e doesnt live up to mine? i just want him to wrk and take care of his family long enough that the baby can tlk.he screams and yells and calls me names when everything isnt perfect but he cant even go to wrk on a normal bases and when he does he find atleast 15 things to ***** about first
2006-07-06 02:41:31 · 12 answers · asked by Hillary R 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Get out of that one fast. Why should you give so much and take so much abuse in return. You need some support and to find ways of raising your own self esteem so that you can find the focus and clarity to get through this. But first you need to see if you can talk to him and let him know how bad things have got. It sounds like he isn't happy either, perhaps you both need to get away from each other - temp ot permanantly I don't know, but you must let him know how you feel. If he can't deal with it then I am afraid you will have to. It is so easy for the man to neglect his place in the family, less easy for a mother. But you will find strength and support to help you through.
2006-07-06 02:47:37 · answer #1 · answered by hooverhumper22 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are in this thing together, tell him how you feel nicely and try to support him and that he is unmotivated for work right now, just tell him you hope it doesn't last long b/c you and your child need his help financially, don't let him know it bothers you to the point of crying he may not go back to work at all (you know the rebellous type)! Sounds like he might be depressed just let him know that if he stays home it is his responsibility to take care of the house laundry dishes cooking ect while you work - No! Do not live up to what he wants and he will not live up to what you want it doesn't work that way happiness comes from the inside not from someone else delivering it to you or to him - Communicate, relate to one another and accept eachother for who you's are threw the good and bad that is what support is really about, try to be happy with what you have and make the best of the situation! This is a marriage threw thick and thin - I know it is hard but don't nag and be supposrtive no matter what you'll get farther. Smile and grin happily looking the other way. Give him time to work out his own problems and unhappiness. Good luck Sister!
2006-07-06 03:13:36 · answer #2 · answered by sophia_of_light 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he's not a real man at all. A real man takes care of his family. He created that family and it is his to provide for.Him yelling is not good for a baby either. I have worked 2 jobs myself to providefor my family. I will say one thing though, not to defend him BECAUSE I AM NOT!!...............being the soul provider is tough. There is a lot of stress. I have been the soul provider ofr the past 4 years. I have had a nervouse breakdown a couple of times. He may wanna see a doctor for that. The doctor can give him Zoloft or something for that. But he still has to take care of his family.
2006-07-06 02:49:08 · answer #3 · answered by dan 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's immature and lazy, and will never be worth anything. Plus doing this he's a bad example to the kids. A real man would work hard to provide for his family. Slavery was abolished years ago, and you shouldn't have to work as a slave because he's too lazy to provide for his family. You would probably be better being by yourself. If you give him an inch, he'll take a mile.........so when and if you decide to dump this loser......don't compromise. It is better to be single and lonely than to be married and miserable. Think things through, never act on impulse and you'll go far. I wish you the best of luck..............
2006-07-06 05:03:50 · answer #4 · answered by cajunrescuemedic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like you need to set some ground rules for your husband. It's what we do for children, right? If he's not acting like a man, he needs to be treated like a child until he can get it right. If you continue to put up with his behavior, you deserve whatever you get. First things first- when he screams and yells at you, DON'T yell back. Ignore him. You are a lady, and he needs to treat you as such. You don't deserve to be treated that way. You CERTAINLY don't need to accept his stupidity just because you feel like you don't live up to his expectations. That's what I like to call a cop-out.
As for him not working- a man who doesn't provide for his family is worse than an infidel. I don't know if you're religious, but that sentiment makes sense to me regardless. Your husband needs to work out his issues, and you need to see to it that he does. If he's not providing for his children AND he's treating you like crap, he SO needs someone to tell him what's up. Might as well be you.
2006-07-06 05:55:51 · answer #5 · answered by elizabeth_ashley44 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get rid of the guy, he is a jerk, and doesn't deserve you. How can you live with such a looser. What kind of man doesn't take care of his family, it is a discrease. Get yourself a man who loves you and take care of you and your children. Period!. Life can be so much better, in every way. For what it is worth, have a nice day!
2006-07-06 02:48:04 · answer #6 · answered by Scorpion 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK you work , save up enough money to live on your own then get a restraining order on him and kick him the hell out. just whatever you do , stop taking his crap
2006-07-06 02:50:22 · answer #7 · answered by jojo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
kick his ******* *** out of the f-ing house and find a man that can live up to everything you want in a man.
2006-07-06 02:51:40 · answer #8 · answered by hoebag82 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl if I were you I'd just get my kids and bounce or put him OUT!
2006-07-06 02:45:37 · answer #9 · answered by seavend7 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
time for a divorce and move on with your life.
2006-07-06 02:44:50 · answer #10 · answered by handydaddy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋