What event, either positive or negative, has had the biggest impact on who you have grown up to be?

Answer 1

Like the others here, I think of life as a series of those events... with each one a crossroad where we can choose to continue in the same direction or make a change.

Ironically, getting what I want... acheiving a goal... those tend to have the most impact for me. Because I don't know if something will fit until I try it on. Sometimes, like with my marriage, I find it is even better than I thought it would be. Sometimes, like with my career, I find the "perfect" choice leaves me unsatisfied.

Mostly, what I've learned is that you can't learn anything, positive or negative, if you don't keep moving in some direction. The worst choice at the crossroads, worse than the bad decision we all try to avoid, is to stand still.

Answer 2

I have had a series of negative events happen in my life that lead up to one very positive event and that is what changed my life.

I grew up lonely and feeling unloved by everyone around me. I was on a search for someone to love me which led me into situations that were rather unpleasant, degrading, and shameful. I then was in a mentally abusive marriage that almost put me over the edge. I was attending church at that time and heard about surrendering your life to Christ so that He could direct your paths. I knew I messed up my life real bad and at that time had a 2 1/2 yr old daughter to take care of.

I talked to my pastor, went home, read the book of John, prayed and told God I was sorry for all the wrong I had done and asked Christ to take control of my life. THAT was the BEST thing I had ever done in my life. I look back now and do not feel the shame I felt. I am able to handle negative situations much better and have fewer of them because I know what the right choices are. I am more confident about myself and am doing things that I only dreamed of doing.

Answer 3

No one single event can or will have "the biggest impact" on ones life. Life itself is change and adaptation of/to all other aspects of that which touches it/influences it. Each and every moment ones "life" changes and adjusts, something as minute as a passing thought can be as drastic as an event of near death. Ones perception of something (outwardly or inwardly) can make the difference in making certain choices which would lead to abject poverty or fame and fortune! That which we allow to have importance or meaning (both positive and negative) does influence as well....

I believe that with all the things which have happened in my life (good and bad) and the way I've dealt with them, has all played a vast role in who I am now. But I'm not dead yet and there's more in store! I'll be different tomorrow than I am at this moment, that being a positive or a negative is really up to me.... and everyone is like that.

Answer 4

The 1977 Bucharest Earthquake occurred on Friday, 4 March 1977, 21:20 local time - had a magnitude of 7.4. More than 33 buildings collapsed.

In 1977, I was 11 years old.

Today, I am an engineer in constructions.

Answer 5

I guess 1 event involved watching the first Back to the Future
movie. It showed how if I were more assertive with my life my
future could be different. I quit a job I got tired of and went to another which led me to the one I now have been at for the last
18 years of my life.

Answer 6

Not really an event. I had an aquaintance named Rick who was a master of martial arts, a master chess player (he could play four games while blindfolded and remember where everything was and still win), a figure skater, a masters in engineering, grew his own vegetables in his backyard in Detroit (not the only thing he grew) and now works for a think tank for (yes) our Government. His hair was down to his waist. He asked me what I planned on doing with my life. I was a low-life burnout who thought I knew everything. I didn't know what I planned on doing with my life.
He said, "Never be afraid to change." I took his advice. The result? I'm a well-rounded, secure individual.

Answer 7

Though I see this as both positive and negative.

Not knowing my father or very little about him, until I turned 25 and he wanted to meet me because he was terminally ill and had very little time left. It was the greatest thing I ever did. I learned more about myself in that 3 days than I have ever learned thus far. I was able to push aside any anger at him and any guilt because my mother felt he didn't deserve to meet me. I had always had this feeling like I never did quite fit in with my maternal family. But when I met my paternal side, I knew where I came from and who I was. We share the same eyes, same humor, same love for music, art and motorcycles. He passed 1 week later, It was a defining moment in my life, when I came back from that visit, I made huge changes in my life. This time when my mother hatefully told me that he didn't deserve to know me, I calmly told her that, maybe not, but this wasn't about her, or him, this was about ME, the child they made. The child she did a good job in raising, the child he never knew and deeply regrets. Me, the woman who had alot of unanswered questions throughout her life. Now I had found some peace, that she didn't even know she was missing, within herself.

Answer 8

i can't answer that with just one event....my whole life is one big mess and hard to explain, but i unfortunately had the experience of an abusive "stepfather" *shudders* i can't even refer to him as that and my mum left him just after i turned 6.... then my mom's sister's fiance molested me when i was 7.. of course, this is the first time i've told anyone...

these 2 events i guess would be the defining events of my life... it was then that i decided i wouldn't let anyone walk all over me and that no matter what the cost, an abuser won't take up residence in my home

Answer 9

My graduation from college. I have a 2 year degree in Nursing. It made the possibilities endless.

Answer 10

Having grown up in Africa: racism (both ways) and the destruction it causes.