I no hate is really stong word,but there is this a girl i work with and i cant stand her.. Shes been going out with 1 of my closes friends for over 5 mouths now.. Dont get me rong,iv tryed to like her but she is a total cow.. Shes so up her self and she treats my friend like crap!! Shes even cheated on him a few times and trying to get through to him thats shes no good is useless.. She talks her self out of it everytime and he says that without proof he cant end it!!! shes the sort of girl that looks hot but no personality.. Will my friend ever see sence?? How can i cope with her in my everday life wen i just wonna stap her lol!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2006-07-06 02:46:41 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
This is not really hatred...it is very severe jealousy. He's not interested in you.
2006-07-06 02:51:19 · answer #1 · answered by gcbtrading 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when it comes to your friends relationship's sometimes u have to step back and let them see things for themselves, I know it's hard but you did make him aware of the type of person that he is seeing and right now that's all you can do. Unless you can find away to get some proof to show him.
As for as the female don't waste your time giving her a second thought just know that her day is coming. Try to stay clear of her when possible, when not possible only deal with her on work related issues and nothing more. Remember you can't stop her from treating your friend like crap, he's allowing it and only he can put a stop to it.Their relationship won't last much longer so just be there for him when it's over.
2006-07-06 03:15:48 · answer #2 · answered by browneyes517@verizon.net 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should step two baby steps backward! The girl will botch the job without any ones help. When your friend has suffered enough he will tell the POP TART to F.O. You just keep on being a good friend and don't bash his love choice, sometimes it has an opposite effect and can make you look like the aggressor not the good guy!
2006-07-06 02:53:34 · answer #3 · answered by want2flybye 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're opening comment was that she is a girl that you work with. If this is a work place event, then my feeling is that you're not giving enough time to the goals of your employer or that of the job you were hired to do. Immerse yourself in your work, be known in the work place as competent, mature and productive and realize that your hatred for the other person is also destroying (even though you may not realize it yet) your own standing in the company. Save your aggression and exhibition of it for your off hours.
2006-07-06 02:53:25 · answer #4 · answered by nothing 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's not going to see it, then the best thing to do is just let it go. You warned him and he didn't take that warning so it's not your fault if something happens. The best thing to do is just ignore her, and support your friend with what ever decision he makes, even if you think it is a bad one. If you just show how much you care about him as a friend and don't bring anything up about the girl, then maybe he might just come around and see what you're trying to tell him.
2006-07-06 02:51:47 · answer #5 · answered by Amanda P 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You allowing this person to steal your joy. Booker T. Washington once said, "Let no man pull YOU so LOW as to make you HATE him". It's not your battle. Your friend can only be mistreated if he allows himself to be mistreated and he's doing that.
This girl, with the bad personality may be knocking the boots so unless you can give him that the way he wants it, step off and let him handle his business. He will eventually snap out of it, your job is to be a friend and be there to pick up the pieces when it's over!
2006-07-06 02:52:41 · answer #6 · answered by Dancer3d 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is obvious that "others" don't "see" this person as you do! However, there is one thing that is also obvious and that is that eventually - if, in fact, she is like you say - she will be "found" out by others and not just by you! In the mean time, unfortunately, unless you want to "look" like the "bad" girl in this particular scenario you have to "leave well enough alone" and let your abhorance be - let it go - don't do anything about it - and, otherwise, let everything "play itself out"! Again, unfortunately, this may take "forever" - but there's really nothing you can do about it, unless you want to look like the "bad girl" in this case.
2006-07-06 03:10:45 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have that strong of feelings about your "friends" girlfriend, then maybe you need to ask yourself why that is. maybe you want to be in her place,and that's something that could ruin your friendship if you don't deal with it. There's a reason that you are the friend and that the other woman is the girlfriend. if this truly is out of genuine concern for your friend, then you need to realize that you can't live his life for him, and that he doesn't need for you to like her. It's His girlfriend, and if he is willing to put up with her stuff then there's nothing you can do about it. If he's happy then you need to be happy for him. Let him figure out for himself when, if ever, he's ready to say goodbye. That's his decision. If you don't, you could end up looking like his nagging mother and then anytime he tries to deal with the stuff his girl is doing to him, instead of dealing with it, it's much easier for the girlfriend to turn it all around and start pointing fingers at you because you're pointing fingers at her, then everyone starts looking at you and not the problem and once again the blame is shifted to the wrong person and she gets out of it. Haven't you ever heard the term silence is golden? Bite your tongue girl, he'll appreciate you being there for him in the end and not trying to make his decisions for him, he'll figure it out for himself.
2006-07-06 03:00:43 · answer #8 · answered by Angela K 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
lol just dont kill her okay. Have you ever seen her cheat with your friend? If you did why didn't you take a pic of the cheater? Next time when you see her cheating pull out your cell phone that has a camera(i hope) and take it to prove to your friend. Or confront the cheater and tell her if you don't want to be with your friend then leave him alone so he can move on in his life and so he can stop wasting his time with her.
A friend who thinks *just dont kill her*,
Ashley
2006-07-06 02:51:52 · answer #9 · answered by ashgal17 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you're right hate is a really strong word. but if she's with you're friend and she's as bad as you say she is, i wouldn't worry about it... sooner or later he'll realize who she really is and leave her. as for the work situtation, i'm sure that something will work itself out in long run... just try to stay away from her as much as possible... remember its better to take the high road and be the bigger better person than to stoop to her level. Good luck!!
2006-07-06 02:52:57 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Firstly, maybe you have stronger feelings for your friend and feel a little jealous that he feels so strongly for her. If not well I am afraid, hard as it is, you will have to learn to ignore her annoying ways and let your friend find out for himself what she is really like, after all no one is perfect and also we can not get on with everyone is this life... Please try not to let her bother you find some new friends to hang around with and just put your head down and get on with your work...Good luck
2006-07-06 02:53:02 · answer #11 · answered by sparkle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋