Well we had a good first date, he paid for the meal so i invited him out to say thank you for a second date. he said yes and we were due to go on date 2. i then texted him last week to see what days he could make and he replied on wednesday of last week that he did not know what days he could make yet as he started a new job and it was going horribly wrong and he was not happy. i replied that it was not a problem and it is now a week later and i have not heard from him. What to do? Shall i text again ? Shall I wait? I do think he is interested in me or at least being friends so his silence does baffle me somewhat. Is it possible work is really bad and he is just to busy or is it more likely that he is giving me the brush off in which case why 1) cant we just be friends we have mutual friends and we havent even kissed so no awkwardness or 2) did he say yes to the 2nd date in the first place if he didnt want to see me again. im so confused. advice please??
2006-07-05 22:34:26 · 14 answers · asked by confused 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Let him chase you! If you have to ask the guy out in the first place, this is the problem. This guy is probably not interested in you because he sensed you were interested in him! This is a mistake many girls make. Don't try to make sense out of why guys do this, it's the way we are! Play the game. Forget about this guy, but use my advise for the next. Think of yourself as prey. A dog wont chase a cat that's not running, will it?
2006-07-05 22:42:39 · answer #1 · answered by chessguy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The way i see it is
1) he is interested in you and is a) a player b) a nice guy but busy with work c) a genuine shy guy that is unsure how you feel
2) he is not interested and you are better off without him
I would go for one of the answers in my no 1). Hopefully b or c.
If he likes you he will contact you but if he has not in lets say 3 weeks from when you originally texted him then you shld either
1) leave it an move on
2) send a nice text saying how is work going and no more
he will either answer that and you can carry on as friends or more
or hell ignore you and you will have you ranswer that he wasa player or jst not interested
hope this helped
2006-07-06 06:45:28 · answer #2 · answered by a friendly therapist 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it could all be simpler than you realise
if hes started a new job he will be skint and wont be due his first payday for some time this is probably the reason he is avoiding you cos he doesnt want to be in a possition where you are the one paying for things it just gets awkward if youre on a date and the woman pays and it shouldnt feel like that but to us guys it does
i bet you anything as soon as he can smell his first payday youle be going on your second date day
gl anyway
2006-07-06 05:47:34 · answer #3 · answered by mrkeysandelectricalsuplies 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He could be busy? But from past experience men are just that, men, they all have their flaws, just like us woman. If it is a first date don't fret move on he probably was not worth the second date if he is that absent minded. Trust these words, another will come along, work on yourself don't look and Mr right will find you.
2006-07-06 05:42:48 · answer #4 · answered by invisible_4you 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't stress about it. He is really stressed at his new job and will contact you again when he feels more relaxed about work. You have to remember that men can only deal with one problem at a time. Woman can deal with many. Do your head a favour and just relax, have fun with your friends and he will get in touch with you - will be when you least expect it!
2006-07-06 05:59:13 · answer #5 · answered by Sasha 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a guy I would suggest you wait for a while. After a week then ring him and ask if everything is OK.
It could be that he just does not want to take things further or it could be that he is just very busy.
You need to talk to find out
Good luck
2006-07-06 06:16:20 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds to me like youv'e got nothing to loose, just text him saying that u hope hes ok and that work is getting bettter, and that u really enjoyed goin out with him and if hes not too busy or stressed, it would be great to meet up again. if he doesnt repond then its safe to say that maybe hes got too much on and that hes not interested. but at least either way you'll know whats what.
2006-07-06 05:46:52 · answer #7 · answered by plev66 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i wouldn't text him he must get some time off work or even a tea break it only takes 2 minutes to sent someone a text. yeah he might very well be busy i guess you'll never know! if he really wants u he'll come to u. don't chase him!
2006-07-06 06:29:12 · answer #8 · answered by blondebirdcrazy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
leave it...DO NOT TEXT HIM!!!!
i was in the same boat as you bout 7months ago!!!
i met this guy, i was texting him...he was texting me...we were meeting up...all of a sudden...he stopped texting me..i was thinking the excat same as you..so i never texted him and 2weeks later he texted me to say hi, and ask how i was...but...I DID NOT REPLY...i only replied when he sent the 2nd text message and we met up again and im still seeing him now...trust me...do this and he will be putty in your hands...
GOOD LUCK
2006-07-06 05:43:36 · answer #9 · answered by IrishLassie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would leave it until he texts you. If he wants to see you he'll get in touch. He knows you're interested so don't appear to be too needy.
2006-07-06 06:23:28 · answer #10 · answered by Mummy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋