I have been having sex with men ever since my first sexual experience. I am now 30 years old and I have a relationship with a woman.Having sex with her is the best thing that has ever happened to me. I also have strong feeling for her.However, I dont like the idea of being a lesbia and spend the rest of my life with a woman and no family of my own
2006-07-06 01:07:07 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Maybe you can be a bisexual.
2006-07-06 01:09:54 · answer #1 · answered by god0fgod 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're truly thinking inside the box. It's good that you haven't given yourself a label, but at the same time, some people realize later on life that they are gay, it literally can come out of nowhere. And then you start to see who and what you really are. Anyone can have a family of their own, regardless of of their sexual nature. And if you don't like being a lesbian, then don't be with a woman. You're making such a double standard for yourself and that person you're with.
2006-07-06 11:10:01 · answer #2 · answered by graciefaith1 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lesbian couples do have children. You can adopt or one or each of you can bear children by artificial insemination. You're 30 years old, you know that. So the real question is whether you can bear being labeled.
Or maybe you just don't love her the way you think you should. Or maybe you should just get over the anxiety, and talk with HER about it.
Being a lesbian would NOT be the end of the world.
2006-07-06 08:28:03 · answer #3 · answered by michael941260 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the only thing holding you back is not having children, there are MANY ways around that little stumbling block.
I notice you haven't mentioned about men since you've met this woman. Are you still attracted to them? If not, I suspect that you are a lesbian.
I for one am glad for you that you've found someone that makes you so happy. Don't let a stumbling block turn into a wall. You'll make it work if you try.
Best of luck to you.
2006-07-06 08:51:28 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are happy with her, if she provides you with all that you want and need in a relationship, if she inspires you, makes you laugh, is your friend above all else, if you have all the staples of a loving intimate relationship then why wouldn't you consider that you could build a "family" with her? You can adopt, you can have Donner sperm.. there are options. Bottom line is that it doesn't matter if you have been with men, or even feel like you could be again...If you have met your soul mate then it doesn't matter what "sex" they are. If she isn't, then move on before there is even more hurt involved.
2006-07-06 08:47:07 · answer #5 · answered by bunky 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't mention having great sex with men. Sounds like you have to come to tems with your sexuality, which can be very frightning. By the way, just because you are lesbian does't mean you can't have a family of your own including a life partner and children.
2006-07-06 08:13:25 · answer #6 · answered by SUzyQ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are unique in who you are and what youv'e been through in life and it's your own journey !
I dont know much, but this one thing I do know.
There are many men that think being with a women is only about sex, but that is the least of it. Maybe you needed more affection or attention and the men in your life weren't giving it to you, and you have recieved this from another women!
2006-07-06 08:42:56 · answer #7 · answered by Catt 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think that you are considering being lesbian but you know where your heart is. if you don't like the idea of being with a woman, why are you with her. we were made for the opposite sex, not to be with the same gender. just have girls as your best friend, not your marriage preference. if you get married, the thrill of having a woman with you may fade away and it might not be that great. if you want a family, folllow that thought. hope all goes well.
2006-07-06 08:13:54 · answer #8 · answered by musicfish93 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your doubts reveal your true inner spirits problems with the lifestyle.No one is actually born gay or lesbian .Check out a few ministry groups of people that came from that lifestyle and it will help .If they where born that way no one would ever be able to change.
2006-07-06 08:16:10 · answer #9 · answered by Mr Toooo Sexy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes that is a very serious thing to happen... i think you made a mistake.. and think that it is not normal for a women to be with another woman.. things may seem nice and you might of enjoyed it but it is wrong in gods eyes and yes it is wrong in my eyes.. the world is getting so bad with things like that.. but some will except this and some will shun you.. how would your family feel about this.. and you want children to love and enjoy...think about what you are doing, and i hope you make the right decision....god made man and then he made woman for the man.. and she is to be his helpmate...i do not think you are a lesbian and i hope you never engage in anything like that again...the devil comes to kill steal and destroy....and it may look good or feel good but it is not right....
2006-07-06 08:12:57 · answer #10 · answered by sanangel 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, it sounds like you're bi-sexual. There's a good chance this is just a "passing" phase, or this could be the start of a new you. Good luck and enjoy.
I'm a lesbian trapped in a man's body :-)
2006-07-06 08:11:10 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋