I was married for 3 years and seperated for 9 months my wife is now accusing me of molesting my 3 year old daughter!! would NEVER IN A MILLION YEARS even imagine of doing something like this. The only reason I think she and her family are doing this is to piss me off coz she knows how much I love my daughter and her family are money hungry. I frankly dont give a hoot about the money but it bothers me as my daughter is being mentally destroyed this will effect her for the rest of her life. I am now in a corner thinking if I should request that my daughter be put in a home because I do not know if my daughter is being sexually abused at the residence she is at but it is hard to decide this because I could imagine it to not be so pleasant to be in a home. but if she is being sexually abused I do not want her to be there either. I would rather her be with me but my ever so loving ex-wife and family have taken care of that with thier lies and false accusations.
2006-07-06 03:30:52 · 18 answers · asked by Brian Theuma 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I already have a lawyer and have been fighting this for a while but my ex keeps making new things up, I have been seeing my daughter undersupervision since march and she loves me I think that if I ever did do anything to my daughter she would be frightened of me. it is just SICK for me to even think about it let alone do something like that, kids love me and I love kids. I would do anything for my daughter. I just hope that there is a penalty for such lies in the country I am currently residing in coz I know that if I would be put to jail if they believe her. its just plain sick and she is not right in the head to do this. I have been through much more but nothing really bothered me. I been through flat tires, threats, verbal abuse, vandilism, and so on. but I stay calm. but to know that they are destroying my daughter really hurts I just hope the law will deal with her and her family in the proper way and my daughter can have a normal future not the one they haunted her with.
2006-07-06 03:49:08 · update #1
You should have just as many rights as your wife does. You can voice your opinions also. Get a lawyer or at least talk to one. A lot of lawyers will give you a free consultation. If you really think she is being abused in any way, shape or form then you need to call C.P.S.(Child Protective Services) right now. The call can be anonymous if you want it to.
2006-07-06 03:36:58 · answer #1 · answered by Apple 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need good representation, and you need to battle this in court.
If you child is being assaulted at home you must take the risk. However, realize that foster care is the most probable outcome, which i can assure you cannot be a better situation than the one the is currently in.
I would try first to contact your ex, assuming there are no oders to prevent it, and see about speaking with her either via phone or some public place about how best to sever ties and still provide for your daughter.
If you and your ex are past the point of discussing things like rational adults you're going to have to come out with your teeth bared and take this seriously.
I would start a home study, have the necessary authorities come in and see your home, go over your income, have you mentally and physically evaluated, and see about fighting for custody.
Get a good family court lawyer who can guide you and give you a goal to work towards.
This is not a matter to be taken lightly, parents can project situations into the minds of very young children, to the point where they actually believe they have suffered them. While the actual event has never taken place, the emotional trauma remains.
Get a lawyer, plot a course and stick with it. I have a friend who is in a similar situation and has been fighting for custody for four years. Dont quit. Dont give up.
2006-07-06 10:40:21 · answer #2 · answered by amosunknown 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry, but when a relationship is based on sex, sex will be the destruction of any happiness. You do not state whether or not your divorce had anything to do with possible sexual abuse.
If you started your married life off in sin, then sin had its foot in the door to eat away at anything that could possibly be good, happy, wholesome, or strong.
I regret that the child is not taken away from both of you until there can be an investigation done on both households. If you and your Ex-wife were making unsound and dangerous decisions up until this point, I doubt either of you are offering any better or safer environment for the child.
The child is the victim here-----not you and not your ex wife.
2006-07-06 10:39:16 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I went through something similar but it was surrounding
abuse. The first thing you do is file for a temporary emergency custody order so you can take your daughter and you will probably get it, next call a family therapist and get her an appointment right away. She is going to need all the help she can get, She is young enough to stop future emotional problems but you have to act now..... AND I MEAN TODAY!!!!! And as far as your ex goes shes probably pissed at you and wants to make you pay for it but she needs to realize shes going to end up losing her child also.
2006-07-06 10:40:17 · answer #4 · answered by arreis 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hate when people get divorced and put the kids in the middle. They get all the stress of it. People should have just stayed together to start with until the kids grow up. They don't argue any less or more than if they lived together. Anyway. I knew of a girl that did that to her husband. The court found out that she was lying and her husband has custody of the kids. She only gets them 4 days a month. Maybe it will work out that way for you. Good luck!
2006-07-06 10:37:00 · answer #5 · answered by noseygirl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats a hard one. From experience of what ive seen personally. Us woman can be vicious at times. Doing things as you said to piss you off. But the one thats gonna be affected is not you or your ex wife but that precious child. If you feel there is abuse your best bet is to report it then i would think of councling for both of you to resolve these things also a mediator should help. Good luck and god bless
2006-07-06 10:35:50 · answer #6 · answered by budlghtbabe76 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WOW the first thing you need to do is take her to court for slander molestation is a rough charge and why be accused of something you didn't do you need to stand up for your rights and if push cones to shove take your daughter and provide the best home for her without the drama!
2006-07-06 10:39:21 · answer #7 · answered by Danette 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get the daughter put in a home while you fight her mother in court. when, not if, it is ruled she is unfit, you will be able to take your daughter and have complete custody. you might even want to consider filing for a restraining order, keeping your ex and her familly from seeing your child. if there is enough hard evidence to disprove your supposed molestation, the mother may be seen as bi-polar, and otherwise unable to properly nurish and raise the child in a safe environment
2006-07-06 10:40:09 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
your ex wife should have to prove it somehow. and if you love your daughter, let her ex wife take care of her. you will miss her, but if you know your ex wife will treat your daughter well, then you need her for that. a home is the worst thing you can do. find a way to keep the daughter close to your parents, or your exwife's parents.
2006-07-06 10:35:46 · answer #9 · answered by fakejhentros 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call DFS (department of family services) tell them whats going on, everything even right down to the fact that they are accusing you of doing such a thing.. they will know what to do..
2006-07-06 10:34:44 · answer #10 · answered by brwneyedgrl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋