2006-07-06 00:36:28 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
The problem is I have everything at ease and I know my wants. I know that this is the person I want to marry and to take on a commitment and new culture. I went to see my fiance and everything was good until my fiance's friend started screaming at me then my bad side got started. Normally I don't have a issue with tempotmental problems though I have my times. Ever since then I have had issues though I want to behave and take on these responsibilities too as a wife. I do take medications and so I know it is not that either. I am not sure if I am just scared in general. I was engaged before but not starting to plan a marriage.Maybe these details can help people to help me out better.
2006-07-06 01:25:55 · update #1
Are you sure you love this man and want a life----20,30,40+years of living with this man??? you mentioned a "new culture" are you sure you are not just fascinated with an adventure of living in different culture???!!! That's what it really sounds like!
End it, end it now! you don't know what you really want out of life....sounds like you are searching for something to bring you a fantasy life!
Seek God---ask HIM what HIS plans are for you---HE has one you know----Pray and ask the LORD JESUS to give you peace---and the Holy Spirit will guide you to the right path!
2006-07-19 10:20:55 · answer #1 · answered by dee 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can't just shove this aside.
You might want to talk about this with a counselor, like a visit or two might be enough.
Do you know what's really holding you back?
Do you know about Myers-Briggs temperament sorter? You can read about it on the web.
Anyway, some people are just not as comfortable with a closed decision about anything. They are the ones who second guess every decision they make; they prefer to leave things open ended; they always want more data!
So, I wonder what it is with you? Your temperament type? Bad experience in an earlier relationship? Scared by the statistics? Just scared? Are you not that emotionally committed?
Well, as far as life is concerned, you could try telling yourself that you are going to give that issue your full attention between such and such hours of the day, and during other hours (specify) you will leave that issue on the shelf, and just give your full attention to work, or whatever it is in life that you need to attend to.
2006-07-06 07:44:55 · answer #2 · answered by calliegal55 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your mind is telling you not to marry this person, then you should listen to your mind. We all have a sixth sense and many times we would be better off if we listened to that sixth sense.
Until you are certain that you wish to marry this person, don't. You may save yourself from heartache later on. Try to determine what is holding you back from marrying this person and decide if you really want to spend your life with him or her.
It is much easier to break an engagement than to break a marriage.
Don't do anything until you are 100% certain.
2006-07-06 07:40:31 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you marrying your fiance or your fiance and his friend(s). Suggest the two of you set down and have a come to Jesus meeting about what your expectations are. You are not going to be joining your fiance as "just another friend" and his friend(s) have to grow up and realize that marriage is different from being friends.
2006-07-17 10:44:42 · answer #4 · answered by acmeraven 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I think either subconciously or consciously you have something that you are not quite sure of yet and whatever it is, is really important to you otherwise you would not be hesitating so. This question (aka "mind") you will need to either confront your fiance and have answered if it involves you and him, or if it is you only, you still need to convey that to him. Maybe he can help. And if you still dont know what to do, go seek someone that has never steered you wrong and talk to them.
2006-07-06 07:41:44 · answer #5 · answered by butterfly071466 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have heard this many times before and again and again.
The answer is simple./.......you are not ready yet and should not be engaged.
Your jumping the Wagon before you have had a chance to live your life and go see things. Enjoy your life and be free and one day when you're ready you will know it.
So give him back the ring or mail it to me at 124 Rochester drive, St Paul , MN, 34567....just kidding,
Move on with your life.
2006-07-15 12:43:57 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry! When you get married,you will be sure to lose your mind.
2006-07-19 17:15:43 · answer #7 · answered by onelonevoice 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get out while you can
2006-07-15 04:15:10 · answer #8 · answered by Ric 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋