started out cheating early and i stayed with him and just continued on till almost a dirvorce so how do you mend a broken heart i guess is what i need to know if there is a answer to that question? i love him but not in love like before now we have kids and its even harder but trying to work thru it. i would just like to hear the oponions of some other people. so what do you think?
2006-07-06 00:07:30 · 11 answers · asked by blueeyed sexy blonde 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Understand that cheating is dangerous for the people in a relationship. When a person gets intimate with someone outside of their relationship, they are opening the door to pain-a lot of hurt. When sex is involved in the affair, not only are you sharing your physical and emotional interests, but your soul and mind becomes binded to the other person's soul and mind. Then you become attatched to the other person. And after that, the love that you once had for your mate begans to deteriorate. That is why so many people leave their husbands and wives to be with the person they had the affair with. Thus, all the emotional and physical needs are being exchanged and shared with the new lover. My advice to couples who have disputes and fights is to try to compromise your beliefs and differences. Be open-minded, and stay committed. It's not worth the pain of losing someone you love. It can work out if you dedicated your whole mind to it. Don't take my word for it. Ask other successful people who have made it over the obstacles in their marriage.
2006-07-06 00:18:43 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all does he love you? Really I don't believe a man really loves a woman if he cheats on her especially more than once. I find that to be the most disrespectful thing a man can do to a woman. Getting back at him the same way does not solve anything it only makes things worse because now he will use that against you as his excuse to continue to cheat on you. Men are funny like that, it is OK for them to do it but when we do it, well you should know. If you don't care that he doesn't respect you than stay with him and deal with it, but I wouldn't. As for the kids, he can continue to be a father to them, he doesn't need to live with you for that. No respect for you.No love for him. Having kids does not mean you have to live miserably along side a man who is not worth your time. Think about it this way, he is hurting you emotionally & mentally & who knows what kind of awfull STD he can bring home. Have some respect for your self and think about you and your kids first. Throw his clothes out the door and let one of his side chicks take care of him. He'll regret it later on, but it'll be too late. Be happy and take care.Good Luck.
2006-07-06 07:31:46 · answer #2 · answered by girlygirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay, I guess this is becoming my stock answer, but the thing is, none of us knows you both well enough to give you really worthy advice.
My stock answer: check out marriagebuilders web site. They have examples, and believe me, they cover every relational situation!
Whether your relationship will survive; none of us out here know. If the two of you want to continue together that's up to the two of you. You both have to understand there needs to be some changes, and if he knows he doesn't want to change, then you may want to make plans for your future!
Anyway, the info on their site will encourage you, if you want your heart to mend and if you want to stay together.
2006-07-06 07:17:41 · answer #3 · answered by calliegal55 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
be true to each other & STOP all the cheating
learn to love eachother again
if you truely care about eachother than show it
it will take A LONG time to fix the hurt that you
have caused oneanother, but it doesn't have to
be over unless one of you wants it to be
I think that the two of you should also go to
counceling for support & help
hope it all works out, Summer time Mom
2006-07-06 07:20:24 · answer #4 · answered by start 6-22-06 summer time Mom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, leave him. If you are in a relationship and you are disrespecting each other by cheating. Then separate and date others. Don't make a commitment if you want to sleep with others.
2006-07-06 07:25:16 · answer #5 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get together with LITHARIO and compare notes, I just answered the exact same question, try reading the responses on his
2006-07-06 07:55:10 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should start a new life without him. YOUR life. And don't say that you can't. I know plenty of women who did it and they had nothing. Now,They have lives they wish they would have started sooner. Get on with it. Don't waste any more time.
2006-07-06 07:22:09 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
haha..the questions are the same just the fact is, one is a women and the other is a man ....
2006-07-06 07:32:26 · answer #8 · answered by Shining StaR 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
very hard to regain trust you can check out the marriagebed.com
or christianitytoday.com but regaining what you had is probably impossible.
2006-07-06 07:24:55 · answer #9 · answered by msqtech 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think your husband just asked the same question or was it you under a different name...........
2006-07-06 07:29:11 · answer #10 · answered by jeff402006 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋