My brother wants to go out dressed as a girl?

Question

My younger brother is a cross dresser,i have known this for a while and do not have a problem with it, but he wants to go out dressed and has asked for my help should i help him and where should we go i dont think he is confident enough for shopping but does look very convincing

Answer 1

Tricky situation. I'm sure you want to support your brother's choice of dress and I would too. The decision to go out that way may depend on the area in which you live. Are you surrounded by people who are phobic about that sort of thing? If so, you may want to prepare him for that. It's unfortunate that we can't just dress however the heck we want without possible ridicule or staring.

You could shop in the next town or city over from you if he is uncomfortable shopping near home at first. Good luck

Answer 2

This isn't a passing 'phase'. You can read about the condition in the American Psychological Association DSM-IV. What is important for your brother now and in the future is a support network. W/o one he will likely go thru a series of alternating periods of acceptance and self-purging (throwing away his fem clothes, makeup, etc). These alternating periods can have a devistating effect on his self-esteem and sense of self-worth. Worse, during the guilt and recrimination periods he is more likely to engage in risky behavior (ie substance abuse, unprotected sex, etc.)

On the positive side, there are soooooo many more resources and support groups to help him accept himself and prosper, the outcomes are so much more positive than they were even a decade ago.

So, the short of it is, yes help him dress. The long of it is talk about it with him, how he feels being 'different' than other boys his age and let him know you think is a super person, that includes not only his crossdressing, but all the other human qualities you love about him.

Answer 3

I saw that movie last week! LOL..seriously, I think that even being concerned about it shows that he's better off than most becuase you're around to help him. I don't personally endorse cross dressing, but I guess the deeper question is your comfort level with his request. If it doesn't bother you....then why NOT help? He obviously thinks you look good in your clothes, so why not take him where you shop?

Answer 4

Hey, you say he's passable.
Coach him a bit with walking, body movements, gestures and speech, then take him to the mall.

As a young person, your bro probably won't need much make up, maybe just a touch to soften the features, if necessary. Careful with the shoes and don't try to make him/her look glam.

What are you going to do when the guys start hitting on you two?

Could be fun, or it could be real nasty.

Play carefully

Love Augusta

Answer 5

Go out in the evening somewhere with a lot of people and go window shopping. That will let him build his confidence and slowly interact with crowds as he gets better he can try going into stores and restaurants. Whether you help him is up to you and should be dictated by your comfort level. Don't let him guilt you into doing something you don't want to do.

Answer 6

i don't believe of you should, it really is merely incorrect. merely because he's youthful, does not advise he wouldn't have emotions. If he would not opt to dress as a lady (and maximum little boys do not elderly 6) then you definately have absoloutely NO excellent to rigidity that on him. undesirable element. have you ever seen how he will sense? it really is probably he will be incredibably embarrased now to not teach puzzled. You do comprehend thats a kind of abuse excellent? provide one among your woman acquaintances a makeover, or discover an older CONSENTING male to dress up, not your little brother who evidentally wouldn't have a say in the count number number.

Answer 7

Please do help your brother. Not knowing all the particulars of your brother's condition I can't say if she is Transsexual for sure, but being she's outed herself to you , it is my guess. If I'm right she needs all the help and support her family can give her.
Going shopping in Malls is very safe, and her confidence will build with time.
I commend you for being such a kind and open minded person. I would also recommend that she see a therapist who specializes in Gender Identity Disorder (GID) to help her evaluate her condition.
Best of luck. Tammi Dee

Answer 8

Can you take him to a gay friendly area to start in? West Hollywod if you are near LA, Chelsea if you live near New York, South Beach if you are in Florida. Most major US cities have Gay friendly areas. Start with those and branch out.

Does he go to gay bars in Drag? How does that work?

Some gay bars are more accepting of dressing drag than others. Find out which ones are in your area. Just call them up on the phone and ask.

Answer 9

Yes, you should help him, because he will never stop dressing. I thing you should help him dress and make sure he looks passable and start out with just a walk around the neighborhood and then build up to shopping.

Answer 10

Of course you should help him. He may need your expertise. You wouldn't want him to look anything less than his best, even if it isn't quite what you are accustomed too. If you have no other pre-existing reasons not to help him (I despise one of my brothers for molesting his daughter, I certainly won't be helping him with anything), why should this be any different than any other opportunity for bonding with him? Enjoy the time you have together, you never know when that might end, for whatever reason.