ok...long story short, my husband was talking on the phone with some girl...said it was someone he went to school with ok whatever no big deal...he told me. I don't believe he was really doing anything he shouldn't! Well, I asked him the yesterday if he had talked to this girl lately and he said no...well, on the cell phone bill her number was there 2 days before I asked him. should i call him on it or let it go? I don't know if he was just trying to keep the peace or hiding something? really if there is nothing to it I don't care if he has a phone converstation with her. but why lie?
2006-07-06 03:32:07 · 14 answers · asked by daniegurl1973 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Communication! Would he like it if the shoe was on the other foot?
my husband had been downloading images. He did not tell me this. Of course when he was at work I found these images and confronted him about them. I do not mind the images or whatever he does. As long as he knows that he can always talk to me and share with me. He is his own person and I am his spouse. I share every detail about my life with him and that is the way I want it to be on both ends. Well considering he knows that is how I am there was nothing to it! I just simply told him don't hide anything unless you want me to be suspicious! If you want me to trust you then you have to give me the same.
Respect your husband and trust him. Talk to him. If he loves you the two of you should not hide anything you should share everything. Make peace with it all.
2006-07-06 04:11:02 · answer #1 · answered by SL 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i wouldnt say anything just yet, dont even let on that you know anything about the number showing up on the cell phone bill, give it another month till the next phone bill comes out, if you see that he's calling her alot or visa versa then call him on it.. but just this time let it go for now.. i wouldnt even mention the girl to him at all..because if he is up to something if he knows your paranoid he'll watch his back, if he thinks you've forgotten then he'll think he has the freedom to get away with it. till u see what the next phone bill says basically if something up, if he thinks he's able to get away with it, he'll be stupid enough to leave a paper trail for you to follow.., if theres zero phone calls great , if theres alot of phone calls id be busting his azz real quick... but give him the benefit of the doubt first but just dont be blind either..
2006-07-06 03:37:34 · answer #2 · answered by brwneyedgrl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe you need to confront him about his lying and if there is nothing going on then why lie about it that is what puts doubt in your heead to think that it's more then he's letting on. No don't let it go confront him and tell him how his lying has made you feel! Honesty is a big part of a marriage and what do you have if he can't be honest!
2006-07-06 03:37:14 · answer #3 · answered by Danette 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't care about the conversations then you are upholding a possible affair. You give your husband too much credit when it will be temptation coming directly at him through his female friend. Let him know your true feelings before anything gets started.
2006-07-06 03:46:18 · answer #4 · answered by msthinkpositive 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would just ask him about it. You don't have to flat out accuse him but, just tell him you want to know why he felt the need to hide it (if that's what he was doing). Just let him know that you want to talk, and not argue, about it. If its truly not a big deal then he shouldn't get defensive and should be willing to just talk about it with you.
2006-07-06 03:42:22 · answer #5 · answered by ♥BlackGirlLost♥ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him. Ask him "why lie"? and tell him how you feel. He might think you would be hurt....ORRRR....he's hiding more than you know. Hey, call the girl yourself and get a feel for what's up. If she's his 'friend' from school, she'll be very happy to talk to you. Don't blind yourself with trust; and don't go overboard with accusations. You gotta play it smart, cookie!
2006-07-06 03:49:02 · answer #6 · answered by Sassy OLD Broad 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For one, your husband doesnt need to be on the phone with no other female.and if it was nothing, it should of been a one time thing.Hi how you doing, im married now.and thats it. if there talking again on the phone, an affair is about to happen.
2006-07-06 04:38:03 · answer #7 · answered by Moniluv 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't question it, but I would keep an eye on it. I would some how figure out how to meet her just to know who she is... if the phone calls pick up then ask him about it.
2006-07-06 03:42:52 · answer #8 · answered by Skinny White Girl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
let him go girl , because he is cheating on u . believe i know a man is not going to tell u that he is cheating because he is scared that u will leave him , so he will just lye to u and tell u are we are just friends yeah right u got the number and was on his bill two dys before , so u know better he is a loser , let him go because once a cheater always a cheater
2006-07-06 03:40:10 · answer #9 · answered by angel h 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dump him...he lied to you. It will only get worse.
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Good Luck
2006-07-06 03:58:19 · answer #10 · answered by hoyhoydc 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋