2006-07-06 00:53:13 · 10 answers · asked by ? 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
You should do what u want to do. You have a right to know about your father, no matter how your mother feels about him. Everyone has a right to know about both parents. But, don't get ur hopes up sweetie.......he may not want anything to do with you.....Good luck!
2006-07-06 00:56:55 · answer #1 · answered by honey_bear_21_1999 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My best advice, (my own situation was reversed, it was my mother who left) is wait until you are 18 to pursue it. Your Mom is scared right now, she loves you so much, has been there for you now and forever. She chose YOU. Sometimes we meet that other parent when we are too young to understand what the situation was and is. Usually we meet them before we are mature enough or going thru an "angry" period with our parents, and we go looking for our "real" mom or dad. These people, basically strangers often seem to be "greater" or "cooler" and we end hurting the ones who really love us and become disappointed by these strangers who show their true colors and not only disappoint but often even reject us, again. That cruel lesson usually comes after years of pain and we are adults and we then understand, completely what our parent, who stuck with us was trying to tell us. I refused to give my son his fathers name until he was 18. He is 21 now and has never had a problem with it. He has also realized......he has nothing to say to the guy.
God Bless you honey!
2006-07-06 01:13:49 · answer #2 · answered by texrome 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should know where he is and go for him because he is your dad!!!!
he left you before, you born....Did you ask your self why? There are lot of reasons however he shouldn't even think to leave you...but he did,,,forgive him,,,and give him a chance.
if he is so bad when you will deal with him give him 3 chances and if he still become bad..just forget about him
When you find someone to live with him try, to be sure that he is caring father to stay with you and your children.
2006-07-06 01:03:32 · answer #3 · answered by dragowolfthelegend 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some things are left ignored. I know it's a very hard thing to do, but it has to be done. Im not telling you to erase from your mind, im telling you to not let it get to you. The day will come when your mother will tell you why he left. If already have found out, then there shouldn't be a worry in your mind, just the thought. Think about it sometimes, but if you let it get in the way of your social life (as I have done with many of my problems), it will ruin you and your friends. Dont be sad, because you dont have to be. ^_^
2006-07-06 01:03:57 · answer #4 · answered by grey freeman 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do what your heart tells you. You know the little voice inside, sometimes it knows more than we do.
If you want to find you dad then try, at least you will have no what if's to worry about. There are 3 sides to every story, his, hers, and the truth.
Cheer up and follow your heart, tell your mother you are not doing this to be mean to her. Tell her it has nothing to do with her, it is something you need to do.
Don't go with any expectations, you never know what may happen. At least you have given him and yourself a chance.
Best of luck and stay strong
2006-07-06 01:04:39 · answer #5 · answered by american_angel068 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say you do what you need to do to satisfy your curiosity. Don't meet him with any expectations. I would write a list of questions, so you get them all answered. He may be a different man than he was all those years ago.
Do not let your mother's opinion of him become your opinion. You form your own after you meet him.
No matter what happens, if you just pray about it, the Lord will guide you with what to do.
2006-07-06 00:59:39 · answer #6 · answered by Billie W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ive been through this myself.its a tough place.my parents divorced when my mom was carring me.i remember meeting my dad for the first time when i was about 7.my mom was about to remarry.he was in a body cast from a car wreck and he said come give your dad a hug and i told him i dont hug strangers and i walked off..i never seen or heard from him again until i was 24.he knew where we were but never sent so much as a bday card or anything.when i moved back here me and my brother boith wanted to get to know him.so we started to hang out with him time to time.my brother got more attached then i did.because he was able to forgive him.i couldnt and i still cant.my brother went to live with my grandparents was handed everything he wanted.i stayed with my mom and step dad.where i learned i had to earn things in life they werent handed to me.my "sperm donor " as i call him never helped my mom as far as the first penny goes.i cant forgive that.i feel like i could of been able to have more or at least i know it would of helped my mom.i deal with it on 2 sides now. my sons dad is my ex and he pays child support and it really does make a difference even if it dont seem like a lot but it really helps out.the last time i seen my real dad he gripped about having to pay child support for 2 kids he had in another state.i know i didnt miss anything.and chances are you arent missing out either if he hasnt made an attempt to get in touch with you i wouldnt bother.i know not much more of him now then i did before i met him and i havnt missed out on anything...best of luck....if you give it a chance...dont let your guard down to get hurt again...im civil but i dont go out of my way for him. i feel he owes me not me him...best of luck
2006-07-06 01:15:56 · answer #7 · answered by huntress2800206 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find your Father and ask him if he would like a father daughter relationship. Many people do stupid things when they are young. Give him a chance, you may discover something very special.
2006-07-06 01:02:10 · answer #8 · answered by Victoria D 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u should ask the reason for leavıng u from ur mother then decıde
2006-07-06 01:00:07 · answer #9 · answered by aydn55 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What do you really feel? If you live with remorses you don't really live well! Do what you feel inside you!
2006-07-06 01:00:02 · answer #10 · answered by marilym25 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋