started out cheating early and i stayed with her and just continued on till almost a dirvorce so how do you mend a broken heart i guess is what i need to know if there is a answer to that question? i love her but not in love like before now we have kids and its even harder but trying to work thru it. i would just like to hear the oponions of some other people. so what do you think?
2006-07-06 00:16:18 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Didn't you just ask this question under a different name
2006-07-06 00:27:52 · answer #1 · answered by jeff402006 3 · 6⤊ 3⤋
You are such an ***, why do you let her do what she is doing. Put your foot down, and asking how do you mend a broken heart, my answer to you is very slowly. Do you really love her or is it a habit being with her and not wanting to have to start all over again. You must make up your mind now do you want to carry on being hurt or do you want to get on with your life, because my freind from a womans point of view, she is not going to stop messing you around. My advise to you pack up and move on, take the kids with you if you can get custody of them. My freind my parents stayed together for the sake of the children and it did them no good. Get out while the going is good, and you know what you will get over her sooner than you think.
2006-07-06 00:50:13 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she has been cheating from the beginning then why bother. But anyway, to stay with someone for the sake of the children is wrong. It shows them a bad example. You want your kids to find love and happiness, they will see that you two are miserable and feel that that is what they should find. If you are no longer in love with her then leave her. You can be a father to your kids no matter what. Just make sure that she is in the right state of mind. With the world today you never know. Protect your kids.
2006-07-06 01:09:49 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Doesnt matter if you have kids or not. I feel your pain bro. I have been there just like you(same thing). I also have kids. One thing I didnt do that you did was take her back. I have found out over the years once they cheat they will always go back to doing it again. Here is ther reason. People are just like kids. Give them and inch they will take a mile. She cheated on you again b/c she knew you would take her back. Stop being a doormat. Get out bro, NOW. It will be hard at first but trust me, It will get better and better than you would ever think. It will be hard on the kids but set aside everything and comfort them in every way. Just show them you love them and everything will be fine. Trust me. Good luck
2006-07-06 00:27:57 · answer #4 · answered by bigdog_0032 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, first in my opinion, shouldnt just pretend that everything is ok, and since both of you have gone outside the marriage, IT IS TIME FOR A DIVORCE.
dont stay "for the sake of the kids" they will be hurt at first(the shock of course) but in time it does work out for the kids.
you are both setting bad examples for your kids by staying in a marriage where both of you are not happy.and the kids already know this, by the tension in the house.
kids want their parents to be happy even if thats living apart. and you will be showing them that its ok to have a divorce if you are not happy with the person you are with,both of you will start resenting each other.
and after the kids are grown and gone on their own, then what?
so why let it linger that long, let go now, since both of you are not truly happy with each other.
my aunt and uncle stayed together for 40yr "for the sake of their kids" and they were miserable and so wer the kids.
2006-07-06 00:55:14 · answer #5 · answered by cats3inhouse 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
in the starting up does he love you? truly i do not have self belief a guy truly loves a woman if he cheats on her really more beneficial than once. i stumble on that to be the most disrespectful ingredient a guy can do to a woman. Getting lower back at him a similar way does not sparkling up some thing it in straightforward words makes issues worse because now he will use that adverse to you as his excuse to proceed to cheat on you. adult males are humorous like that, it really is nice for them to do it yet when we do it, nicely you need to understand. in case you do not care that he would not appreciate you than stay with him and manage it, yet i does not. As for the toddlers, he can stay a father to them, he would not pick to stay with you for that. No appreciate for you.No love for him. Having youthful ones does not advise you should stay miserably mutually with a guy who isn't nicely worth some time. imagine about it this form, he's hurting you emotionally & mentally & who's acquainted with what type of awfull STD he can carry abode. Have some appreciate for your self and picture about you and your toddlers first. Throw his outfits out the door and enable one among his section chicks guard him. he will sense sorry about it later on, even if it will be too previous due. sense free and take care.solid success.
2016-11-05 23:23:56 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Quit being a human sacrifice. Get yourself your own place and get your head on straight. If you think staying together for the kids is good, you're wrong. Kids can tell when bull****'s going on. You'll feel real good about three months after you remove yourself from the scene. She already left you, man. You can always arrange to see your kids on weekends.
2006-07-06 00:27:59 · answer #7 · answered by Me in Canada eh 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be a man, lay down the law! if she cheated 1 time, she will always be a cheater! Time for you to go out and have fun, there are alot of women out there that would bow down to you, but I am not sure she is worth it, at least she wouldn't be to me, even with kids. You can still be their dad without being with a whore
2006-07-06 00:27:36 · answer #8 · answered by wondering 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
.ok lothario since you conventually asked the same question i did heres your answer i waited 13 years before i cheated on him and the only reason i did is because i had a girlfriend and him and her was ******* behind my back so i paid him back plus i got tired of hearing im sorry and it want happen anymore baby. well i really just done it to see what else was out there besides him. ive been with him since i was 19 and we have 4 kids together and besides that im tired of the excues from him so i got revenge. no i shouldnt have stooped to his level but it felt damn good to hurt him like hes hurt me. so theres your answer to my question and yours.
2006-07-06 01:31:05 · answer #9 · answered by blueeyed sexy blonde 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
;You need to run as quickly as you can to a divorce attorney. Make sure you have proof of your wife's infidelity and get custody of your children. Focus on teaching them the importance of honesty and leave this women in the dust.
2006-07-06 00:38:32 · answer #10 · answered by Answergirl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋