are a big person you get put down a lot, you never get a chance! See my Dream was to be the homecomming queen but i know that will never happen because i am a Big person! So this is my question.... Why do people put down big people, We are just like you, we laugh, we cry, we talk, we smile, we'er happy, we'er sad, There is nothing different!! We are just bigger!

Answer 1

blame society for makig everyone think that skinny is the acctractive way to be.
but for some people it can show personality trails, laziness, lack of motivation and ambition.

but never stop trying and always keep your head up!!!
NEVER stop trying to look and feel your best, EVER!

Answer 2

When I was in school I also wanted to be the homecoming queen. I am not a big person, but I was never popular. I don't know why people have to be so cruel. The only thing I can think of is they themselfs have some kind of short coming. It may be that they don't feel loved by their parents or they think their friends talk about them behind their backs. They are insecure people and those types normaly need to put someone else down to make themselves feel better.

I have never had to deal with being a bigger person so I have no idea what it feel like to be picked on about that. I am a very small girl and I have been picked on about that. Even now that I am in my 30's people still say rude things. My friends even crack jokes about me to my face. They are only playing around and I understand this, but it still hurts.

I have been called anorixa girl, belima girl, etheopine freak. (sorry for all the misspelled words) I have no eating disorders but I hated being called that. I don't like the fact that some people belived that was my problem.

What ever a person looks like be weight or color or whatever people need to keep their rude comments to themselves.

All I can say is I believe these people are insecure with themselves others will join in to fit in with the "click" and you need to do your best to ignore these idiots and don't let anybody bring your self esteem down! You are in control not them!

I hope this helps

Answer 3

you have to understand that being big is not just a question about beautification, its about health. Being obese is a health risk and increases the risk of heart disease. Personal i find bones popping out too much disgusting. The collar bone should be the only bone that should show a lot, the shoulders should look more defined. And secondly, if you have a problem with being big. WORK ON IT!!! i have this friend who used to be huge and he just got tired of it... so he ran on the treadmill 30 Min's in the morning and 30 Min's at night. He went on a diet, he went wall climbing every week. And you know what happened to him. He recently was showcased in a Young Image fashion show, and is now a public speaker, and is taking up Industrial Engineering, SO basically it comes down to, if you have a problem with how you look? if You do... do what you have to do and never give up... People may back bite you and say nasty things behind your back... But u know, their just jealous that you don't have to be a bulimic anorexic twit to get skinny. People like nice people better. Trust me, a ***** doesn't have real friends, when a ***** looses her bitchiness she looses her friends.

Answer 4

I think it is due to the media first. they shove this ideal image down every one's throat trying to say you are not good enough unless you look like this or that or wear a certain brand of clothing. I myself feel awful about my self imagine and so much of this is due to what all those magazines and TV are saying. And it is not fair really in other countries there is not all this deal with an unrealistic ideal body shape. Why are people mean ! one reason people will try someone different is because that they do not have high self esteem and do it to feel better about themselves
another reason is that it has been taught them by others like family.
Another reason is that in human nature to put down others but I believe in praticing kindness to all and treating everyone as I would want to be treated. I dream of a society someday that will have eliminated all these prejudices and unrealistic concepts

Answer 5

Let me explain something to you. Do you know why things like jeans and buffets cost so much? Big people. You can buy a men's pair of size 40X30 jeans for the same price as a pair of mens 28X30 jeans, even thought the former uses twice as much material, dye, and labor to manufacture. It would be discrimination to charge them more just for being fat, so they make up the cost deficit by leveling out at a higher price that height-weight proportionate people have to compensate for.

Same with food. Resuraunts would lose money on all you could eat buffets if they didn't jack the price of the meal to compensate for all the trips the "big hungries" make.

Biggies skyrocket health insurance premiums as well, having more health complications and requiring more frequent visits. Who compensates? Everyone. We all pay so biggies can stay big.

Yeah, you laugh, you cry, you talk, and you smile, but I do one thing you don't do-- one major difference between you and me-- I take care of godd@mn self.

I'm a motherf--kin' American-- I gotta have my blue jeans, my buffets, and my health care. You're making it very difficult. Stop eating, get some exercise, and pay for your own problems, slob.

Answer 6

i feel you honey! i am a size18/20 and have always been large. i'm not just fat, i have big bones.. and i know everyone who is skinny think that is a joke but it is not. i am also 5'9" tall and wear a size 10 shoe and wear a 40DDD bra!
people tend to get over it after you are a teen. they find out there are more important things in life to worry about than making fun of someone else to make themselves feel good. Just be strong, and if you aren't the homecomming queen you will live, just go to your dance and have a good time anyhow. just remember you are a better person than most of them will ever be!

Answer 7

Yes,it sucks honey. Maybe strong young women like you can change society. I've always been big too. I lost weight,and felt awful,worse about myself than ever. In 4 years,nobody will remember the homecoming queen,big deal,how about be the president? Shoot big,long as your dreaming,dream big. Don't ever let anyone treat you bad,we ARE people,too. If they're too stupid or small minded to see how great we are,then it's THEIR loss,not ours!! Oprah was big,Star was big,and they both caved into society's opinion of what was right and wrong. At least I know MY man doesn't ONLY want me for my body!! =oP

Answer 8

Big as in obese or big as in tall?

I think most people are afraid of what is different than they are. The typical reaction, it seems, is to reject that which is different. This takes on many forms, mostly insults but occasionally actual violence.
If you are obese then work out and eat less fast food/chips/soda.
if you are tall, get skinny and become a model.
Or join a sports team, big people usually dominate sports and people admire good athletes.
Whatever the case may be, your life is what you make it.

Answer 9

I don't really have an answer for that. I don't know exactly how big you are but you really should think about your health. If you're big now, chances are you'll only get bigger if you don't do something about it now. Chances are you won't be the homecoming queen but don't let that get you down. There's nothing you can do about it. Just hold your head up high and keep on keeping on. But seriously do something about your weight for your health.

Answer 10

Somehow it's taught to us that being big is a negative,undesirable thing.I'm a big girl as well so I feel your pain.There is a double standard though.If your a big guy you get a cool nickname like big Rob or big C or whatever but if your a big girl you have to brunt of many hurtful,harmful jokes. It sucks.What make me mad is when a guy disregards me in a single glance just because I'm big.He will never know how funny,smart or loving I am........

Answer 11

Some people are more insecure than you may think, they may put you down to feel more secure about their selves when in all actuality they are the ones who are not secure with their own being. I always tell people that your exterior doesn't make you, the person that you are does. Do not let no one put you down, honey, don't try to be something you're not if you're big,kinda make the best of it. People can only bring us down only if we let them. Do not let no one make feel different, God made us all equal. No one is more than anyone. You are beautiful no matter what! Start feeling that way! Believe it!