he told me i was the woman of his life, his soulmate, his everything, that he couldn't leave without me and then left me shortly after i gave birth to our son....went back to his family. his kids are teenagers so i am sure they are old enough to understand..but he is gone and has no interest in our child
2006-07-06 01:38:33 · 14 answers · asked by lamarthe6 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
as a man i am so sorry. sometimes we look for love in the wrong places. hope you find it though.
2006-07-06 01:41:50 · answer #1 · answered by Orselo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Probably 9x out of 10 the guy is going to return to his family. Teenagers may "understand" but it doesn't mean it wouldn't tear them up inside. They have feelings that can't be just brushed aside. My husband and I have had problems and that UPSETS my son big time and he's almost 18. Besides, this guy probably now feels bad for what he did and does not want his kids to make the same mistakes he did. I'm sure you fell in love with him too and he may have felt like what he said to you. But then he probably got alone with his thoughts and put everything in perspective. He should be helping you with the child though - regardless of the circumstances. Only time will mend a broken heart. We all get hurt at one time or another. At least you got a precious child out of this.
2006-07-06 08:43:43 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Poor you! How do you think his wife would feel if he left? She has obviously been with him a lot more years than just one if he has teenagers at home. When will people learn to not mess with married men? They almost always stay with their families. Would you really want him anyway? Once a cheater always a cheater. If he was lying to his wife when cheating with you - what makes you think he wouldn't do it again? You are better off without him. DO make sure you go to court for child support. He owes you that for the next 18 years - so make him pay up!
2006-07-06 09:01:09 · answer #3 · answered by arkiemom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The details of the story really hit hard. But the the man was a total scumbag. first of all if its his child, he has to pay child support. and if he doesent want to father the boy then F UCK him, with time you will get over his sorry a ss and you should really think about finding a good man who will treat you right, believe it or not there are a lot of Good Men who would be happy to raise your son with you. My uncleraised 2 kids (my cousins) from the time they were babies as his own and they were his wifes kids from a previous marriage. But dont forget what he did. If he comes to you begging for forgiveness you need to be HARD and send him packing because a scumbag is a scumbag. and if you take him back he will hurt you again.
2006-07-06 08:52:37 · answer #4 · answered by thmslln3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best way to mend your heart is to realize and accept the fact that you made bad choices. You accepted to be blindfolded by a married man who the played the hind and seek game with you.And when he saw you falling into a pit he was already looking back to his wife and family and could not help you.
Pull yourself out of the pit and be more carefull with your choices this time round.
Your first and best choice now would be to take care of your son.With time he will bring you joy if you accept him and you will forget the sick man.
2006-07-06 08:55:53 · answer #5 · answered by Julieta 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is this really such a shock? He was married and messing with you. Did you really think he had character or a soul? No! He was a pig! You're probably not the only one he's done it to. He knows what to say to get what he wants. For your sake and your child's, smarten up and stop messing with married men. Get yourself a real, available man and hope no woman does you the way you did his wife.
2006-07-06 08:42:39 · answer #6 · answered by morrowynd 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you knew the risk when you got involved if he didnt leave her before he got with you chances are he was not going to leave her afterwards. i am married my husband cheated he told the chic anything he thought she would believe to keep her hanging on. If i were you i would call his wife and tell her that you have a kid and you need his support, kids
need a daddy but they also need a good mother. you be strong because right now you are all that kid has.
2006-07-06 08:47:10 · answer #7 · answered by shanesha n 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why would you even take up with a "married man" to begin with.
men lie, as you found out.
only thing you can do now is:
1) get a blood test and make him pay child support anyway.
2) forget him
live your life for you and your child anyway. show yourself that this going to be good thing instead of a negative thing, surround yourself with friends and family , especially for your child.
he needs to pay child support no matter what , even if he dont want anything to do with his child with you.
but make him pay child support anyway!!!!!
get to the courthouse today!!! and file this!!!!!
2006-07-06 08:47:39 · answer #8 · answered by cats3inhouse 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl, forget about him it might be hard, But you have your son to think about an d focus on, It's his lost and you can move on to bigger and better things. Evidently he was all about lies to get you caught up into believing him. You deserve better so you move on and find your soulmate for you and your son.
2006-07-06 08:46:50 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Learn from the experience and be more careful. At least you didn't end up getting stuck with the jerk for the rest of your life. It could have been worse!
2006-07-06 08:45:22 · answer #10 · answered by Ahab 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, shame on you too because you shouldn't mess with a married man. Now, he has to support your child so bring him to court.
2006-07-06 08:44:06 · answer #11 · answered by batinara 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋