What should I do about my husband?

Question

My husband works at night and he sleeps "all" day long. I don't know what to do. I have talked to him about this but it does not seem to help. Don't get me wrong, I not just being mean. We have 2 children, a 2 yr old and a 5 mth old and he does not help with anything. No contribution to house work or the children either. I work during the day and have to pay a babysitter $900.00 to watch the children. All he does is eat, sleep and work at night from 9pm -5am. The thing that really bothers me is that, on his days off, all he wants to do is play his playstation...what should I do??? I'm not sure if our marrige will last at this rate anymore.

Answer 1

He definately needs to grow up and be a man and a husband and father. Men have a tendancy to think that since they work they do not have to do anything around the house no matter if the wife works or not. Take away his playstation, tell him you cannot take it anymore. You are tired of his laziness at home, he needs to start doing his part or you will have to move since you are use to doing all the work anyway, it will not make a differance. SOUNDS AS IF YOU ARE PRETTY FINANCIALLY STABLE TO PAY A BABYSITTER 900.00 a week, so i am sure you can find a cheaper one than that and do just fine for yourself. I would never pay that much for a babysitter.

Answer 2

First, before doing anything too rash, tell him how serious a problem this is for you. Let him know that you need a little help from him and the kids want his attention when he's not at work. If he doesn't know it's bothering you, he has no reason to change his behavior. After speaking to him and you get no results, plop the kids next to him while he's playing the PlayStation and tell him you're taking a little time for yourself. Go out and do something that makes you happy and when you come back, hopefully he'll have an appreciation for all that you do in the home and with the kids. Good luck

Answer 3

well id let him know how i felt wether it hurt his feelings or not.its not fair for you to work and have to do all the things at home as well. he should step up and be a man and help out. cuz right now you are doing it all so you might as well do it all without him right? i mean if he is into the play station more then his kids and you that should say something thre alone...id put my foot down and say look things need to change or else. id give him a date like a month or so down the road and say if it hasnt changed by this date im done...if you keep doing it all he will let you do it all...no man seems to step up if you are gonna do it all .. all the time..they feel why should they since they know you will do it if they dont....(cant say every man but the ones that help are few and far between..i havnt come across any...) good luck

Answer 4

how old is he that he still plays playstation and has 2 kids? there had to be signs of this before u got married, this behavior didnt just start!stop paying for a babysitter when ur husband is at home. if talking to him to help isnt working, make him do it. ur taking a risk by leaving the kids at home with him, but he's not goin to allow anything to happen to them. when u want to go out or have to do some running around or even work leave the kids on his bed and wake him up and tell him ur leaving, then.....LEAVE! acourse call and check up on them but do it! u r a woman, so act like one! take charge of ur house and ur husband! u work and pay bills just like he does and u have the right to be able to escape those kids too! this is a new time and age, women have babies and still continue their lives now!

Answer 5

You need to have a long talk with your husband. I went thru this with my husband, we each have a child from previous marriages. After we had our daughter and moved into our house I was working days and he was working nights. We had a nice long , very loud talk. I explained to him that I am not his mother, these are his kids too, and his house he needed to help take on the responsibilities. It took a while but now he helps clean , cook, take care of the kids, everything. I am not saying it is perfect because no marriage is perfect, we have our ups and downs but we work at it and we have been going strong for 12 years.

Answer 6

You sound just like my cousin. Her hubby works days, but on his days off. His does the same things. He sit in the den, playing games and watching tv. He be in there from early that morn, till late at night. They hardly talk anymore as well. They only been married for a year now.
It's undertstandable, that he sleeps from working at nights. But when he gets up and got hours before heading out. He should help out with the house as well. they are his kids too. He should help change diapers and fix bottles. Play with his older child some.
He need to start, up cleaning up a mess and do the clothes. Whatever he can do, he needs to start doing it. If he wanted to play all day, then he should had been single. But he not a teen anymore, and when you make a family. You stick in it, and help out.
One perosn can't bear all the load. It's a shame, you being both mother and father. When the father is too lazy to get off his butt. Talk to him about it. Let him know where you stand. Don't take no crap from him, cause he said he works night.
He help make the kids, he should get off his *** and help raise them. Remind him, it takes two to tango. He lives in the house, he should help with it. Stop cleaning his clothes, and dishes. When it starts piling up sky high. Then he get off his bums and get it done.
He should also, pitch in money for the sitter too. His money not better then yours. Tight *** needs to give out some dollar bills , for his children babysitter. Take a day to your self, and leave the kids with him. Let him watch them and clean up their mess.
He be grace full to you, when you get back home that day.

Answer 7

I am so sorry to hear that but you have to stop it right now!!! once they get used to you doing everything they don't want to do nothing.

does he at least give you money towards the house and children? if the answer is no. you have to put your foot down if he don't respect how you feel or even accept his responsibility as being the man of the house. you got to keep it moving. with his attitude and behavior you will always struggle and won't be able to save and accomplish things for yourself. he has to help you in every way. you can't spend all your money and he gets to save his!!! it is 50/50.

Good luck!!!

Answer 8

Tell him whats on your mind. He might raelize that your fed up and put that dmn playstation away. I know if that s all I did when I was home with my wife would break my system and I think I would finaly get the point.... I dont do that though I spend time with my wife and our boys.

Answer 9

So you married a boy instead of a man. Nothing you can do about it now. Especially as he does not seem willing to change. Ask yourself are you better off ith this loser or without him then decide from there what you want to do.

Answer 10

If he is paying the bills, Stay home and quit your job, save that 900, By the time you have gas in your car, work clothes, babysitter, lunch....are you really making enough to offset the cost of working?? you now have kids! me their mom, not just their mother.