i find porn sites in the history,the cookies and the temp. internet files.he says its not him but there is no one else it could be,plus he has no intrest in me at all anymore no matter what i say or do,its like he's turnd off by me,he only has sex with me when i initiate it and then its once a week if i'm lucky.i just don't know what to do anymore.
2006-07-06 02:25:14 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
dump him
life's too short to live with an idiot like that
2006-07-06 02:28:09 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't trip. Show an interest. Do some exploring in your sex life. It might just spice things up. You'll definitely learn a thing or two, and it could be the best thing that happened to you and your husband's love life. I introduced my wife to porn. Before, she thought was wrong, but now it adds a little excitement and and we learn a few new positions and get new ideas. She actually bought the last one! Just brought it home one night. I understand how a woman could feel neglected or rejected if her husband feels the need to look at other women, but it's natural. We're sexual beings, and ALL men are interested, and you just might be too. It's not a bad thing unless you turn it into one. Plus, you might not feel how you feel if it's something you try together. Give it a shot. It will cure all three problems: you won't feel left out, he won't have to sneak and then lie (and resent you for it later), and you'll be having more (and Better) sex. Everybody wins! Be a little open-minded. The worst that happens is you tried something new, and what's so bad about that? The WORST thing you can do to a man is nag him about something he wants to do. Don't let this push you apart; let it bring you closer together.
2006-07-06 09:28:59 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Been there, darlin, so it's definitely a problem for him, especially when he hides it. You'll have to confront this and show him the cookies that prove it. If it isn't you, if it isn't him, and no one else uses that computer...hey, elves don't exist! It's a sickness and he needs help to break it. Be as compassionate as possible about confronting him with it and let him know outright that it's unacceptable to you, because you are his wife and you are definitely all the woman he needs. Tell him he needs serious counseling for this. Use your security sites in the tools menu to block all the sites from him, too. If he's truly sick and into it heavily, then this will show you a lot about him. Clean out your computer and begin over with a clean slate, then see if he tries to access what you've put in as restricted sites. I'm not using "sick" as in "perverted" , but as in addiction, by the way.
2006-07-06 09:33:32 · answer #3 · answered by save_up_your_tears 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
UGH!! It's an addiction and you know he's addicted! Go to counseling..if that doesn't work...re-think what you want in life? It's obviously bothering you, decide if you can accept it or not and go from there. I personally get disgusted when someone is addicted to porn..a little doesn't bother me..but a lot does!! Plus, he's lying about it and his interest in you has changed..possibly not because of porn but definitely something to consider..in which case ..it's affecting your relationship with him..not good...point that out if you can determine that it's the porn causing his decrease of interest in you!
2006-07-06 09:31:52 · answer #4 · answered by beautifully broken 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Umm..Most guys when they dont get enough from the spouse they do turn to porn.Some men are more addicted than other men.But in reality all men think about is sex.and thats all they want deep down in their brains.Come on they think about sex like every 3 minutes.SO maybe if you want him to stop looking @ interent porn you should give it up a little more or make your own porn.Ask what he wants to please him so that he would reconsider if he really wants to look @ porn or be with his wife.
ps:you need to give him some or find a new man because he doesnt want you anymore if he i s so addicted to porn.He missing something so he turns to porn. Hope this helps.
2006-07-06 09:33:13 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Denise's it? Is Denise coming over to use the computer, because it could be her...
If he denies it though, that's different. If he has an addiction, the best thing to do is throw the computer away. Seems harsh, but really, if you have one and aren't home all the time, then relapses are a certainty.
2006-07-06 09:28:20 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He probably is addicted. I watched a movie about this. It is like any other addiction. They will deny it. They can't get help until they realize they have a problem. Sit down with him and have a serious talk about how this hurts you and makes you feel like he is cheating on you and that you would never do that to him. Maybe he hasn't realized the severity of the situation.
2006-07-06 09:31:02 · answer #7 · answered by noseygirl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to ask yourself: do you really love him? if you do, then confront him and ask who it could be. tell him that you love him and don't want to end the marriage or lose him over this. talk to him. tell him that you aren't comfortable with this and it's pretty much you or the porn. so far it seems like he's picked the porn over you. if you don't want to be with a man who'd rather look at women who look nothing like the average woman than his loving wife, then divorce him and find a guy who appreciates you and make sure you two have more in common than sex.
2006-07-06 09:33:15 · answer #8 · answered by nothingis_sound 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your husband watch porn sites, vis a vis he does not shows interest in you, this shows he wants some more fantasy's in sex life, best thing will be you watch the same pron site, off course with him, he will generate more fantasy , and you will have great sex together while watching sites.
2006-07-06 09:33:12 · answer #9 · answered by Rakesh 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get the books proper care and feeding of husbands and woman power go to Dr Laura s website and or find her radio program listen to what she says follow her advice
hay it doesn't matter who starts it as long as you get to enjoy it
2006-07-06 09:36:15 · answer #10 · answered by mobile auto repair (mr fix it) 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Denise's??? Jeez woman, pick up a book once a year. He's probably disgusted by your pathetic lack of intelligence, grammar, and spelling.
2006-07-06 09:27:14 · answer #11 · answered by Robert B 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋