What should I do about my wife?

Question

My wife works at night and she sleeps "all" day long. I don't know what to do. I have talked to her about this but it does not seem to help. Don't get me wrong, I not just being mean. We have 2 children, a 2 yr old and a 5 mth old and she does not help with anything. No contribution to house work or the children either. I work during the day and have to pay a babysitter $900.00 to watch the children. All she does is eat, sleep and work at night from 9pm -5am. The thing that really bothers me is that, on her days off, all she wants to do is play her playstation...what should I do??? I'm not sure if our marrige will last at this rate anymore.

Answer 1

I suggest doing what my good buddy Frank the Frowner would do: Punch her in the uterus.

Answer 2

Sounds like she could be depressed, lacks responsibility or is trying to get you to see a point of hers of some sort. Attend parenting classes with her if she'll go, tell her that you just want to be better parents to your children and feel that you both aren't giving 100% Ask her to sleep less while you work so that the sitter bill will decrease. Ask her to move to 2nd shift b/c 3rd isn't working out, just tell her you need more help and support. You could sell the play station - LOL or ask her to be more of a parent then a child herself - It is a nice break but when there is work and children to tend to fun and games should come last, maybe she is a bit addicted to it and don't even know it and needs someone to tell her of really how it is, she is not observing herself and she might not even be aware of your feelings... If she were maybe that would be all that it takes. It seems like a minor thing and not something that would be divorce material - Good luck hope this helps...

Answer 3

Maybe try talking to her.Tell her that you and the kids miss her. Be nice about it.Ask her if she will do the dishes or whatever that needs to be done either before she goes to bed or when she gets up.Tell her that its hard not having her around. If you sound mean when you are telling her this it will only make her not want to do these things.You might want to ask her if she would like to be a homemaker.That is if you could afford it.If you are spending 900.00 on a babysitter than thats what you could be saving if she became a homemaker.Maybe you could bring that up to her to. If you feel that your marriage may not last because of this than be honest with her and tell her,but do it in a nice way.

Answer 4

Since you are paying a babysitter any way, why doesn't she get a day job? It sounds like she needs to grow up a little and take some responsibility for the family she has helped create. You two need to have a long talk and try to work out some kind of routine both of you can live with. If she is unwilling to do that boot her out.

Answer 5

Does her income exceed what you are paying the sitter? Does yours? Personally man, I'd throw the PS out into the yard or give it to the neighbor kids or something and tell the girl to grow up! I've been in your shoes and know just what you're talking about, Eventually,no matter how much you love her,something's gotta give. I reached the end of my patience and lost the battle AND the marriage, but got the kids without a fight. The kids are much better off today than they would have been had we stayed together.

Answer 6

Recommend that either one of you give up your jobs to become a full time parent after all that would save $900. Playing the playstation to extreme sounds a bit immature however is she seeking refuge in the game so she doesnt have to face reality ie the state of your marriage. Could also be that your wife is suffering from post natal depression get her to a doc ASAP. Wanting to sleep after such hours is normal but lack of interaction is not, your wife is not well seek help

Answer 7

Same question posted about the hubby doing all the playstation playing and sleeping...lol....Think of something better

Answer 8

hey buddy..dont b so fast..take things very carefully...i am from india..and here v think dat marriage is an understanding of emotions between 2 persons....pld talk to ur wife in a different manner....ok i will giv u an example...
on a weekend take her to a place she likes most..feed her the food which is her favourite..and then by taking her hand in urs...say very warmly abt ur problem...i hope she would change...
if it works dats fine otherwise my best wishes fro heart is always with u....take care

Answer 9

And her reedeeming qualities are??????? Certainly not anything remotely motherly...christ - she doesn't even take care of her own children. Kick her butt up outta that bed and tell her to f'ing shape the hell up.

As for the freaking playstation? Two words...BASEBALL BAT...or toss it in the washer with her dirty laundry.

Answer 10

idiot this is out there as wife sleeps all day and husband sleeps all day. Get a life

Answer 11

Wow! You must be even more bored than I am to post fake questions...